If a girl recently said maybe to you then you might be wondering why and what it might mean about the way that she feels about you.
This post will show you a number of reasons why she might have said maybe and why other girls might do the same in the future.
So, why would a girl say maybe? It could be the case that she is not interested in you especially if she does not show signs of attraction around you. She might also be seeing someone else, think that she will be busy at that time or she might just not be interested in what you want to do.
There are a number of reasons why a girl might say maybe to you and there are a number of things to consider.
Why a girl will say maybe to you
Each of the different reasons why a girl will say maybe to you will likely come with a number of clues in the way that she does it and the body language that she shows.
Below, I will mention a number of reasons why a girl will say maybe to you, the signs to look for and the things to consider.
She is seeing someone else
The reason that she said maybe could be that she is interested in another guy and she is hoping that he will also ask her out.
This would be more likely if you have seen her around with another guy in the past, if she does show interest in you normally but she will sometimes go cold on you and if she acts differently around you depending on who she is with.
She is not interested in you
It might be the case that she said maybe because she is not interested in you but she didn’t want to make you feel like you were being rejected.
In this case, it would be more likely that she would not show signs of attraction around you (mentioned below), she would show similar body language around you like she does with her other friends and she might even show signs of disinterest around you.
Signs of disinterest that she might show around you could include:
- Squinting at you
- Smiling only at the mouth and not beside the eyes
- Standing further away from you than she does with other people
- Pointing her feet away from you
- Glancing at her friends a lot when she is around you
- Having tight lips when she sees you
- Giving you short answers and not trying to continue the conversation
She thinks that she will be busy
The reason that she said maybe could just be that she thinks that she will be busy when you wanted to go out with her.
If this is the case then she might have mentioned that she thinks she will be busy and she likely would not show signs of disinterest around you.
If she is interested in you then she might also suggest another time to hang out and she would likely show signs of attraction to you, in her body language, when around you such as:
- Brushing her hair to the side when she sees you
- Stroking her hair when talking to you
- Adjusting her appearance when she sees you
- Holding prolonged eye contact with you
- Laughing and looking to see if you are also laughing
- Giggling a lot at the things that you say
- Having dilated pupils when looking at you (peoples pupils become dilated when looking at someone that they are attracted to)
- Glancing at you a lot and smiling or quickly looking away when you notice
- Standing closer to you than she does with other people
- Touching you a lot
There are more signs of attraction that a girl might show and I have written about many more of them in this blog post.
She isn’t interested in what you want to do
The reason that she said maybe could simply be that she is not interested in what it is that you wanted to do.
If this was the case then she would likely show signs of attraction around you, she might have suggested doing something else and she might have asked what you wanted to do before she said maybe.
With that being said, it would suggest that she is not strongly interested in you since, if she was, then it would be more likely that she would have said yes anyway.
Consider when and where she said maybe
It would also help to consider the location that she said maybe to you in.
If you asked her out in front of her friends then it could be the case that she didn’t want to be seen saying yes in front of them. This would be more likely if she tends to show more signs of attraction in front of you.
If she said maybe when you were alone together then it would make it more likely that she was rejecting you but she didn’t want to say so. However, it could still be the case that she said it for a different reason so it would help to consider the body language that she was showing.
Consider how she reacts to seeing you
It would also help to consider the way that she reacts to seeing you when trying to figure out why she said maybe.
If she reacts to seeing you by noticeably changing her body language then it would make it more likely that she has good or bad feelings about you depending on the way that she does it.
If she reacts to seeing you by doing things such as:
- Brushing her hair to the side
- Seeking eye contact with you
- Adjusting her appearance
- Positioning herself to be nearer to you
- Facing her body towards you
Then it would make it more likely that she is interested in you and that she said maybe due to being busy.
Whereas, if she reacts to seeing you by doing things such as:
- Avoiding eye contact
- Facing away from you
- Only smiling at the mouth
- Tightening her lips
Then it would be more likely that she said maybe because she is not interested in you.
Consider the way that she interacts with her other friends
It would also help to compare the way that she interacts with her other friends with how she does with you.
If she shows similar body language around you as with her other friends and she also doesn’t give them definitive answers then it would make it more likely that she considers you as a friend.
If she shows different body language around you compared to when she is with her other friends then it would be more likely that she has good or bad feelings about you depending on how she changes her body language around you.
Consider multiple body language signs
When considering what her body language could be suggesting it would help to consider multiple signs.
A single body language sign will have multiple different meanings. This can make single body language signs unreliable on their own.
Whereas, it would be more likely that she would show multiple body language signs that all suggest the same thing for that exact reason.
If you want to learn more about body language, a book I would recommend would be The Definitive Book of Body Language (on Amazon). It shows you how to interpret body language and understand people's true intentions.