If a guy recently told you that he was attracted to you, this post will show you likely reasons why and what would make them more likely.

So, what does it mean when a guy says that he is attracted to you? Likely reasons why a guy will say that he is attracted to you are that he is actually attracted to you, he is being nice or that he wants to be more than just friends.

There are a number of possible causes but there are also some things you can consider to help figure out the main cause.

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What does it mean when a guy says he is attracted to you?

Below are likely reasons and what would make them more likely.

He is actually attracted to you

The reason that he is attracted to you could be that he is actually attracted to you.

This would be more likely if he only said it to you, he said it when he was alone with you, he shows different body language around you than he does with other people and if he also says similar things only to you.

If he is attracted to you then it would be likely that he would show signs of being attracted to you, when he is around you, in his body language by doing things such as:

  • Holding prolonged eye contact with you
  • Keeping his focus on you when multiple people are talking
  • Glancing at you a lot
  • Pointing his feet at you (people often point their feet at people that they are attracted to)
  • Adjusting his appearance when he sees you
  • Asking you the most questions when in a group with you
  • Touching you a lot
  • Talking to you with a deeper voice than he does with other people
  • Standing closer to you than he does with other people
  • Watching you and getting anxious when you are around other men
  • Getting defensive when other men are with you both
  • Having dilated pupils when looking at you (people’s pupils will often become more dilated when looking at someone that they are attracted to)

He was being nice

It could also be the case that he was just being nice. This would be more likely if he said it when you were sad or if you asked him if he finds you attractive and he said yes. It would also be more likely if he does not show signs of being attracted to you in his body language.

He wants to be more than just friends

If he has been your friend for a while, the reason that he called you attractive could be that he wants to have more than just a friendship with you.

If he does want to be more than just friends he would likely show signs of being attracted to you and you might not have picked up on them.

If he calls you cute because he’s attracted to you, it would be especially likely that he would get anxious while you are with other men your age, that he would become defensive while they’re around you both and that he would base his schedule around yours.

Consider the way that he reacts to seeing you

When trying to figure out why he said that he is attracted to you and how he feels about you it would help to consider how he reacts to seeing you.

If he, noticeably, changes his body language and behavior then it would make it more likely that he has particularly good feelings for you.

If he reacts to seeing you by doing things such as:

  • Adjusting his appearance
  • Adjusting his posture
  • Facing towards you (especially with his feet)
  • Moving closer to you
  • Having more dilated pupils

Then it would be more likely that he said that he is attracted to you because he is attracted to you.

Consider when and where he said that he is attracted to you

The timing of when he said that he is attracted to you would also be a useful thing to consider.

If he said it when you were around other people, it would make it more likely that he was saying it because he considers you as a friend. He might also have said it because he was trying to make someone else jealous which would be more likely if he said it when there were other girls with you both.

If he said it to you when you were alone with him then it would make it more likely that he was showing attraction to you. However, he might also have been saying it to make you feel better or because he considers you a friend so it would help to consider other body language signs that he was showing.

Consider how he interacts with other people

People can show certain body language signs naturally. This is why it would help to compare how he interacts with you with how he interacts with other people.

If he shows the same body language around his other friends as he does with you then it would make it more likely that he said it because he considers you as a friend.

Whereas, if he shows different body language around you then it would make it more likely that he said he is attracted to you because he is actually attracted to you.

Look for a number of body language clues

When considering what he could be showing with his body language it would help to consider multiple signs at the same time.

The reason for this is that a single body language sign can have many different meanings. This can cause single body language signs to be less reliable on their own.

Whereas, if someone shows a number of body language signs that all suggest the same thing then it would make it more likely that they are showing them for that reason.

If you want to learn more about body language, a book I would recommend would be The Definitive Book of Body Language (on Amazon). It shows you how to interpret body language and understand people's true intentions.

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