If a guy recently touched you on the head your probably wondering why he did it and what it might mean.
This post will help you figure out why he did it and help you figure out why a guy might touch your head as it happens in the future.
So, what does it mean if a guy touches your head? A guy touching your hand might mean that he likes you especially if he only does it with you, he does it multiple times and on separate occasions. He might also do it because he is just teasing you, doing it as a power-play or to see your reaction.
Seeing as there are a number of reasons why a guy might touch your head it is important to consider the context of how it happens and the body language signals that he shows.
By doing so you’ll be able to get a better understanding of why he touched your head.
Why a guy will touch your head
Each of the different reasons why a guy will touch your head will likely come with a number of clues in his body language.
Below, I will mention a number of reasons why a guy will touch your head and the body language signals to expect to see with them.
He’s attracted to you
The first reason that a guy might touch your head is that he is attracted to you.
This would be more likely to be the reason if it is only your head that he touches and he changes his body language when he is around you.
If he is attracted to you then it would be likely that he would show a number of body language signals of attraction.
These signals can include:
- Having dilated pupils when talking to you
- Touching you more than others in the group
- Asking you more questions than he does it his other friends
- Holding prolonged eye contact with you
- Pointing his feet in your direction even when he is to the side
- Mirroring your body language
- A lack of negative signals such as squinting or crossing the arms
- Getting anxious when you’re with other men
- Blinking more than usual
- Looking at your lips
- Standing in your general area when in a group
- Talking with a deeper voice than normal
- Laughing and looking to see if you did
- Staring at you then quickly looking away when you notice
It’s a power play
When a guy is trying to show that he is of a high position in a group he will often touch the people around him.
The reason that he touched you on the head could be because he was doing it as a power-play.
If this is the case then it would be more likely that he did it with other people present, more firmly and that he would have done it more directly.
If it is why he did it then it would be likely that he would show other dominating type behaviors such as:
- Squinting when looking at you
- Staring at people when they are talking
- Telling people to do things
- Having tight lips when people are talking
- Talking with a deeper voice
- Interrupting people
- Standing in people’s personal space
He wants to be more than just friends
If he has been your friend for a while then touching your head could be a sign that he wants to be more than just friends.
If that is why he touched your head then it would be likely that he would have been showing signs of attraction when around you. However, you might not have picked up on them.
It would be especially likely that he would get jealous or anxious when you’re with other men, nervous around you and that he would make plans based on yours.
He’s mirroring you
One reason that he might have touched your head might actually be because he was mirroring you.
When a guy wants to fit in with a certain group of people he will often show the same body language that they do.
This means that if you have touched him on the head before and you both hang out with the same people then he might have been mirroring you.
If he was mirroring you then it would be likely that he would mirror you in other ways as well which can include:
- Showing similar facial gestures as you
- Talking at a similar pitch as you
- Standing like you do
- Smiling like you
- Mirroring how you walk and sit
He wants to see your reaction
It could be the case that he touched your head because he is attracted to you and he wanted to see if you would react positively.
If that is why he did it then he probably would have shown nervous looking body language when he did it because he was unsure of how you would react.
He would also likely show that he is attracted to you in his body language when he is around you.
It’s normal where he’s from
It might be the case that it’s normal to touch people a lot in the culture that he is from.
Even if that is the case then he still might have done it for a different reason. It would be necessary for you to consider the body language signals that he was showing when he did it to get a better understanding of why.
He was teasing you
He might have done it because he was teasing you.
If that is why he did it then it would be likely that he was smiling, mimicking you in some way, doing it as more of a jerking type motion and that he would only have done it then.
Consider how he touched it
When trying to figure out why he touched your head it would be helpful to consider the way that he touched it.
If he did it in a more firm and direct way then it would be more likely that it was dominating behavior.
Whereas, if he caressed it then it would be a much stronger sign of attraction.
Consider your relationship with him
When trying to understand why he touched your head it would be helpful to consider the type of relationship that you have with him.
If you have been dating him for a while then it would be more likely that he did it because he wants to take the relationship further or that he wants to move it to a more intimate stage.
If he has been your friend for a while then it would make it more likely that he actually has a crush on you that he hasn’t mentioned. However, he might also have been joking so it’s important to consider the body language that he shows around you.
If you hadn’t met him before then he may either had done it due to showing dominant behavior, attraction or both.
Consider how he interacts with other’s
The way that he behaves around other people will likely be a useful thing to think about when trying to figure out why he touched your head.
If you notice that he touches other people a lot and his body language doesn’t change around you it would signal that he has a more touchy personality. It could be because he is more flirtatious naturally, dominating or that he is overly friendly with people. It would be necessary to consider what type of body language that he shows to figure out which.
Whereas, If he doesn’t seem to touch other people much and his body language does change when he notices you then it would be more likely that he touched your head for one of the above reasons.
Consider where he did it
If he touched your head in a public place where other people where watching then it would be more likely that it was dominating behavior especially if you know the other people.
Whereas, if he did it more softly while you were both alone together it would be more likely that he touched your head because he was showing attraction to you.
Look for multiple body language signals with the same meaning
There are often a lot of different possible meanings of single pieces of body language. This means that it can be unreliable to make conclusions based on single pieces of body language.
However, when a guy is showing multiple body language signals that all point towards the same thing it would often be much more likely that it really is the reason that he’s doing it.
This means that if you want to figure out whether or not he touched your head because he’s attracted to you it would be helpful to notice multiple other body language signals that suggest that he’s attracted to you.
If you want to learn more about body language, a book I would recommend would be The Definitive Book of Body Language (on Amazon). It shows you how to interpret body language and understand people's true intentions.