If a girl has been acting uncomfortable around you then you might be wondering why and what it means about the way that she feels about you.

This post will show you a number of reasons why she might feel uncomfortable around you and why other girls might do the same in the future.

So, why would a girl feel uncomfortable around me? It could be that she doesn’t think you like her or that she feels threatened by you if she shows distancing behaviors and she only does it to you. She might also be attracted to you if she only does it to you and she shows signs of attraction. Alternatively, she might have some social anxiety.

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There are actually a number of reasons why a girl might act nervous around you and there are a number of things to consider when trying to figure out why she does it.

Why a girl would feel uncomfortable around you

Each of the different reasons why she might feel uncomfortable around you will likely come with a number of clues in the way that she does it and the body language that she shows.

Below, I will mention a number of reasons why a girl will act nervous around you, the signs to look for and the things to consider.

She is attracted to you

The reason that she gets uncomfortable around you might be that she is attracted to you.

This would be more likely if she only does it around you and not other people as well and if she doesn’t show distancing behaviors (mentioned below).

If she is attracted to you then she will likely show other signs of being attracted to you, when she is around you, such as:

  • Brushing her hair to the side when she sees you or when she is near you
  • Stroking her hair when talking to you
  • Pointing her feet at you (people point their feet at people that they are attracted to)
  • Adjusting her appearance when she sees you
  • Having dilated pupils when looking at you (peoples pupils dilate when looking at someone they are attracted to)
  • Laughing and looking to see if you are also laughing
  • Giggling a lot at the things that you say
  • Watching you when you are with other girls

There are more signs of attraction that she might show around you and I have written about more of them in this blog post.

She feels threatened by you

It could be the case that she does it because she feels threatened by you or people that you hang out with.

If this is the case then she would likely only act comfortable around you or only when you are also with certain other people.

If she does feel threatened by you then she would also likely show distancing or submissive signs as well such as:

  • Avoiding eye contact
  • Making the body appear smaller
  • Distancing herself from you
  • Pointing her feet away from you
  • Laughing a lot with the mouth and not the eyes

She thinks that you do not like her

The reason that she gets uncomfortable around you could be that she thinks that you do not like her.

This would be more likely if you have not shown interest in her in the past or if she showed interest in you in the past but you didn’t show any back.

If she does think that you do not like her then it would be likely that she would show distancing body language around you by doing things such as:

  • Avoiding eye contact
  • Pointing her feet away from you
  • Standing further away from you
  • Looking at her friends a lot when talking to you

She has some social anxiety

It might also be the case that she does it because she has some social anxiety.

This would be more likely if she also acts in a similar way around other people as well. She might also become less uncomfortable around you when there are not many other people around.

If she does get uncomfortable when she is around other people as well then it could still be the case that she is attracted to you. If she is then it would be likely that she would show some signs of attraction, when she is around you, as mentioned above.

She is not interested in you

The reason that she does it might be that she is not interested in you and she doesn’t want to give you the impression that she is.

This would be more likely if she started doing it after you showed interest in her.

If she does do it because she is not interested in you then it would be likely that she would also do things such as:

  • Avoid eye contact with you
  • Smile only at the mouth and not beside the eyes
  • Stand further away from you than she does with other people
  • Point her feet away from you
  • Look at her friends a lot when talking to you
  • Give you short answers and not continue the conversation

Consider how she interacts with her other friends

When trying to figure out why she gets uncomfortable around you it would help to compare the way that she interacts with you with how she interacts with other people.

If she also seems to get uncomfortable around other people, in the same way, and she shows the same body language around them as she does with you then it would be more likely she has some social anxiety.

If she only does it around you then it would be more likely that she has good or bad feelings about you depending on how she does it.

Consider the way that she reacts to seeing you

It would also help to consider the way that she reacts to seeing you.

If she reacts to seeing you by changing her body language a lot then it would be more likely that she has particularly good or bad feelings about you.

If she reacts to seeing you by doing things such as:

  • Adjusting her appearance
  • Brushing her hair to the side
  • Moving closer to you
  • Facing towards you

Then it would be more likely that she is attracted to you.

Whereas, if she reacts to seeing you by doing things such as:

  • Avoiding looking at you
  • Facing away from you
  • Squinting
  • Tightening her lips
  • Moving further away

Then it would be more likely that she does it because she has negative feelings towards you.

Consider when and where she gets uncomfortable

It would also help to consider when and where she does it.

If she only seems to get uncomfortable around you when certain people are around then it could be the case that she does it because of them.

If she always seems to get uncomfortable around you then she might do it for any of the reasons mentioned above. It would help to consider when she started getting uncomfortable around you, how she interacts with her friends, the body language she shows and how she reacts to seeing you.

Consider multiple body language signs

When trying to figure out what she might be suggesting with her body language it would help to consider multiple body language signs.

A single body language sign can have many different meanings. This can make single body language signs unreliable on their own.

On the other hand, if she shows multiple body language signs that all suggest the same thing then it would be more likely that she is showing them for that reason.

If you want to learn more about body language, a book I would recommend would be The Definitive Book of Body Language (on Amazon). It shows you how to interpret body language and understand people's true intentions.

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