If a guy has been seeming to distance himself from you then you might be wondering why and what it might mean about the way that he feels about you.

This post will show you a number of reasons why he might distance himself from you and why other guys might do the same in the future.

So, why would a guy distance himself? It could be that he lost interest in you if he used to show more interest. He might also be annoyed with you, be feeling sad, do it naturally, or he might think that you do not like him yourself. He could also be attracted to you but not want to look bad in front of you.

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There are actually a number of reasons that a guy might be acting distant and there are a number of things that you can consider when trying to understand why he might be doing it.

Why a guy would act distant around you

Each of the different reasons why he might be acting distant around you will likely come with a number of clues in the way that he does it and the body language that he shows.

Below, I will mention a number of reasons why a guy might act distant around you, the signs to look for and the things to consider.

He is attracted to you

The reason that he acts distant around you might be that he is attracted to you. If he is attracted to you then he might either not want you to know that he is, he might want you to show interest first or he might be nervous that you will not like him.

This would be more likely if he only seems to be acting distant to you and if he shows different body language around you compared to what he does with other people.

If he is attracted to you then it would be likely that he would show some signs of attraction when he is around you by doing things such as:

  • Holding prolonged eye contact with you
  • Asking you the most questions
  • Keeping his focus on you when multiple people are talking
  • Glancing at you a lot
  • Adjusting his appearance when he sees you
  • Touching you a lot
  • Standing closer to you than he does with other people
  • Pointing his feet at you (people often point their feet at people that they are attracted to)
  • Watching you and getting anxious when you are around other men
  • Getting defensive when other men are with you both
  • Having dilated pupils when looking at you (people’s pupils will often become more dilated when looking at someone that they are attracted to)

There are more signs of attraction that a guy might show around you and I have written about more of them in this blog post.

He doesn’t think that you are interested in him

The reason that he acts distant around you might be that he thinks that you do not like him yourself.

This would be more likely if he only seems to be acting distant with you and if he seems to show different body language around you.

If he does think that you do not like him then he might show signs of being anxious, when he is around you, by doing things such as:

  • Rubbing his face, arms, neck or legs
  • Fidgeting a lot
  • Tapping his fingers and feet a lot
  • Coughing or having a dry mouth

If he does think that you don’t like him then it could still be the case that he is attracted to you. If he is then it would be likely that he would show some signs of attraction when he is around you.

He is not attracted to you

The reason that he acts distant around you might be that he is not attracted to you and he doesn’t want to give you the impression that he is. Alternatively, it could be the case that he was interested in you but he has lost interest.

This would be more likely if he initially was showing a lot of interest in you but he started to show less interest in you over time. It would also be more likely if he doesn’t show many signs of attraction around you.

He might also show distancing body language around you by doing things such as:

  • Avoiding eye contact
  • Pointing his feet away from you
  • Standing further away from you, when talking to you, than he does with other people
  • Smiling at you with a closed mouth and not smiling beside the eyes
  • Giving you short answers

He is annoyed with you

It could be the case that he has been acting distant around you because he is annoyed with you or someone/something else.

This would be more likely if he doesn’t normally act distant around you but he suddenly started doing it after something happened that could have caused him to be annoyed with you.

If he was annoyed with you then he might have shown it by doing things such as:

  • Squinting
  • Facing away from you
  • Smiling with a closed mouth
  • Tightening his lips
  • Distancing himself
  • Avoiding eye contact

He is seeing someone else

The reason that he has started to act distant might be that he is seeing someone else.

This would be more likely if he suddenly started to act distant, he has been avoiding seeing you, he has not been responding to texts as quickly as he used to and if he has been giving excuses to not hang out.

He is feeling sad

He might have started to act distant because he has been feeling sad.

This would be more likely if he started doing it after something happened that would cause him to become sad.

If he was sad then he might have shown signs of it by doing things such as:

  • Drooping the shoulders
  • Looking down a lot
  • Speaking with a flat speech tone
  • Making the body appear smaller
  • Sniffing a lot
  • Watery eyes

He isn’t actually distancing himself

It might be the case that he isn’t actually distancing himself from you. Rather, it could be the case that it is how he acts naturally.

This would be more likely if he also seems to act in a similar way with other people and if he sees to show the same body language around them as with you.

If he does act that way naturally then it could still be the case that he is attracted to you. If he is then it would be more likely that he would show signs of being attracted to you, in his body language, when he is around you.

Consider the way that he reacts to seeing you

When trying to understand why he acts distant around you it would help to consider the way that he reacts to seeing you.

If he, noticeably, changes his body language and behavior, when he sees you, then it would make it more likely that he has particularly good or bad feelings about you.

If he reacts to seeing you by doing things such as:

  • Adjusting his appearance
  • Adjusting his posture
  • Facing towards you (especially with his feet)
  • Holding eye contact with you
  • Moving closer to you
  • Having more dilated pupils

Then it would make it more likely that he is attracted to you.

Whereas, if he reacts to seeing you by doing things such as:

  • Squinting
  • Facing away from you
  • Smiling with a closed mouth
  • Tightening his lips
  • Distancing himself
  • Avoiding eye contact

Then it would be more likely that he has negative feelings towards you in some way.

Consider how he interacts with other people

It would also help to compare the way that he interacts with you with how he interacts with other people.

If he shows the same body language around you as he does with his friends then it would make it more likely that he acts that way naturally.

Whereas, if he only seems to be acting distant with you and his body language is different with you then it would make it more likely that he has particularly good or bad feelings about you depending on the body language he shows.

Consider multiple body language signs

When trying to understand what his body language might be showing it would help to consider multiple aspects of it at the same time.

The reason for this is that a single body language sign will often have many different possible meanings. This can cause body language signs to be less reliable when they are shown on their own.

On the other hand, if someone shows a cluster of body language signs that all suggest the same thing then it would be more likely that they are showing them for that specific reason.

If you want to learn more about body language, a book I would recommend would be The Definitive Book of Body Language (on Amazon). It shows you how to interpret body language and understand people's true intentions.

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