If you have noticed that a certain guy avoids looking at you, you’re probably wondering why and what it might mean.
This post will help you figure out why the guy might avoid looking at you and help you figure out its meaning as it happens in the future.
So, what does it mean when a guy avoids looking at you? It could be that he is attracted to you but nervous especially if he only does it with you and he shows other signs of attraction around you. It might also be that he is being submissive, he has some social-anxiety, he’s sad, he’s annoyed with you or he doesn’t want to tell you something.
Seeing as there are a number of different reasons why a guy will avoid looking at you it is important to consider the body language signals that he shows around you.
By doing so you’ll be able to get a better understanding of the motivations that he has behind avoiding looking at you.
Why a guy will avoid looking at you
Each of the different reasons why a guy will avoid looking at you will likely come with a number of clues in his body language.
Below, I will mention a number of reasons why a guy will avoid looking at you and the body language signals that you should expect to see with them.
He’s attracted to you
If he only avoids looking at you and his body language changes when he notices you then it could be the case that he is attracted to you.
The reason that being attracted to you might be causing him to avoid looking at you is likely because he is shy and he doesn’t want you to know.
However, if he is attracted to you, it would be likely that he would be showing it to you in a number of different ways in his body language and behavior.
These ways can include:
- Having dilated pupils when with you
- Aiming his feet at you even if he is to your side
- Laughing and looking to see if you are
- Positioning himself to be near you
- Often glancing at you then quickly glancing away when you notice
- Asking your friends about you
- Getting anxious when you’re talking to other men
- Mirroring your body language
- Adjusting his shirt, tie, hair etc when he notices you
- A lack of negative signals such as crossing the arms, squinting at you or showing tight lips when you’re talking
- Changing his behavior when he notices you
- Looking at your lips when talking to you
- Standing close to you when talking to you
In this case, it would also be likely that he would be showing signs of nervousness around you. I will mention signs of nervousness to look for a few sections below this one.
He is annoyed with you
The reason that he isn’t looking at you might be because he is annoyed with you.
If he is then it would be likely that he would have stopped looking at you after an argument, after you went out with someone that he doesn’t like or after doing something that would annoy him.
If he is annoyed with you it would be likely that he would show it in his body language in other ways as well which can include:
- Crossing the arms and legs when first noticing you
- Showing constricted pupils when you’re around
- Facing the feet away from you
- Looking towards the exit
- Giving you short answers
- Avoiding talking to you
- Squinting when looking at you
- Tensing the jaw when looking at you
- Showing tight lips when you’re talking
- Distancing himself from you
One reason that a guy might avoid looking at you could actually be that he is submitting to you.
This would be more likely to happen when you’re being aggressive, if you’re in a position of power over him, if you’re in a more popular group than him or if you’re with other people that he feels threatened by.
If he is avoiding looking at you due to being submissive then it would be likely that he would show it in other ways such as:
- Showing vulnerable areas like the palms and neck
- Facing the feet away from you
- Making the body appear small
- Showing small movements
- Smiling with just the mouth
- Looking downwards
- Face touching
The reason that a guy might avoid looking at you could be because he is feeling sad.
This would be more likely to happen more suddenly and it would often be apparent based on things that might have happened recently.
If he is avoiding eye contact due to being sad it would be likely that he would also do things such as:
- Trembling lip
- A flat vocal tone
- Drooping the body
- Being more quiet than usual
- A lack of smiling
- A lack of talking
The reason that he might be avoiding looking at you might be because he is nervous.
The reason that he is nervous could be because he is attracted to you. If that is why he’s nervous then it would be likely that he would show signs of attraction in his body language when around you.
Other reasons that he might be nervous could be that he has some social anxiety or that there are other people present making him nervous.
If he is nervous it would be likely that he would show other signs of being nervous which can include:
- Rubbing the eyes
- Rubbing the nose
- Rubbing the cheeks
- Rubbing the arms
- Touching the front of the neck
- Scratching the back of the neck
- Frequently blinking
- Talking at a higher pitch
- Having a dry throat
He likes you but he’s not looking for anything
It could be the case that he is attracted to you but he is avoiding looking at you because he doesn’t want anything more.
It could be that he has a girlfriend or that he isn’t looking for one.
If that is the case then it would be likely that he would show signs of attraction in his body language. However, he would be less responsive to any signs that you show him.
He doesn’t want to tell you something
The reason that he is avoiding looking at you could be because there is something that he doesn’t want to talk to you about.
If that is why he is avoiding looking at you then it would also be likely that he would be showing a lot of eye blocking behaviors, distancing behaviors and that he would be avoiding talking to you as well.
Consider who else is present when he does it
It could be the case that it isn’t actually you that is causing him to avoid eye contact. It could be that there is someone else present that he doesn’t like.
You should consider the other people that tend to be present when you are with him.
If he tends to start to avoid looking at you when a particular person enters the room then it would be an especially strong signal that he/she is the one causing him to do it.
Think about his normal behavior
When trying to figure out what a guy’s body language might be suggesting it would be helpful to know what his normal body language and behavior is like.
If he seems to avoid eye contact with other people and he doesn’t change his body language or behavior when he notices you then it would be more likely that he has a shy personality.
Whereas, if he doesn’t seem to have a problem looking at others and he does change his body language around you then it would make it more likely that he is doing it specifically because of you. It would be necessary to consider how his body language and behavior change around you to figure out why
Look for groups of body language
When you’re trying to understand why he is avoiding looking at you it would be helpful to look for groups of body language instead of single body language signals.
The reason for that is that single body language signals can have multiple different meanings. This makes it difficult to come to reliable conclusions about how he might be feeling.
Whereas, when he is showing multiple body language signals that can all mean the same thing it will allow you to come to a more reliable conclusion about how he might be feeling at that moment.
If you want to learn more about body language, a book I would recommend would be The Definitive Book of Body Language (on Amazon). It shows you how to interpret body language and understand people's true intentions.