If your boyfriend recently told you that he adores you then you might be wondering why he said it.

This post will help you understand the possible reasons why he said that he adores you.

So, what does it mean when a guy says that he adores you? He might say it because he is trying to show that he loves you. However, he could also say it because he is hiding something from you, he doesn’t want to say that he loves you, he wants to see your reaction or he might have been being condescending.

Since there are a number of reasons why a guy might say that he adores his girlfriend it is important to consider the context of how he said it and the body language that he showed.

By doing so you’ll be able to get a better understanding of why he said that he adores you.

Reasons why your boyfriend said that he adores you

Each of the different reasons why your boyfriend might say that he adores you will likely come with a number of clues in his body language and behavior.

Below, I will mention a number of reasons why your boyfriend might say that he adores you and the body language and behavior that you can expect to see with them.

He loves you

The reason that he said that he adores you could be that he was implying that he is very much in love with you.

If that is why he said it then it would be likely that he shows positive body language around you and that he has been your boyfriend for a while now. It would also be more likely that he said it when showing normal body language around you.

If it is why he said that he adores you then it would also be likely that he would show strong signs of being attracted to you in his body language and behavior when he is with you.

These signs could include:

  • Mirroring your body language
  • Showing his palms around you
  • Having dilated pupils when he is with you
  • Holding prolonged eye contact with you
  • Pointing his feet at you
  • A lack of negative body language signs such as squinting, having tight lips or tensing the jaw
  • Touching your feet with his
  • Touching you a lot
  • Making plans based on yours

He was referring to your personality

The reason that he said that he adores you could be that he meant that he really likes your personality and perhaps that your personality is adorable.

If that is why he said it then it would be more likely that he would have said “you’re adorable” rather than that he adores you.

It could also be the case that he was referring to your personality and also showing that he loves you. If that is the case then it would be more likely that he has been your boyfriend for a while and that he shows a number of the signs of attraction mentioned above when around you.

He’s hiding something

The reason that he said that he adores you could be that he was trying to hide something.

This would be more likely to be the reason that he said it if you were talking about something that might make him anxious, if he rarely says that he adores you and if other aspects of his body language were different.

It would also be likely that he would have been showing signs of anxiousness in his body language around you which could include:

  • Rubbing the arms, face, neck or legs
  • Talking at a higher pitch
  • Scratching the neck
  • Coughing
  • Dry mouth
  • Fidgeting
  • Avoiding eye contact

He doesn’t want to say that he loves you

The reason that he said that he adored you might be that he didn’t want to say that he loves you.

This would be more likely to be the reason if you had just said to him that you love him and if your relationship is still quite new.

In this case, it would also be likely that he would have shown some signs of anxiousness when he said that he adored you.

He wants to see your reaction

The reason that he said that he adores you could be that he wanted to see the way that you would react.

The reason that he wanted to see your reaction could be that he wanted to see if you are happy in the relationship with him and that you would say something similar back.

It could also be the case that he thinks that you are not happy in the relationship and that he said it to see if you are. This would be more likely if he has been asking questions about the relationship lately.

He’s being condescending

If he said “you’re adorable” then the reason that he said it could be that he was being condescending.

If he was then it would be more likely that he would have said it when disagreeing with you, after you had made a suggestion or that he would have said it with a sarcastic tone.

If he was being condescending then it would be likely that he would have shown signs of it in his body language such as:

  • Pointing his chin up and looking down at you
  • Smirking at you
  • Not taking your suggestions seriously
  • Crossing his arms when you’re talking
  • Not including you in certain discussions

Consider the way that he reacts to seeing you

When trying to understand the way that he feels about you it would be helpful to consider the way that he reacts to seeing you.

If he changes his body language and behavior when he sees you then it would be a strong sign that he has positive or negative feelings for you.

If he reacts by uncrossing his arms, making space for you, raising his eyebrows and smiling, sitting upright, adjusting his appearance, his pupils dilate and he holds eye contact with you then it would be a positive sign and more likely that he said that he adores you for a positive reason.

Whereas, if he reacts by rubbing his face, neck, legs or arms, scratching his neck, hiding his palms, his pupils constrict, he faces his feet away from you, he avoids looking at you and he tightens his lips and squints then it would be more likely that he said it for a negative reason.

Consider how old the relationship is

The age of the relationship will have an impact on the most likely reason that he said that he adores you.

If he has been your boyfriend for a while then it would be more likely that he said it because he was showing that he really loves you, he was trying to avoid saying that he loves you or that he was hiding something in some way. It would be helpful to consider if he was showing signs of being anxious to get a better idea of why he said it.

If he has not been your boyfriend for a long time then it would be more likely that he was either referring to your personality or to see how you feel about him.

Consider multiple aspects of his body language

When considering his body language when trying to understand why he said that he adores you it would be helpful to consider multiple aspects of his body language.

If he only shows one body language sign that he wouldn’t normally then it would be difficult to judge why since he could be showing it for many different reasons.

Whereas, if he shows multiple body language signs that he normally wouldn’t then it would be more likely that he is showing them for a certain reason and you should consider their meaning when considered together.

If you want to learn more about body language, a book I would recommend would be The Definitive Book of Body Language (on Amazon). It shows you how to interpret body language and understand people's true intentions.

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