If there is a guy that touches you a lot then you might be wondering why and what it might mean about the way that he feels about you.

This post will help you understand why he touches you a lot and why other guys might do it as well in the future.

So, what does it mean when a guy touches you a lot? It would likely be a sign of attraction especially if he only does it to you and if he shows other body language signs of attraction around you. It could also be that he is trying to emphasize what he is saying, to get your attention, he does it naturally with everyone or he is being dominating.

Since there are a number of reasons why a guy might touch you a lot it is important to consider the context of how he does it and the body language that he shows around you.

Why a guy will touch you a lot

Each of the different reasons why a guy will touch you a lot will likely come with a number of clues in the way that he does it and in the body language that he shows.

In the following sections, I will mention a number of reasons why a guy will touch you a lot, the signs to look for and the things to consider.

He likes you

The reason that he touches you a lot could be that he likes you.

This would be more likely if he only does it with you or if he touches you more than he does with other people, if he is a similar age as you and if he shows positive body language around you that he doesn’t with other people.

If he is attracted to you then it would be likely that he would show other signs of it in his body language around you.

These signs could include:

  • Holding prolonged eye contact with you
  • Asking you the most questions and giving you the most attention
  • Standing closer to you than he does with other people
  • Positioning himself to be nearer to you
  • Having dilated pupils when looking at you
  • Pointing his feet at you when he is around you (people often point their feet at the person that they are attracted to)
  • Adjusting his appearance when he sees you
  • Asking your friends about you
  • Getting anxious when you are with other men
  • Getting defensive when other men are with you both
  • Uncrossing his arms when he sees you
  • Glancing at you a lot and smiling or quickly looking away when you notice

He’s trying to emphasize what he is saying

People will often touch other people a lot when they are trying to emphasize a point that they are trying to make. This could be why he touches you a lot.

If this is the case then it would be more likely that he would touch other people in a similar way as well. It would also be likely that he would show other signs of trying to emphasize what he is saying. Signs could include looking at you with wide-open eyes when talking to you, having his mouth wide open when waiting for you to reply or leaning in towards you when talking to you.

He does it naturally

It could be the case that he touches people a lot naturally.

If he does then it would be more likely that he would also touch other people when you are with him and he would likely show the same body language with them as he does with you.

It could also be the case that he touches people a lot naturally but that he also is attracted to you. In that case, he might touch you slightly more than other people and he would likely show other signs of attraction in his body language around you.

It’s normal in his culture

In some cultures, it is normal to touch people a lot.

If he is from one of these cultures then it could just be that he is used to communicating with people in that way. If he is, then it would also be likely that he would do the same with other people.

He’s being dominating

The reason that he touches you a lot could be that he has a dominating personality.

This would be more likely if he does it when you’re both with other people, he does it when telling you to move or to do something and if he does it more firmly.

If he does touch you a lot due to being dominating then he might show other signs of it when he is with you or other people by doing things such as:

  • Squinting when looking at people
  • Telling people to do things
  • Touching other people a lot
  • Standing in peoples personal space
  • Putting his hands and feet on things that are not his
  • Taking up lots of space in the way that he stands
  • Holding prolonged eye contact when looking at people

He wants your attention

The reason that he touched you a lot could be that he wanted to get your attention.

This would be more likely if he only did it when you were not paying attention to him, if he stopped when you were and if he immediately started to tell you something when you did pay attention to him.

Consider when and where he does it

Considering the timing and location of when and where he touches you would likely be useful in understanding why he does it.

If he does it more when he is alone with you then it would be more likely that he is showing attraction to you. It would help to consider whether or not he shows other body language signs of attraction around you. It could also be a sign that he has a dominating personality or he might do it naturally.

If he touches you a lot when you are with other people then it could be the case that he does it for any of the reasons mentioned in the sections above. It would be necessary to consider the body language he shows, if he does it with other people and if he reacts to seeing you by changing his behavior.

Consider how he reacts to seeing you

When trying to understand why he touches you a lot it would be helpful to consider the way that he reacts to seeing you.

If he changes his body language and behavior when he sees you, in a positive way, then it would be more likely that he has feelings for you.

This means that if he reacts to seeing you by doing things such as:

  • Adjusting his appearance
  • Pointing his feet at you
  • Uncrossing his arms and standing or sitting more upright
  • Holding eye contact
  • Positioning himself to be nearer to you

Then it would be more likely that he touches you a lot due to being attracted to you.

Consider whether or not he touches other people a lot

It would be helpful to compare the way that he interacts with you with how he interacts with others when trying to understand why he touches you a lot.

If he also touches other people a lot and he shows the same body language around them as with you then it would be more likely that he touches people a lot naturally.

Whereas, if he only does it with you and he shows positive body language around you then it would be more likely that he does it due to being attracted to you.

Consider multiple aspects of his body language

When considering what his body language could be suggesting it would be helpful to consider multiple aspects of it at a time.

If he only shows one body language sign of attraction or something else then it would be less reliable since single body language signs can have multiple different meanings.

Whereas, if he shows a cluster of body language signs that all suggest the same thing then it would be more likely that he is showing them for that specific reason.

Related

What does it mean when a guy keeps touching you? It would likely be a sign that he is attracted to you if he also shows other signs of attraction with you. He might also do it to get your attention, to emphasize a point, he might do it naturally with everyone or he might be being dominating.

If you want to learn more about body language, a book I would recommend would be The Definitive Book of Body Language (on Amazon). It shows you how to interpret body language and understand people's true intentions.

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