If a girl recently rubbed your back then you might be wondering why and what it might mean.

This post will help you understand she rubbed your back and why other girls might do it as well in the future.

So, what does it mean when a girl rubs your back? It would likely mean that she is attracted to you especially if she only does it to you and she shows other signs of attraction around you. She might also just be being friendly or she might do it to cheer you up.

Since there are a number of reasons why a girl might rub your back it is important to consider the context of how she did it and the body language that she showed.

By doing so you will be able to get a better understanding of why she would rub your back and the way that she feels about you.

Reasons why a girl will rub your back

Each of the different reasons why a girl will rub your back will likely come with a number of clues in her body language and behavior.

Below, I will mention a number of reasons why a girl will rub your back and the clues in her body language and behavior that you can expect to see with them.

She is attracted to you

If she only does it to you and she changes her body language and behavior around you in a positive way then it could be a sign that she is attracted to you.

Girls will often touch a guy that they like more and find excuses to touch them so it could be why she did it with you.

If she did rub your back because she is attracted to you then it would be likely that she would show other signs of being attracted to you.

These signs could include:

  • Holding prolonged eye contact with you
  • Having more dilated pupils than normal when looking at you
  • Standing closer to you than she does with other people when talking to you
  • Brushing her hair to the side
  • Playing with her hair with her palms facing you
  • Touching you a lot
  • Pointing her feet at you
  • Asking you the most questions when in a group together
  • Getting anxious when you are with other girls
  • Looking at you when she is laughing
  • Staring at you then quickly looking away when you notice
  • Adjusting her appearance when she notices you
  • Sitting or standing more upright when she notices you
  • Uncrossing her arms when she notices you

It’s important to note that she might show a single one of these signs for a variety of different reasons. This makes it important to see multiple signs of attraction to be able to be confident that she is attracted to you.

She is trying to cheer you up

The reason that she rubbed your back could be that she was trying to reassure you.

If that was why she did it then it would be likely that you would have been talking to her about something that made you feel sad. It would also be likely that you would have shown signs of being sad such as having watery eyes, a flat speech tone, taking deep breaths and inhaling through the nose quickly.

She wants to see your reaction

It could be the case that she is attracted to you but she is not sure whether or not you are attracted to her.

If that is the case then it could be that she rubbed your back to see if you would react positively.

If she did then it would be likely that she would show multiple signs of attraction when she is around you.

She is being friendly

The reason that she rubbed your back could be that she was being friendly.

If that was the case then it would be likely that she would do it to her other friends as well and that she would show the same body language and behavior with them as she does with you.

Consider your relationship with her

When trying to understand why she rubbed your back it would be helpful to consider the type of relationship that you have with her.

If she has been friends with you for a while then it could just be that she was being friendly especially if she also does it to her other friends. She might also have been trying to reassure you. However, she might have done it due to being attracted to you but she would also likely show signs of being attracted to you in her body language when she is around you.

If she was a girl that you hadn’t met before then she could have been showing attraction to you if she also showed other signs of it in her body language. She might also have done it because she was being friendly.

Consider when and where she did it

The timing and location of when she rubbed your back would also be a useful thing to consider.

If she rubbed your back when you were both alone together then it would be more likely that she was showing attraction unless you were sad at the time.

Whereas, if she did it while other people were around then it would be more likely that she was being friendly. However, she might also have been showing attraction depending on whether or not she showed other signs of it as well.

Consider how she interacts with other people

Comparing the way that she interacts with other people with the way that she interacts with you would also likely be a useful thing to do when trying to understand why she rubbed your back.

If she also rubs her friend’s backs often and she shows the same body language around them as she shows around you then it would be more likely that she was being friendly when she rubbed yours.

Whereas, if she only rubbed your back and she changes her body language and behavior when she is around you, it would be more likely that she did it due to being attracted to you assuming that she showed it in her body language.

Observe how she reacts to seeing you

When trying to understand the way that she feels about you and why she rubbed your back it would be useful to consider the way that she reacts to seeing you.

If she reacts to seeing you by changing her body language and behavior then it would be a strong sign that she has good or bad feelings about you.

If she reacts to seeing you by:

  • Sitting more upright
  • Holding eye contact
  • Brushing her hair to the side
  • Playing with her hair with her palms facing you
  • Uncrossing her arms
  • Raising her eyebrows and smiling
  • Having more dilated pupils
  • Pointing her feet at you

Then it would be more likely that she rubbed your back due to being attracted to you. Although, she might also have done it due to being friendly if she also does it with her other friends as well.

Look for clusters of body language

When considering what her body language is suggesting it is important to consider multiple aspects of her body language at a time.

This is because she could be showing a single body language sign for multiple different reasons making it hard to accurately understand why she is showing it.

Whereas, if she shows multiple different signs of the same thing then it would be more likely that she is showing them for that reason.

Related

What does it mean when a girl rubs your back while hugging? It could be that she is trying to reassure you, being friendly or that she is attracted to you. It would be helpful to consider the body language that she shows around you, the context of how she did it and whether or not she did it with her other friends as well.

If you want to learn more about body language, a book I would recommend would be The Definitive Book of Body Language (on Amazon). It shows you how to interpret body language and understand people's true intentions.

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