If a guy recently asked what you think of him then you’re probably wondering why he did it and what it might have meant.

This post will help you to figure out why he asked what you think of him and help you understand why other guys might ask you as well in the future.

So, what does it mean when a guy asks what you think of him? It might mean that he likes you which would be more likely if he only asks you and he shows other signs of attraction around you. He might also be feeling self-conscious or he might ask because he thinks that you don’t like him.

Since there are a number of different reasons why a guy will ask what you think about him it is important to consider the context of how he asked you and the body language that he showed.

By doing so you will be able to get a better understanding of why he asked what you think about him and of how he feels about you.

Reasons why a guy will ask what you think about him

Each of the different reasons why a guy will ask what you think of him will likely come with a number of clues in his body language and behavior.

Below, I will mention a number of reasons why a guy will ask you what you think of him and the body language and behavior signs that you can expect to see with them.

He is attracted to you

The reason that he asked what you think about him could be that he is attracted to you and he wanted to know if you’re also into him.

It would be more likely that he asked you for that reason if he shows positive body language around you and he asked you when you were both alone together.

If he did ask you what you think of him because he is attracted to you then it would be likely that he would show signs of being attracted to you in his body language and behavior.

These signs can include:

  • Copying your own body language
  • Standing closer to you when talking to you than he does with other people
  • Touching you often and finding excuses to touch you
  • Asking you the most questions when you’re in a group together
  • Keeping his focus on you when you are in a group together
  • Positioning himself to be near you
  • Staring at you then quickly looking away when you notice
  • Talking to you with a deeper voice than he does with other people
  • Becoming anxious when you’re with other men
  • Sticking around when you’re with other men
  • Watching you when you’re with other men
  • Getting defensive when other men are with you both
  • Having dilated pupils when he is with you
  • Holding prolonged eye contact with you
  • Looking at your lips
  • Asking your friends about you
  • Pointing his feet at you

He is feeling self-conscious

The reason that he asked what you think of him could be that he was feeling bad about himself and he was hoping that you would help him feel better.

This might have been apparent based on the circumstances of when he asked you. It could be that someone had just made fun of him, he might have just received bad news, he might have been rejected in some way or he might have seen another girl that he likes with another guy.

If he was feeling sad then it would be likely that he would also have shown some other signs of it such as:

  • Taking deeper breaths
  • Inhaling through the nose quickly
  • Talking at a higher pitch
  • Watery eyes
  • Slouching
  • Self-hugging
  • Looking down

He thinks that you like him

It might be the case that he asked you what you think of him because he had the impression that you like him.

If that is why he asked then it could still be the case that he also likes you in which case he would likely show signs of being attracted to you in his body language when he is around you.

If he did ask because he thinks that you like him then it might be the case that you were giving him signs of attraction in some way. It could be that you had been giving him lots of attention at the time, that you had been asking about his plans or that you asked him about his girlfriend or something similar.

Alternatively, it could be that one of his friends told him that you like him.

He thinks that you don’t like him

It might also be the case that he asked you because he has the impression that you do not like him.

If that is why he asked then it could be the case that you had been showing signs of not liking him by doing things such as crossing your arms around him, squinting at him, talking to him with a harsh tone, making fun of him or staring at him. It could also be the case that someone had told him that you do not like him.

If he did think that you don’t like him then it would be likely that he would show signs of anxiousness around you and he might do things such as:

  • Rub his arms, face, neck or legs
  • Scratch his neck
  • Talk at a higher pitch
  • Avoid eye contact
  • Self-hug

Consider how he reacts to seeing you

When trying to understand why he asked you what you think about him it would help to consider the way that he reacts to seeing you.

This is because if he noticeably changes his behavior or body language when he sees you then it would be a strong sign that he has positive or negative feelings about you.

If he reacts to seeing you by doing things such as:

  • Uncrossing his arms
  • Sitting upright
  • Raising his eyebrows and smiling
  • Holding eye contact with you
  • Making room for you
  • Pointing his feet at you
  • Adjusting his hair or clothing
  • His pupils dilate

Then it would be a positive sign and it would be likely that he asked what you think of him because he is attracted to you.

Whereas, if he reacts to seeing you by doing things such as:

  • Squinting at you
  • Crossing his arms
  • Pointing his feet away from you
  • Distancing himself from you
  • Avoiding eye contact with you
  • Tensing his jaw
  • Tightening his lips

Then it would be a negative sign and it would be more likely that he asked what you think about him because he thinks that you don’t like him.

Consider when and where he asked what you think of him

It would also be helpful to consider the timing of when he asked what you think of him.

If he asked what you think of him when you were both alone together then it would be more likely that he was asking because he is attracted to you and it would be helpful to consider if he showed other signs of it.

Whereas, if he asked in a more public setting then it would be more likely that he thinks that you don’t like him or that he was feeling sad. However, he still might have asked because he is attracted to you so it is important to consider the body language that he was showing.

Consider how he interacts with other people

Comparing the way that he interacts with other people with the way that he interacts with you will likely be useful in determining what he thinks of you.

If he has a habit of asking other people similar questions and he tends to show the same body language around you as he does around his other friends then it would be more likely that he was being self-conscious when he asked.

However, if he doesn’t tend to ask questions like that and he changes his behavior and body language when he is around you then it would be more likely that he asked you because he is attracted to you assuming that he shows signs of attraction in the way that he changes it.

Think about multiple body language signs

When trying to understand the way that he feels about you it would be useful to look for multiple body language signs at a time.

The reason for that is that it’s difficult to get an accurate idea of how he is feeling based on one body language sign. This is because he might show a single body language sign for many different reasons.

Whereas, if he shows a number of body language signs that all suggest the same thing then it would be likely that he is showing them for that reason.

If you want to learn more about body language, a book I would recommend would be The Definitive Book of Body Language (on Amazon). It shows you how to interpret body language and understand people's true intentions.

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