If you think that a guy has been hiding his feelings for you then you might be wondering why and what it might mean about the way that he feels about you.

This post will show you a number of reasons why he might hide his feelings for you and why other guys might do the same in the future.

So, why would a guy hide his feelings for you? It could be that he doesn’t want his friends to know especially if he shows more attraction toward you when he is alone with you. He might also think you’re not into him, be nervous, not want a relationship or he might not actually be attracted to you.

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There are actually a number of reasons why a guy might hide his feelings for you and there are a number of things that you can consider when trying to figure out why he might be doing it.

Why a guy would hide his feelings for you

Each of the different reasons why a guy would hide his feelings for you would likely come with a number of clues in the way that he does it and the body language that he shows.

Below, I will mention a number of reasons why a guy would hide his feelings for you, the signs to look for and the things to consider.

He doesn’t want his friends to know

The reason that he does it could be that he doesn’t want his friends to know that he is attracted to you.

If this is the case then it would be more likely that he would show more attraction to you when he is alone with you and that he would seem to be more distant when he is around his friends.

If he is attracted to you then it would be likely that he would show signs of being attracted to you, in his body language, when he is around you.

These signs could include:

  • Holding prolonged eye contact with you
  • Asking you the most questions
  • Keeping his focus on you when multiple people are talking
  • Glancing at you a lot
  • Adjusting his appearance when he sees you
  • Touching you a lot
  • Standing closer to you than he does with other people
  • Pointing his feet at you (people often point their feet at people that they are attracted to)
  • Watching you and getting anxious when you are around other men
  • Getting defensive when other men are with you both
  • Having dilated pupils when looking at you (people’s pupils will often become more dilated when looking at someone that they are attracted to)

There are more signs of attraction that a guy might show around you and I have written about more of them in this blog post.

He doesn’t think that you like him

The reason that he does it might be that he thinks that you are not interested in him yourself.

This would be more likely if he does seem to show some signs of attraction around you but you have not shown any interest in him in the past.

If he does think that you don’t like him then he might show signs of being anxious, when he is around you, by doing things such as:

  • Rubbing his face, arms, neck or legs
  • Fidgeting a lot
  • Tapping his fingers and feet a lot
  • Coughing or having a dry mouth

He is nervous

The reason that he doesn’t show his feelings for you might be that he is nervous that you will not like him back yourself and he doesn’t want to be rejected.

This would be more likely if he shows signs of attraction around you and if he also shows signs of being nervous when he is around you.

Signs of being nervous could include:

  • Rubbing the face, arms, neck and legs a lot
  • Tapping the fingers and feet a lot
  • Talking at a higher pitch than usual
  • Struggling to hold eye contact
  • Laughing more than usual
  • Getting a dry mouth
  • Fidgeting a lot

He doesn’t want a relationship

It could be the case that he is hiding his feelings from you because he doesn’t want a relationship.

This would be more likely if he also mentions that he is not looking for one when he is around you or if he has mentioned that he is moving away soon and if he acts in a similar way around other girls as well.

If it is the case that he doesn’t want a relationship then he would likely be less willing to go out with you or with other girls but he would still likely show signs of attraction around you if he is attracted to you.

He doesn’t have feelings for you

It could be the case that he isn’t actually hiding his feelings for you and that he is actually not attracted to you.

This would be more likely if he doesn’t show signs of attraction around you and if he also seems to act distant when he is alone with you as well as when he is with his friends.

If he doesn’t have feelings for you then he might show distancing body language, when he is around you, such as:

  • Avoiding eye contact
  • Standing further away from you than he does with other people
  • Pointing his feet away from you
  • Smiling with a closed mouth
  • Giving you short answers

He acts that way naturally

It could be the case that he actually just acts that way naturally.

This would be more likely if he also seems to act in a similar way to his other friends as well and if he seems to show the same body language with them as he does with you.

If he does do it naturally then it could still be the case that he is attracted to you. If he is then it would be likely that he would show signs of being attracted to you when he is around you.

Consider how he reacts upon seeing you

When trying to understand why he hides his feelings about you and how he does feel about you it would help to consider the way that he reacts to seeing you.

If he, noticeably, changes his body language then it would make it more likely that he has particularly good or bad feelings about you depending on how he changes it.

If he reacts to seeing you by doing things such as:

  • Adjusting his appearance
  • Adjusting his posture
  • Facing towards you (especially with his feet)
  • Holding eye contact with you
  • Moving closer to you
  • Having more dilated pupils

Then it would make it more likely that he is attracted to you but perhaps that he hides his feelings because he doesn’t want his friends to know, he is nervous or he doesn’t think you like him.

Whereas, if he reacts to seeing you by doing things such as:

  • Squinting
  • Facing away from you
  • Smiling with a closed mouth
  • Tightening his lips
  • Distancing himself
  • Avoiding eye contact

Then it would be more likely that he is not interested in you.

Consider when he hid his feelings

It would also help to consider when he seems to hide his feelings.

If he only seems to do it when he is around certain people then it would make it more likely that he doesn’t want them to know that he likes you.

Whereas, if he seems to hide his feelings when he is alone with you as well then it would make it more likely that he is not attracted to you. However, he might also be nervous or he might not think that you like him so it would help to consider the body language he shows.

Consider how he interacts with other people

It would also help to compare the way that he interacts with you with how he interacts with other people.

If he shows the same body language around you as he does with his other friends then it would make it more likely that he does it naturally.

Whereas, if he only seems to show certain body language signs with you then it would make it more likely that he has good or bad feelings about you depending on the signs he shows.

Consider multiple body language signs

When trying to understand what his body language could be showing it would help to consider multiple signs at the same time.

The reason for this is that a single body language sign can have multiple possible meanings. This can make single body language signs less reliable on their own.

Whereas, if he shows a number of signs that all suggest the same thing then it would make it more likely that he is showing them for that specific reason.

If you want to learn more about body language, a book I would recommend would be The Definitive Book of Body Language (on Amazon). It shows you how to interpret body language and understand people's true intentions.

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