If a guy called you attractive, this post will show you likely reasons why and what would make each of them more likely.
So, why does it mean when a guy says you are attractive? Likely reasons why a guy would call you attractive are that he is attracted to you, he is being nice, he is being condescending, he is trying to make you feel better or that he is doing it as a power play.
A guy might call you attractive for a number of reasons but there are some things you can consider to help figure out the main cause.
What does it mean when a guy says you are attractive?
Below are a number of likely causes and what would make each of them more likely.
He is attracted to you
The reason could be that he is actually attracted to you.
If he is around the same age as you, he only calls you attractive (and not other women) and he changes his body language and behavior when you’re around him then it would be likely that he is attracted to you.
If he does call you attractive because he is attracted to you, it would be likely that he would show signs of being attracted to you in his behavior and body language.
Examples could include:
- Mirroring your own body language
- Finding reasons to touch you
- Planning his schedule around yours
- Holding prolonged eye contact with you
- Having more dilated pupils than normal when with you
- Aiming his feet in your direction while he is around you
- Standing closer to you than he does with other people when talking to you
- Positioning himself to be near you
- Uncrossing his legs and arms when he first notices you
- Sitting or standing more upright when he notices you
- Making an adjustment to his appearance when he notices you such as adjusting his shirt
- Asking your friends about you
- Glancing in your direction then looking away when you notice
- Showing signs of being anxious while you are with other men your age
- Becoming defensive while you’re with other men
He was just being nice
It could also be the case that he was trying to be nice. This would be more likely if he did not say it in a very flirtatious way and if he tends to show the same body language around you as he does around his other friends.
He wants to be more than just friends
It might also be the case that he said it because he wants to be more than just friends with you.
If he does want to be more than just friends he would likely show signs of being attracted to you and you might not have picked up on them.
If he calls you attractive because he’s attracted to you, it would be especially likely that he would get anxious while you are with other men your age, that he would become defensive while they’re around you both and that he would base his schedule around yours.
He wants you to feel better
Another possible cause is that he was trying to make you feel better because he thought that you were feeling sad.
If that is why he called you attractive, it would be likely that you were showing signs of being sad such as having watery eyes, looking downwards a lot, breathing deeply, and inhaling rapidly through the nose.
He was doing it as a power play
It could also be the case that he called you attractive as more of a power-play.
If he did then it would be more likely that he called you attractive in front of other people, with a deeper voice and when making a statement to you or when telling you to do something.
If he did call you attractive as a power-play then it would be likely that he would have shown other signs of dominating type behavior as well.
- These signs could include:
- Touching people a lot
- Standing in people’s personal space
- Talking over people
- Talking with a deeper voice
- Putting his hands and feet on things that are not his
- Telling people to do things
- Staring at people
- Squinting when looking at people
Consider the way that he reacts to seeing you
It would help to consider how he reacts upon seeing you.
If he changes his body language upon seeing you, it would suggest that he has some attraction towards you.
If he reacts by uncrossing his arms and legs, making space for you, raising his eyebrows and smiling, holding eye contact with you, adjusting his clothing or hair and his pupils dilate then it would be much more likely that he called you attractive because he is attracted to you.
Whereas, if he reacts to seeing you by crossing his arms, squinting at you, pointing his feet away from you and tensing his jaw then it would be more likely that he called you attractive for a negative reason.
Consider the type of relationship that you have with him
It would also help to consider the type of relationship you have with him.
If he is your friend, it would be more likely that he either secretly wants to be more than just friends with you or he was trying to make you feel good.
Whereas, if he was a guy that you don’t know very well then it would be more likely that he was either attracted to you, being dominant, he naturally says it or that he wanted to see your reaction.
Observe the way that he interacts with other people
It would also help to compare the way he interacts with you with how he interacts with other people.
If he calls other women attractive and he shows the same body language around them as he does around you, it would be more likely that he naturally calls women attractive.
Whereas, if he seems to only call you attractive and he changes his body language around you, he would probably be saying it due to attraction assuming he shows it in his body language around you.
Think about when and where he called you attractive
The timing of and the location of when he called you attractive would also be a helpful thing to think about.
If he called you attractive when you were both alone together, it would be more likely that he said it due to being attracted to you and you should consider whether or not he was showing many signs of attraction.
Whereas, if he called you attractive in front of other people then he might have been showing attraction but he might also have done it as a power-play and he could naturally call women attractive when talking to them.
Look for multiple signs in his body language
When considering what his body language is telling you it would be helpful to consider multiple aspects of his body language.
This is because he might show a single sign-in his body language for a number of different reasons making it unreliable.
Whereas, if he shows multiple body language signs that all suggest the same thing, it would be much more likely that it really is why he is showing them.
If you want to learn more about body language, a book I would recommend would be The Definitive Book of Body Language (on Amazon). It shows you how to interpret body language and understand people's true intentions.