If you have noticed that a guy has been avoiding you, you’re probably wondering why he does it and what it might mean.

This post will help you to figure out why he might be avoiding you and help you to make sense of it if it happens with another guy in the future.

So, will a guy avoid you if he is developing feelings for you? It is possible that a guy will avoid you if he is developing feelings for you. It could be the case that he is shy and he doesn’t want you to know that he is attracted to you or that it causes him to get anxious around you. If he is attracted to you then it would be likely that he would show it in his body language in other ways.

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And what else could it mean if a guy avoids you?

  1. He’s attracted to you
  2. He’s nervous around you
  3. He’s mad
  4. He’s being submissive
  5. He thinks that you don’t like him
  6. He likes you but he’s not interested
  7. He doesn’t like the people you hang out with

Since there are a number of reasons why a guy will avoid you it would be helpful to consider the context of how it happens and the body language signals that he shows around you.

By doing so you’ll be able to get a better understanding of why he avoids you.

Reasons why a guy will avoid you

Each of the different reasons why a guy will avoid you will likely come with a number of clues in his body language.

Below, I will mention a number of reasons why a guy will avoid you and the body language signals that you should expect to see with them.

He’s attracted to you

If a guy avoids you then it is possible that he is developing feelings for you.

It would be especially likely to be the reason if he changes his body language when he notices you and he acts normally around other women your age.

The reason that being attracted to you might be causing him to avoid you could be that he doesn’t want you to know that he’s attracted to you or he gets anxious because of it.

If he is attracted to you then it would be likely that he would show it in his body language when you are around.

Examples could include:

  • Having dilated pupils when he is with you
  • Looking at you when you’re not looking at him and then quickly looking away when you notice
  • Asking your friends about you
  • Laughing and looking to see if you are as well
  • Adjusting his clothing or hair when he first notices you
  • Changing his posture to a more upright one when he first notices you
  • Changing his behavior when he notices you
  • Pointing his feet at you even if you’re not directly in front of him
  • Getting anxious when you’re talking to other men
  • Showing signs of nervousness when he is talking to you (signs of nervousness mentioned below)
  • Mirroring your body language

He’s nervous around you

The reason that he avoids you might be because you make him feel nervous.

It could be that you cause him to get nervous because he is attracted to you. If that is the case then it would be likely that he would show many of the signs of attraction mentioned above and that he would also show signs of nervousness mentioned below.

Alternatively, you might cause him to get nervous due to having a very outgoing personality, he might feel like you’re confrontational, he might think you’ll disagree with what he has to say or he might get nervous because he thinks that you’ll judge him in some way.

It might also be the case that he has some social anxiety. If that is the case then it would be likely that he would show signs of nervousness around others and not just you.

If he does avoid you due to being nervous around you then he would likely show other body language signals of nervousness such as:

  • Tapping the feet and fingers
  • Rubbing the face, arms, upper legs or neck
  • Touching the front of the neck
  • Scratching the back of the neck
  • Laughing more with just the mouth
  • Talking at a higher pitch
  • Crossing the arms and legs
  • Tucking the feet around his chair
  • Wringing the hands
  • A lack of eye contact
  • Interlocking the feet
  • Upward inflection when talking (talking with a higher pitch at the end of sentences)
  • Fidgeting

He’s mad

The reason that he might be avoiding you is that he is actually annoyed with you.

If that is why he has been avoiding you then it would be likely that something would have recently happened between you both that would cause him to be annoyed with you. It could be that you had an argument with him, you did something he didn’t want you to or that you said something that he didn’t like.

If he is annoyed with you then it would be likely that he would show a number of other clues that he is annoyed with you in his body language.

These clues can include:

  • Squinting when he’s looking at you
  • Pointing his feet away from you
  • Crossing the arms and legs as soon as he sees you
  • Having tight lips when you’re talking
  • Tensing the jaw when you’re talking
  • Giving you very short replies
  • Not continuing the conversation with you
  • Tightening the eyebrows when looking at you
  • Avoiding eye contact with you

He’s being submissive

The reason that he is avoiding you might actually be that he is being submissive.

If that is the case then it might be that he feels like you’re threating to him, that you’re in a position of authority or that you’re in a more socially popular group.

