If a girl doesn’t look you in the eye then you might be wondering why and what it might mean about the way that she feels about you.

This post will show you a number of reasons why she might be doing it and why other girls might as well in the future.

So, what does it mean when a girl doesn’t look you in the eye? It could be a sign that she has some social anxiety especially if she also does it with other people. If she only does it with you then she might be attracted to you but shy, she might not like you or she might feel threatened by you. It would help to consider other signs that she shows.

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There are actually a number of reasons why she might not be holding eye contact with you and there are a number of things that you can consider.

Why a girl won’t look you in the eye

Each of the different reasons why she doesn’t hold eye contact with you will likely come with a number of clues in her body language and in the way that she does it.

Below, I will mention a number of reasons why a girl won’t look you in the eye, the signs to look for and the things to consider.

She is attracted to you

The reason that she does it could be that she is attracted to you but she is shy.

If this is the case then it would be likely that she would do it with you a lot more than she does it with other people and she would likely interact with you in a different way compared to with her other friends.

If she is attracted to you then she might show other signs of being attracted to you when she is around you.

These signs could include:

  • Brushing her hair to the side when she sees you
  • Stroking her hair when she is with you
  • Laughing and looking to see if you are also laughing
  • Laughing a lot at the things that you say
  • Glancing at you a lot
  • Watching you when you are around other girls
  • Pointing her feet at you (people point their feet towards people that they are attracted to)

She would also show signs of being nervous around you which are mentioned in the section below.

She is nervous

The reason that she avoids eye contact with you could be that she has some social anxiety.

If this is the case then it would be likely that she would also struggle to maintain eye contact with other people as well and that she would show similar body language around other people as she does with you.

It would also be likely that she would show other signs of being nervous around you and other people as well such as:

  • Rubbing her face, neck or arms
  • Fidgeting
  • Having a dry mouth
  • Tapping the fingers and feet
  • Pacing
  • Rocking back and forth

She doesn’t like you

The reason that she avoids eye contact with you could be that she does not like you.

This would be more likely if she started doing it after something happened that would cause her to be annoyed with you, she only does it with you and if she used to look you in the eye in the past.

It would also be more likely if she shows signs of being annoyed with you when she is around you such as:

  • Squinting at you
  • Tensing her jaw when looking at you
  • Tightening her lips when she sees you
  • Furrowing her eyebrows
  • Avoiding talking to you
  • Standing further away from you than she does with other people

She feels threatened by you

People will often avoid eye contact when they feel threatened and this could be the reason that she does it with you.

This would be more likely if you come across as being threatening at times and if she only does it with you.

It would also be more likely if she does things such as:

  • Distance herself from you
  • Make the body appear smaller around you
  • Look down a lot around you
  • Giggle a lot when around you without showing other signs of attraction
  • Rub her face, neck or arms
  • Avoid large movements

Consider whether or not she looks other people in the eye

When trying to figure out why she doesn’t look you in the eye it would help to consider whether or not she looks other people in the eye.

If she does look other people in the eye and she shows different body language around you then it would make it more likely that she has good or bad feelings towards you. It would help to consider whether or not she shows distancing behaviors around you or signs of being attracted to you.

If she doesn’t look other people in the eye then it would suggest that she has some social anxiety and that she doesn’t have good or bad feelings towards you in particular.

Consider how she reacts to seeing you

It would also help to consider how she reacts to seeing you.

If she reacts upon seeing you by changing her body language then it would make it more likely that she has good or bad feelings about you.

If she reacts to seeing you by doing things such as:

  • Adjusting her appearance
  • Brushing her hair to the side
  • Adjusting her posture
  • Pointing her feet at you
  • Raising her eyebrows

Then it would be more likely that she has positive feelings towards you.

Whereas, if she reacts by doing things such as:

  • Squinting
  • Distancing herself
  • Pointing her feet away from you
  • Making the body appear smaller

Then it would suggest that she has more negative feelings towards you.

Consider when and where she doesn’t look you in the eye

It would also help to consider when and where she avoids eye contact with you.

If she always avoids eye contact with you then it would make it more likely that she does it naturally but she could still be doing it for any of the reasons mentioned above.

If she only seems to avoid eye contact with you sometimes then it would make it more likely that she either does it due to having some social anxiety or she feels uncomfortable around another person that you hang out with.

Consider multiple aspects of her body language

When considering what her body language could be suggesting it would be helpful to consider multiple aspects of it at the same time.

This is because, as we have seen with avoiding eye contact, single body language signs can have many different meanings. This makes single body language signs unreliable on their own.

Whereas, it would be more likely that she would show multiple body language signs that all suggest the same thing for that specific reason.

If you want to learn more about body language, a book I would recommend would be The Definitive Book of Body Language (on Amazon). It shows you how to interpret body language and understand people's true intentions.

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