If your boyfriend has started to call you baby then you might be wondering why and what it might mean.
This post will help you understand why he might be calling you baby.
So, what does it mean when your boyfriend calls you baby? It could be that he thinks it’s a normal thing for a guy to call his girlfriend which would be more likely if his friends also say it. He might say it naturally, to see how you’ll react, it could be a sign he’s hiding something or he might do it as a power-play.
Since there are a number of reasons why your boyfriend might call you baby it is important to consider the body language he shows and the context in which he says it.
Reasons why your boyfriend might call you baby
Each of the different reasons why your boyfriend might call you baby will likely come with a number of clues in his behavior and body language.
Below, I will mention a number of reasons why a guy will call you baby and the body language and behavior clues that you could expect to see with them.
He thinks that it’s normal for a guy to call his girlfriend baby
Baby is a term of endearment that guys will often refer to their girlfriends with.
If your boyfriend only calls you baby, he says it when he is showing normal body language and says it often then it would be more likely that he considers it a normal way for a boyfriend to refer to his girlfriend.
If this is the case then it would be more likely that it is clear that he is your boyfriend and that it’s not in an in-between stage where your relationship status isn’t clear.
He says it to all women
It might be the case that he calls all women baby when talking to them.
If that is the case then it would be likely that you would see him calling other women baby as well.
If he does call other women baby then it might be a sign that he is attracted to her.
If he is then it would be likely that he would show signs of attraction in his body language which could include:
- Mirroring her body language
- Standing close to her when talking to her
- Staring at her then looking away if she notices
- Pointing his feet at her
- His pupils become more dilated around her
- Showing signs of anxiety when you’re both around her such as rubbing the arms, neck, legs or face, fidgeting or talking at a different pitch
- He doesn’t want you to meet her
- He avoids talking about her
- He holds prolonged eye contact with her
He wants to see the way that you’ll react
The reason that he called you baby could be that he wanted to see how you would react.
The reason that he wanted to see how you would react could be that he is unsure whether or not you are in a relationship together and he wanted to see if you would react positively.
If that is the case then it would be likely that he would have said it once, he would have seemed to have an observant appearance when he said it and that you have been dating each other for a while.
He’s hiding something from you
The reason that he calls you baby could be that he is anxious and that he is trying to hide something from you.
If that is the case then it would be more likely that he would only say it at certain times such as when talking about certain topics and that he would also show other signs of anxiousness such as:
- Rubbing his face, arms, neck or legs
- Scratching his neck
- Speaking at a different pitch
- Changing the subject
- Dry mouth
He’s doing it as a power-play
The reason that he calls you baby could be that he does it as a power-play.
If that is the case then it would be more likely that he would call you baby when you’re with other people, when telling you to do something and that he would say it with a deeper voice.
It would also be likely that he would show some other signs of dominating behavior in his body language which could include:
- Touching you often
- Telling you to do things
- Squinting when looking at you
- Having tight lips when you’re talking
- Standing and sitting with a stance that makes his body appear to be larger
- Taking up lots of space
- Tensing the jaw when looking at you
- Talking at a deeper pitch
Consider the way that he reacts to seeing you
When trying to understand how he feels about you it would be helpful to consider the way that he reacts to seeing you.
If he reacts to seeing you by sitting upright, uncrossing his arms and legs, adjusting his clothing or hair, raising his eyebrows and smiling, his pupils dilate and he makes space for you then it would be a positive sign and more likely that he calls you baby naturally.
Whereas, if he crosses his arms and legs, tightens his lips, clenches his jaw, squints, avoids eye contact, points his feet away from you and gives a non-genuine smile where he doesn’t crease beside the eyes then it would be more likely that he has negative feelings about something.
Consider Multiple aspects of his body language
When considering his body language it would be helpful to consider multiple aspects of it.
If he only shows one body language sign of something then it wouldn’t be a very strong sign since he might be showing it for many different reasons.
Whereas, if he shows multiple body language signals that all suggest the same thing then it would be more likely that he is showing them for that exact reason.
Consider how old the relationship is
When trying to understand why your boyfriend calls you baby it would be helpful to consider how old the relationship is.
If he has been your boyfriend for a while then it would be more likely that he naturally says it because he considers it a normal way to refer to his girlfriend.
Whereas, if he says it while you are still dating then it would be more likely that he is saying it either because he thinks that you’re his girlfriend or he wants to see how you’ll react to it.
Consider when he says it
It would also be helpful to consider when he tends to call you baby.
If he tends to call you baby when you’re talking about a certain topic then it would be more likely that he would be saying it due to feeling anxious. It would help to consider if he shows other signs of anxiety when saying it as well.
If he says it when he is showing normal body language then it would be more likely that he naturally says it to you since he considers it a normal term of endearment.
If he only seems to say it in front of other people then it would be more likely that he does it as a power-play and you should consider whether or not he shows other dominating behaviors in his body language.
If you want to learn more about body language, a book I would recommend would be The Definitive Book of Body Language (on Amazon). It shows you how to interpret body language and understand people's true intentions.