If he is avoiding you due to being submissive then it would be likely that he would show other signs of it by doing things such as:

  • Looking down
  • Making the body appear small
  • Laughing with the mouth
  • Avoiding eye contact
  • Showing vulnerable areas like the neck and palms
  • Pointing the feet away from you
  • Looking towards the exit

He thinks that you don’t like him

The reason that he avoids you might even be that he thinks that you don’t like him.

A sign that this is the reason would be if you have talked to each other in the past but you came across as a bit aggressive or uncomfortable during the conversation. This could have caused him to think that you don’t like him.

If he does think that you don’t like him then it would be likely that he would show some of the signs of nervousness around you mentioned above. It would also be likely that he would distance himself from you when in a group, avoid eye contact with you and possibly ask your friends why you don’t like him.

He likes you but he’s not interested

The reason that he avoids you might be because he does have feelings for you but for some reason he doesn’t want to act on it.

It could be that he has a girlfriend or that he isn’t looking for one at the moment.

If it is the reason then it would be likely that he would show signs of attraction when he is around you. However, it would be less likely that he would be responsive to any signs that you give him.

He doesn’t like the people that you hang out with

It might not actually be you that he is avoiding. It might be the case that he is actually avoiding someone or some people that you tend to hang out with.

To tell if that is the case you should consider if he only tends to avoid you when certain people are present.

Consider your relationship with him

When trying to figure out why he avoids you it would be helpful to consider the type of relationship that you have with him.

If you were friends in the past and he has suddenly started to avoid you then you should consider if something recently happened that might cause him to be annoyed with you. Alternatively, it could suggest that something has occurred in his life which is unrelated to you that has caused him to be that way.

If he is a guy that you have met before and you weren’t disrespectful to him in any way then it would make it more likely that he does it because he’s attracted to you and it causes him to get anxious around you. It could still be the case that he does it for a different reason so you should consider what his body language is like when he’s with you.

Think about when and where he avoids you

When trying to figure out why he is avoiding you it would be helpful to consider the timing and location of how he does it.

If he tends to avoid you at a certain location it would be likely that there is something in that environment that is causing him to do it.

The cause could be that there are certain people that he doesn’t like that tends to be there or it might be that he’s anxious there because he has to do something there that he doesn’t like.

For example, if he has to present things at a certain location he might be avoiding you due to being nervous about having to present.

If he doesn’t always avoid you but he does at certain times then it would be more likely that he is doing it due to a certain person. You should consider if he tends to avoid you when certain people are around since it might actually be them that he is avoiding.

Think about his normal behavior and body language

When trying to figure out why he is avoiding you it would be helpful to consider the way that he interacts with other people.

If you notice that he doesn’t avoid other people and his body language and behavior changes when he first notices you then it would make it a lot more likely that he is doing it due to you.

It could be that he is attracted to you, he doesn’t like you, he thinks you don’t like him, he’s intimidated by you or that he’s annoyed with you. It would be necessary for you to consider how his body language is different around you to figure out the exact reason.

Whereas, if his body language doesn’t change around you and he does seem to avoid other people then it would make it more likely that he has a shy personality or that he has some social anxiety. Alternatively, it might be that he doesn’t like the people that you tend to see him with.

Look for multiple signals

When you’re trying to figure out why he tends to avoid you it would be helpful to look for multiple body language signals that all have the same possible meanings.

This is because single body language signals can often have multiple different meanings making them unreliable by themselves.

However, when he is showing multiple body language signals that could all have the same possible meaning it would make it much more likely that it is why he actually is showing those body language signals.

Related

What does it mean if a shy guy avoids you? If a guy that is shy avoids you then it could be the case that he is attracted to you. If he is then it would be likely that he would show signs of attraction in his body language when you’re around.

Alternatively, he might not actually be avoiding you, he might be avoiding your friends that he doesn’t like instead. It might also be the case that he feels threatened by you that he thinks you don’t like him or that he is annoyed with you for some reason.

If you want to learn more about body language, a book I would recommend would be The Definitive Book of Body Language (on Amazon). It shows you how to interpret body language and understand people's true intentions.

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