If a guy recently said that he has mixed feelings for you, this post will show you likely reasons why and what would make them more likely.
So, what does it mean when a guy says he has mixed feelings? Likely reasons why a guy will say that he has mixed feelings are that he is seeing other women, he is not very interested in you, or that he is actually doing it on purpose to raise your interest in him.
There are a number of possible reasons why a guy would say it but there are some things you can consider to help figure out the main cause.
What does it mean when a guy says he has mixed feelings?
Below are likely reasons why a guy will say that he has mixed feelings and what would make them more likely.
He is seeing other women
The cause could be that he is seeing other women. This would be more likely if you have seen him with other women, he often hesitates to agree to meeting up with you or he has said that he is seeing other women.
He is not sure where he will be in the future
It might also be the case that he is not sure that he is ready for a relationship. This would be more likely if he is likely to be moving away soon, he has recently left a relationship, or if he has said that he is not ready for one.
He likes being single
It might also be the case that he is not sure that he is ready for a relationship. This would be more likely if he is likely to be moving away soon, he has recently left a relationship, or if he has said that he is not ready for one.
He is not sure about you
It is also possible that he is not highly interested in you. This would be more likely if he often does not want to hang out with you, he takes a long time to respond to your messages, he rarely starts the conversation and he does not show a lot of interest in person.
He is doing it on purpose
Sometimes, guys will say things like having mixed feelings on purpose to make you think about them more and to get you to try and chase their validation. It could be the case that he has been doing it to you on purpose. This would be more likely if he does show interest in you eventually.
In this case, it would be likely that he would show signs of being interested in you, in his body language by doing things such as:
- Pupil dilation when talking to you
- Pointing his feet towards you
- Talking to you more than others
- Asking your friends about you
- Maintaining a longer duration of eye contact
- Touching you the most
- Mirroring your body language and behavior
- Standing at a closer proximity to you
- Following you around
- Giving lots of glances your way
- Speaking with a deeper voice than normal around you
- Getting anxious when you’re with other men
Things to consider
Below are some things to consider to help figure out the main cause.
How he reacts when he sees you
To help figure out the way he feels about you, it would help to consider the way he reacts when he sees you.
If he reacts to seeing you by doing things such as:
- Adjusting his appearance
- Holding eye contact with you
- Moving closer to you
- Adjusting his posture
- Facing towards you (especially with his feet)
It would be likely that he is interested in you.
Whereas, if he reacts to seeing you by doing things such as:
- Avoiding eye contact
- Crossing his arms
- Moving away
- Squinting
- Tensing the jaw
Then it would be more likely that he is annoyed with you.
How he behaves with other people
It would also help to compare the way that he interacts with you with how he interacts with other people.
If he shows different body language with you than he does with his other friends and he does things such as look at you the most, stand nearest to you or get jealous when you talk to other men, it would be more likely he is attracted to you.
Whereas, if he interacts with you in the same way he does with his other friends, it would be more likely that he considers you a friend and he is not actually trying to be hot and cold.
Multiple signs
When considering his body language, it would help to consider multiple signs at a time. The reason for this is that a single body language sign is not very reliable by itself. However, multiple signs that all suggest the same thing are a lot more reliable.
If you want to learn more about body language, a book I would recommend would be The Definitive Book of Body Language (on Amazon). It shows you how to interpret body language and understand people's true intentions.
