If a girl recently said yes to you and then she changed her mind you might be wondering why and what it might mean about the way that she feels about you.
This post will show you a number of reasons why she might have said yes then no and why other girls might do the same in the future.
So, what does it mean when a girl says yes then no? It could mean that she is seeing someone else, she had something come up, she is not interested in you, or that she doesn’t want to do what you were planning on. It would help to consider how she said yes and what her body language is like around you.
There are actually a number of reasons why a girl might say yes then no to you and there are a number of things to consider.
Why a girl will say yes then no to you
Each of the different reasons why a girl will say yes then no to you will likely come with a number of clues in the way that she does it and the body language that she shows around you.
Below, I will mention a number of reasons why a girl will say yes then no to you, the signs to look for and the things to consider.
She is seeing someone else
The reason that she changed her mind could be that she is seeing someone else.
If this is the reason then it would be likely that she would have been hesitant when she initially said yes, she might seem to go cold on you when certain people are around and you might have noticed her hanging out with another guy recently.
She had something come up
It could be the case that she simply had something come up preventing her from being able to go out with you.
If this was the case then it would be likely that she would have seemed enthusiastic when she said yes, she might have given a reason when she said no and she might have suggested another time to go out.
Even if she didn’t suggest another time to go out it could still be the case that she is interested in you. If she is then it would be likely that she would show signs of interest when she is around you.
These signs could include:
- Brushing her hair to the side when she is around you
- Stroking her hair when talking to you
- Holding prolonged eye contact with you
- Standing closer to you than she does with other people
- Touching you a lot
- Laughing and looking to see if you are also laughing
- Giggling a lot at the things that you say
- Adjusting her appearance when she sees you
- Having dilated pupils when looking at you (peoples pupils dilate when looking at someone that they are attracted to)
- Pointing her feet at you (people point their feet at people they are attracted to)
There are many signs of interest that a girl might show and I have written about many more of them in this blog post.
She is not that interested in you
The reason that she said no could be that she is not that interested in you.
This would be more likely if she seemed hesitant when she said yes, she doesn’t show signs of attraction around you and if she didn’t suggest another time when she said no.
She might also show signs of disinterest around you such as:
- Squinting when she sees you
- Tightening her lips when she sees you
- Smiling only at the mouth
- Pointing her feet away from you
- Looking to her friends a lot when talking to you
- Not asking you questions
She doesn’t want to do what you planned on doing
It could just be the case that she is not interested in what you wanted to do.
This would be more likely if she said so, if she gave an alternative thing to do and if she normally shows signs of attraction when she is around you.
Consider how she interacts around other people
When trying to figure out why she said yes then no it would help to consider how she interacts with other people and how it compares to her interactions with you.
If she shows the same body language around her other friends as with you then it would make it more likely that she sees you as a friend which is why she said no.
If her body language is different around you then it would make it more likely that she is either interested or not interested in you depending on the way that she changes her body language.
Consider how she acted when she said yes
It would also help to consider the way that she originally said yes.
If she seemed enthusiastic when she said yes then it would make it more likely that she is interested in you but she had something else come up. However, it could also be the case that she lost interest since then.
If she didn’t seem very enthusiastic then it would make it more likely that she later said no because she was not interested in going out with you but she didn’t want to say no.
Consider how she reacts to seeing you
It would also help to consider the way that she reacts to seeing you.
If she reacts to seeing you by noticeably changing her body language then it would make it more likely that she has good or bad feelings about you.
If she reacts to seeing you by doing things such as:
- Brushing her hair to the side
- Adjusting her appearance
- Raising her eyebrows and smiling
- Positioning herself to be nearer to you
- Seek eye contact with you
Then it would make it more likely that she is actually interested in you.
Whereas, if she reacts to seeing you by doing things such as:
- Tightening her lips
- Smiling only at the mouth
- Distancing herself
- Avoiding eye contact
Then it would make it more likely that she isn’t interested in you.
Look for a number of body language clues
When considering what her body language was showing it would help to consider multiple aspects of it at the same time.
This is because body language signs can have many different meanings. This makes body language signs unreliable on their own.
Whereas, if someone shows multiple body language signs that all suggest the same thing then it would make it more likely that they are showing them for that reason.
If you want to learn more about body language, a book I would recommend would be The Definitive Book of Body Language (on Amazon). It shows you how to interpret body language and understand people's true intentions.