If a girl recently touched your hair then you’re probably wondering why and what it might mean.
This post will help you understand why she touched your hair and why other girls might do it as well in the future.
So, what does it mean when a girl touches your hair? A girl touching your hair would likely be a sign that she likes you especially if she only does it to you, she does it on more than one occasion and she shows other signs of attraction around you as well. She might also do it because she just finds it interesting, to reassure you or possibly as a power-play.
Since there are a number of different reasons why a girl might touch your hair it is important to consider the context of how she did it and the body language that she showed.
By doing so you will be able to get a better understanding of why she touched your hair and the way that she feels about you.
Reasons why a girl will touch your hair
Each of the different reasons why a girl will touch your hair will likely come with a number of clues in the way that she does it and the body language that she shows.
Below, I’ll mention a number of reasons why a girl will touch your hair and the clues that you can expect to see with them.
She is attracted to you
If she only touched your hair and she shows positive body language signs around you then it would be a sign that she is attracted to you.
If she is attracted to you then it would be likely that she would also show other signs of being attracted to you in her body language and behavior around you.
These signs can include:
- Having more dilated pupils when she is around you
- Holding prolonged eye contact with you
- Touching you a lot
- Standing closer to you than she does with her other friends
- Laughing and looking to see if you’re laughing
- Pointing her feet at you
- Touching your feet with her feet
- Brushing her hair to the side
- Playing with her hair with her palms showing
- Sitting more upright when she sees you
- Uncrossing her arms when she sees you
- Adjusting her appearance when she sees you
- Asking you the most questions when in a group together
- Keeping her focus on you when other people are talking
- Laughing more at your jokes
It’s important to see multiple signs of attraction at the same time to be confident that she is attracted to you because a single body language sign can have multiple different meanings.
She’s trying to reassure you
If you were sad at the time then she might have touched your hair to reassure you.
This would be more likely to have been the reason if you were talking to her about something that made you feel sad. It would also be likely that you would have been showing signs of being sad such as watery eyes, taking deep breathes, a flat speech tone, slouching, looking down, being quiet and inhaling quickly through the nose.
She likes the way that it looks
The reason that she touched your hair could be that she likes the way that it looks.
If that is the case then it would be likely that she would also have commented on it when she touched it and that she would not have shown other signs of attraction.
If she did show other signs of attraction then it could be the case that she used it as an excuse to touch you.
She is being dominating
It could be the case that she touched your hair as a power-play.
This would be more likely to have been the reason if she did it more firmly, while telling you to do something or if she did it while showing dominating body language.
If she did do it as a power-play then it would be likely that she would have shown other signs of it in her body language by doing things such as:
- Telling people to do things
- Standing in people’s personal space
- Squinting when looking at people
- Interrupting people
- Having tight lips when people are talking
- Tensing the jaw when people are talking
- Putting her hands or feet on things that are not hers
Consider when and where she touched your hair
The timing and location of when she touched your hair would likely be a useful thing to consider.
If she did it when other people were with you both then it would be more likely that she either did it because she was attracted to you, because she was trying to be friendly or because she was being dominating and doing it as a power-play. It would be helpful to consider whether or not she was showing signs of attraction or domination to get a better idea of the exact reason.
Whereas, if she did it when you were both alone together then it would be more likely that she either did it to reassure you or to show attraction to you. It would be helpful to consider whether or not you were sad at the time to get a better idea of why she did it.
Consider the way that she reacts to seeing you
When trying to understand why she touched your hair it would help to consider the way that she reacts to seeing you.
If she reacts to seeing you by doing things such as:
- Uncrossing her arms
- Raising her eyebrows
- Sitting upright
- Adjusting her appearance
- Brushing her hair to the side
- Pointing her feet at you
- Holding eye contact
- Having more dilated pupils
Then it would be a positive sign and more likely that she touched your hair due to being attracted to you.
Whereas, if she reacts to seeing you by:
- Crossing her arms
- Tensing her jaw
- Tightening her lips
- Pointing her feet away from you
Then it would be more likely that she has negative feelings towards you.
Think about how she interacts with other people
When trying to understand the way that she feels about you it would also be helpful to consider the way that she interacts with other people compared to you.
If she tends to touch her other friends a lot when talking to them and she shows the same behavior and body language around them as she shows around you then it would be more likely that she was being friendly when she touched your hair.
Whereas, if she only did it to you and she showed different body language around you then it would be more likely that she did it due to attraction assuming that she showed other signs of attraction.
Look for multiple signs in her body language
When trying to make sense of what she is suggesting with her body language it would be helpful to consider multiple aspects of her body language.
This is because she could be showing a single body language sign for many different reasons making it difficult to accurately understand why she is showing it.
Whereas, it would be more likely that she is showing multiple body language signs that all suggest the same thing for that specific reason.
Consider your relationship with her
It would also be useful to consider the type of relationship that you have with her.
If it was a girl that you hadn’t met before then it would be more likely that she was showing attraction providing she showed it in other ways as well. It could also be that she touches people a lot naturally so it would help to consider whether or not she touched other people as well.
Whereas, if you have been friends with her for a while and she touches other people often then it would be more likely that she was being friendly. If she did it out of the blue then it could have been a sign of attraction if she also showed other signs of it as well.
If you want to learn more about body language, a book I would recommend would be The Definitive Book of Body Language (on Amazon). It shows you how to interpret body language and understand people's true intentions.