If a girl recently told you that a guy was hitting on her then you might be wondering why and what it might mean about the way that she feels about you.

This post will show you why she might have told you that another guy was hitting on her and why other girls might do it as well in the future.

So, why would a girl tell me another guy was hitting on her? If she shows signs of attraction around you then it would be likely that she was doing it to make herself seem more in demand and to get you to chase her. If she doesn’t then it would be more likely that it was a sign that she considers you a friend.

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Since there are a number of reasons why a girl will tell you that another guy was hitting on her it would be helpful to consider the body language she shows around you and the context of how she told you.

Why a girl will tell you a guy was hitting on her

Each of the different reasons why she told you that another guy was hitting on her will likely come with a number of clues in the way that she told you and in the body language that she showed.

Below, I will mention a number of reasons why a girl will tell you another guy was hitting on her, the signs to look for and the things to consider.

She likes you (she wants you to chase her)

The reason that she told you could have been that she is actually attracted to you and she was trying to get you to chase her.

The reason that it would be to get you to chase her is that it would make it seem like if you don’t make a move with her soon then some other guy will do it before you. This would be more likely to be the reason if she specifically told you about the guy hitting on her and not other people.

If she was doing it due to being attracted to you then it would be likely that she would show signs of attraction around you.

These signs could include doing things such as:

  • Brushing her hair to the side when she is around you
  • Stroking her hair while talking to you
  • Laughing and looking to see if you are also laughing
  • Laughing a lot at the things that you say
  • Standing closer to you than she does with other people
  • Holding prolonged eye contact with you
  • Having dilated pupils when with you
  • Pointing her feet at you
  • Asking your friends about you
  • Asking you the most questions and giving you the most attention
  • Tilting her head to the side while talking to you
  • Mirroring your own body language
  • Adjusting her appearance when she sees you
  • Glancing at you a lot and quickly looking away or smiling if you notice

She was trying to make you jealous

The reason that she told you could have been that she was trying to make you jealous.

Again, it would be likely that the reason she was trying to make you jealous was to get you to chase her assuming she shows signs of attraction when she is around you.

In this case, it would be less likely that the guy was actually hitting on her and it would help to consider whether or not you actually saw him doing it.

She considers you a friend or she isn’t interested in you

The reason that she did it could have been that she was showing that she was not attracted to you.

This would be more likely if she doesn’t show any signs of attraction around you, if she did it when you were showing interest in her and if she said it specifically to you.

If she is not interested in you then she might show it, in her body language, around you by doing things such as:

  • Squinting at you
  • Crossing her arms around you
  • Pointing her feet away from you
  • Having tight lips while you are talking
  • Avoiding eye contact with you

She was annoyed with him

It could have been the case that she was telling you because she was just annoyed with him.

This would be more likely if she was showing signs of not being interested in him when she was around him and if she tries to distance herself from him.

She was trying to make herself feel more in demand

The reason that she did it could be that she was trying to make herself feel like she is in more demand.

This would be more likely if she does it regularly to other people as well and if she said it to you while you were with other people.

Consider the way that she reacts to seeing you

When trying to understand how she feels about you and why she told you that another guy was hitting on her it would help to consider how she reacts to seeing you.

If she reacts to seeing you, by showing signs of attraction or disinterest, then it would be more likely that she has good or bad feelings about you.

If she reacts to seeing you by doing things such as:

  • Brushing her hair to the side
  • Adjusting her appearance
  • Pointing her feet at you
  • Holding eye contact
  • Standing or sitting with a straighter posture and uncrossing her arms

Then it would be more likely that she was showing attraction to you.

Whereas, if she reacts to seeing you by doing things such as:

  • Squinting
  • Crossing her arms
  • Tightening her lips
  • Avoiding eye contact
  • Pointing her feet away from you

Then it would be more likely that she was showing that she is not interested in you when she told you.

Consider how she interacts with other people

It would also likely be helpful to compare the way that she interacts with you with how she interacts with other people.

If she also tells other people about guys hitting on her and she shows the same body language around them as you then it would be more likely that it was a sign that she considers you a friend.

Whereas, if she only does it with you and she shows signs of attraction around you that she doesn’t with other people then it would be more likely that she was trying to get you to chase her.

Consider when and where she did it

It would also help to consider when and where she told you about getting hit on.

If she told you about it while she was with other people then it would be more likely that she was either annoyed with it or she was doing it to make herself feel more in demand.

If she did it while alone with you then it would be more likely that she was either trying to get you to chase her or to show that she was not interested in you.

Look for multiple signs in her body language

When considering what her body language could have been showing it would help to consider a number of different body language signs at the same time.

This is because she could have been showing a single body language sign for a number of different reasons making them unreliable on their own. But, if she was showing multiple signs that all suggested the same thing then it would be more likely that she was showing them for that reason.

If you want to learn more about body language, a book I would recommend would be The Definitive Book of Body Language (on Amazon). It shows you how to interpret body language and understand people's true intentions.

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