If a girl recently touched your back then you might be wondering why and what it might mean about the way that she feels about you.

This post will help you understand why she might have touched your back and why other girls might touch your back in the future.

So, what does it mean when a girl touches your back? If she does it multiple times or for a long time and she shows positive body language around you then it would be a sign that she is attracted to you. It could also be that she is trying to reassure you, to get your attention or she might do it naturally with everyone.

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Since there are a number of reasons why she might have touched your back it is important to consider the body language that she was showing and the context of how she touched your back.

Why a girl will touch your back

Each of the different reasons why a girl will touch your back will likely come with a number of clues in the way that she does it and in the body language that she shows.

In the following sections, I will show you a number of reasons why she might have touched your back, the signs to look for and the things to consider.

She is attracted to you

The reason that she touched your back could have been that she was showing attraction to you.

This would be more likely if she touched your back multiple times, if she did it while you were alone together, if she is a similar age as you and if she was showing positive body language towards you that she wasn’t showing to others.

If she was attracted to you then she might have shown it in other ways as well by showing signs such as:

  • Holding prolonged eye contact with you
  • Having dilated pupils when looking at you
  • Pointing her feet at you when she is around you
  • Touching you more than she touches other people
  • Touching your feet with her feet
  • Laughing and looking to see if you are also laughing
  • Laughing a lot at the things you say
  • Brushing her hair to the side when she is around you
  • Stroking her hair while talking to you
  • Adjusting her appearance when she sees you
  • Talking to you with a higher pitch than she does with other people
  • Glancing at you and quickly looking away or smiling when you notice

She is trying to get your attention

It could have been the case that she just touched your back because she was trying to get your attention.

If she was then it would be more likely that she would have done it when you weren’t looking at her and she would likely have stopped when she got your attention. She also wouldn’t likely have shown many signs of attraction around you unless she was also attracted to you.

She is trying to reassure you

The reason that she touched your back could have been that she was trying to make you feel better.

This would be more likely if she did it when you were alone together and while you were talking to her about something that made you feel sad. It would also be likely that she would have done other things to reassure you as well such as to give you reassuring words.

It’s normal in her culture

In some cultures, it is normal to touch people a lot.

If she is from one of these cultures then it could have been the case that she touched your back because she does it naturally with everyone. If that was the case then it would be likely that she would also have touched other people’s backs and that she would have shown the same body language around them as with you.

It could be the case that she touches people a lot naturally but she is also attracted to you. If that is the case then it would be likely that she would show signs of attraction around you that she doesn’t with other people.

Consider the type of relationship you have with her

When trying to understand why she touched your back it would be helpful to consider the type of relationship that you have with her.

If she has been your friend for a while then it would be more likely that she touched your back due to attraction, trying to reassure you or that she was trying to get your attention. It would help to consider where you were when she did it and the body language that she was showing around you.

If she was a girl that you hadn’t met before then it would be more likely that she did it due to showing attraction, trying to get your attention or that she touches people a lot naturally. It would be helpful to consider the body language that she was showing, how often she touched your back and whether or not she did it with other people as well.

Think about when and where she touched your back

The timing and location of where she touched your back would also be a helpful thing to consider.

If she touched your back while you were alone together then it would be more likely that she was either showing attraction to you or she was trying to reassure you.

Whereas, if she touched your back while you were with other people then it would be more likely that she was either showing attraction to you, trying to get your attention or she was doing it naturally.

Consider how she reacts to seeing you

Thinking about the way that she reacts to seeing you would also likely be a useful thing to do.

If she reacts to seeing you by changing her body language noticeably in a positive way then it would be more likely that she was showing attraction to you.

This means that if she reacts to seeing you by doing things such as:

  • Brushing her hair to the side
  • Adjusting her appearance
  • Positioning herself to be nearer to you
  • Sitting or standing more upright
  • Pointing her feet at you
  • Holding eye contact with you

Then it would be more likely that she touched your back because she was showing attraction to you.

Consider how she interacts with others

Comparing the way she interacts with you with how she interacts with others would also help in understanding why she touched your back.

If she also touches other people a lot and she shows the same body language around them as she does with you then it would be more likely that she touched your back because she does it naturally.

Whereas, if she only did it with you and she was showing body language signs of attraction around you then it would be more likely that she did it due to attraction.

Look for multiple signs in her body language

When considering what her body language could have been suggesting it would be helpful to consider multiple aspects of it at a time.

If she was showing one sign of attraction then it would be less likely that she actually was showing attraction to you since single body language signs can often have many different possible meanings.

Whereas, if she was showing multiple signs of attraction then it would be a lot more likely that she was actually attracted to you.

If you want to learn more about body language, a book I would recommend would be The Definitive Book of Body Language (on Amazon). It shows you how to interpret body language and understand people's true intentions.

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