If a girl recently told you that she was going on a date with someone else then you might be wondering why and what it might mean about the way that she feels about you.

This post will show you a number of reasons why she might have told you and why other girls might do it as well in the future.

So, why would a girl tell me she is going on a date? If she shows signs of attraction around you it would be more likely that she is doing it to get you to chase her or to show you that she does not want a serious relationship. If she doesn’t show signs of attraction it would be more likely that she was showing that she isn’t attracted to you.

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Since there are a number of reasons why a girl will tell you that she is going on a date it would help to consider the context of how she said it and the body language she shows around you.

Why a girl will tell you she is going on a date

Each of the different reasons why she told you that she was going on a date will likely come with a number of clues in the way that she did it and the body language she showed.

Below, I will mention a number of reasons why a girl will tell you she is going on a date, the signs to look for and the things to consider.

She is attracted to you

The reason that she told you she was going on a date could have been that she was showing attraction to you.

It could have been the case that she said it to make it seem like she is in more demand and to get you to chase her. This would be more likely if she said it specifically to you and if she has been showing interest in you.

She could also have said it because she is attracted to you but she is not looking for a serious relationship and telling you that she was seeing someone else was a way to show you that.

If she is attracted to you then it would be likely that she would show signs of attraction, in her body language, when she is around you.

These signs could include:

  • Brushing her hair when she sees you
  • Holding prolonged eye contact with you
  • Having dilated pupils when looking at you
  • Stroking her hair while talking to you
  • Pointing her feet at you
  • Asking you more questions and giving you more attention than she does to other people
  • Laughing and looking to see if you are also laughing
  • Laughing a lot at the things that you say
  • Glancing at you a lot and quickly looking away or smiling when you notice
  • Talking to you with a higher-pitched voice than she does with other people
  • Standing closer to you than she does with other people
  • Tilting her head while talking to you
  • Adjusting her appearance when she sees you

She wants to make you jealous

It could be the case that she told you that she would be going on a date specifically to make you jealous.

Again, this would likely be to get you to feel like you need to chase her more. It would also be more likely to be the reason if she shows signs of attraction around you and if she has a habit of accusing you or other people of things.

In this case, it would also be likely that she wasn’t actually going on a date with the guy and it would help to consider what their relationship tends to actually be like when you see them together.

She is not interested in you or she considers you a friend

The reason that she told you that she was going on a date with someone else could have been that she was showing that she was not interested in you.

This would be more likely if she doesn’t show any signs of attraction around you and if she did it when you were showing interest in her. It would also be more likely if she has been your friend for a while and if she shows the same body language around you as she does with other people.

If she is not interested in you then she might also show signs of disinterest in you as well such as:

  • Crossing her arms when she sees you
  • Squinting at you
  • Tightening her lips when you’re talking
  • Avoiding eye contact with you
  • Giving you short answers
  • Pointing her feet away from you

She was trying to make herself feel more in demand

It could be the case that she said it because she was trying to make herself feel like she is in more demand.

This would be more likely if she said it while you were with other people and if she also says similar things to other people a lot as well.

Consider the way that she reacts to seeing you

When trying to understand why she told you that she was going on a date with someone else it would help to consider how she reacts to seeing you.

If she shows positive or negative body language when she sees you then it would be a stronger sign that she has good or bad feelings about you.

If she reacts to seeing you by doing things such as:

  • Adjusting her appearance when she sees you
  • Brushing her hair to the side when she sees you
  • Pointing her feet at you
  • Positioning herself to be nearer to you
  • Holding eye contact with you

Then it would be more likely that she is attracted to you.

Whereas, if she reacts to seeing you by doing things such as:

  • Squinting
  • Crossing her arms
  • Avoiding eye contact
  • Pointing her feet away from you
  • Distancing herself from you

Then it would be more likely that she said it due to not being interested in you.

Consider when and where she told you

It would also help to consider the timing and location of when and where she told you that she would be going on a date with someone else.

If she told you while you were alone together or through text then it would make it more likely that she was doing it to make you chase her more or to show she doesn’t want a serious relationship.

Whereas, if she did it while you were both around other people it would be more likely that she was doing it to make herself seem more in demand.

Think about how she interacts with others

It would also help to compare the way that she interacts with other people with how she interacts with you.

If she shows the same body language around other people as with you and she says similar things to them then it would be more likely that she was showing that she considers you a friend.

Whereas, if she only said it to you and she shows signs of attraction that she doesn’t with other people then it would be more likely that she was doing it due to being attracted to you.

Look for a cluster of clues

When considering what her body language could have been suggesting it would help to consider a number of different signs at the same time.

She might show a single body language sign for multiple different reasons. This can make body language signs unreliable on their own. Whereas, if she was showing multiple body language signs of the same thing then it would be more likely that she was showing them for that reason.

If you want to learn more about body language, a book I would recommend would be The Definitive Book of Body Language (on Amazon). It shows you how to interpret body language and understand people's true intentions.

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