If a certain girl won’t initiate a conversation with you then you might be wondering why and what it might mean about the way that she feels about you.

This post will show you why she might not do it and why other guys might not in the future either.

So, what does it mean when a girl doesn’t initiate a conversation? It could be that she doesn’t think you like her, is annoyed with you, thinks you’re annoyed with her, is attracted to you but nervous or she doesn’t consider you a friend. It would help to consider previous interactions with her and body language she shows around you.

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There are actually a number of reasons why she might not start conversations with you and there are a number of things that you can consider.

Why a girl won’t initiate a conversation with you

Each of the different reasons why a girl won’t initiate a conversation with you will likely come with a number of clues in the way that she acts around you and the body language she shows.

Below, I will mention a number of reasons why a girl won’t initiate a conversation with you, the signs to look for and the things to consider.

She doesn’t think that you like her

One reason that she might not start conversations with you is that she might think that you do not like her.

This would be more likely if you have not started a conversation with her yourself, if you have acted like you don’t like her and if you both hang around with the same people and she starts conversations with them.

If she does think that you do not like her then she might show distancing body language around you by doing things such as:

  • Sitting further away from you
  • Avoiding eye contact with you
  • Pointing her feet away from you
  • Standing further away from you than she does with other people

She thinks that you are annoyed with her

She might also think that you are annoyed with her.

This would be more likely if she used to start conversations with you but she suddenly stopped. It would be even more likely if something happened recently that might cause her to think that you are annoyed with her. If she does think that you are annoyed with her then she might show distancing behaviors such as those mentioned above.

She is annoyed with you

Alternatively, she might be the one that is annoyed with you.

This would be more likely if she used to initiate conversations with you but something recently happened that would cause her to be annoyed with you.

If she is annoyed with you then she might show it in other ways by doing things such as:

  • Squinting at you
  • Tightening her lips around you
  • Furrowing her eyebrows around you
  • Tensing her jaw when looking at you
  • Avoiding eye contact with you
  • Distancing herself from you

She likes you but she is nervous

It could be the case that she is actually attracted to you but she is too shy to talk to you.

This would be more likely if she has no reason to be annoyed with you and if she interacts with other people in a different way compared to with you.

If she is attracted to you then it would be likely that she would show signs of being attracted to you when she is around you by doing things such as:

  • Brushing her hair to the side when she sees you
  • Adjusting her appearance when she sees you
  • Positioning herself to be nearer to you
  • Pointing her feet at you (people point their feet at people that they are attracted to)
  • Having dilated pupils when looking at you (peoples pupils dilate when looking at someone they are attracted to)
  • Laughing and looking to see if you are also laughing
  • Glancing at you a lot and quickly looking away if you notice

She wants you to be the one to make the first move

It could be the case that she does want to talk to you but she wants you to be the one to talk to her first.

Girls will often not want to be the first one to make a move so it will make it more likely that she wants you to do it if you have not done so already.

If she does want you to be the first one to make a move then it would be likely that she would show signs of attraction when around you such as those mentioned above.

She doesn’t consider you a friend

It could be the case that she doesn’t initiate conversations with you because she doesn’t feel like she knows you well enough.

This would be more likely if you have not spoken to each other much in the past and if her body language is neutral towards you.

Consider how she reacts to seeing you

Thinking about the way that she reacts to seeing you could help in figuring out why she doesn’t start conversations with you.

If she reacts to seeing you by showing positive or negative body language then it would make it more likely that she has good or bad feelings about you.

If she reacts to seeing you by doing things such as:

  • Adjusting her appearance
  • Brushing her hair to the side
  • Raising her eyebrows momentarily
  • Glancing at you a lot
  • Positioning herself to be nearer to you

Then it would make it more likely that she has positive feelings towards you.

If she reacts to seeing you by doing things such as:

  • Squinting
  • Tensing her jaw
  • Tightening her lips
  • Furrowing her eyebrows
  • Avoiding eye contact

Then it would make it more likely that she has negative feelings towards you.

Consider how well you know her

It would also help to consider how well you know her.

If you know her well then it will make it more likely that she is annoyed with you especially if she shows body language signs of being annoyed with you. She might also think that you are annoyed with her.

If you don’t know her well then it will make it more likely that she either just doesn’t consider you friends or that she does like you but she is too nervous to talk to you.

Consider how she interacts with other people

It would also help to compare how she interacts with other people with how she interacts with you.

If she interacts with other people similarly to how she does with you and she shows the same body language around them then it would make it more likely that she doesn’t initiate conversations naturally.

Whereas, if she does start conversations with other people and she shows different body language around you then it would be more likely that she has good or bad feelings about you depending on how she changes it.

Consider multiple body language signs

When considering what her body language could be suggesting it would help to consider multiple body language signs at the same time.

A single body language sign will often have multiple different meanings making them unreliable on their own.

Whereas, it would be more likely that she would show multiple body language signs of the same thing for that specific reason.

If you want to learn more about body language, a book I would recommend would be The Definitive Book of Body Language (on Amazon). It shows you how to interpret body language and understand people's true intentions.

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