If a guy has been telling you about his relationship with other girls then you’re probably wondering why and what it might mean.
This post will help you understand why he would tell you about his relationship with other girls and why other guys would tell you as well in the future.
So, what does it mean when a guy tells you about his relationship with other girls? A guy telling you about his relationship with other girls could mean that he is attracted to you especially if he only does it with you, he highlights positive aspects of his relationships and if he mentions that he is available. He might also do it naturally, he might be insecure, he might be feeling sad or it could mean that he just considers you a friend.
Since there are a number of different reasons why a guy will tell you about his relationship with other girls it’s important to consider the context of how he does it and the body language that he shows around you.
By doing so you will be able to get a better understanding of why he would tell you about his relationship with other girls and the way that he feels about you.
Why a guy would tell you about his relationship with other girls
Each of the different reasons why a guy will tell you about his relationship with other girls will likely come with a number of clues in the things that he says and the body language that he shows.
Below, I will mention a number of reasons why a guy will tell you about his relationship with other girls and the signs that you can expect to see with them.
He’s attracted to you
If he only seems to tell you about his relationship with other girls, he emphasizes the positive parts and he changes his body language when he sees you then it would be likely that he is attracted to you.
The reason that it can suggest that he is attracted to you is that it implies that he wants to give you the impression that he is popular with other girls and that you would have a good relationship with him as well.
If he is attracted to you then it would be likely that he would show signs of being attracted to you in his behavior and body language when he is around you.
These signs can include:
- Pointing his feet at you
- Touching your feet with his
- Having more dilated pupils when he sees you
- Holding prolonged eye contact with you
- Touching you a lot
- Standing nearer to you than he does with other people
- Talking to you with a deeper voice than he does with other people
- Asking you the most questions when you’re in a group together
- Keeping his focus on you when multiple people are talking
- Staring at you then smiling or looking away when you notice
- Positioning himself to be nearer to you
- Uncrossing his arms when he sees you
- Standing or sitting with a straighter posture when he sees you
- Adjusting his hair or clothing when he sees you
- Getting anxious when you’re with other men
- Watching you when you’re with other men
- Sticking around while you’re with other men
- Getting defensive when other men are with you both
He wants to make you like him
The reason that he tells you about other girls could also be that he wants to get you to like him by making you feel like there are other girls that you have to compete with in order to be with him.
If that is why he does it then it would be likely that he would exaggerate on many of the more positive aspects of his relationship with the other girls and they might not even be real.
If that is why he tells you about his relationship with other girls then it would also be likely that he would show a number of the signs of attraction when he is around you mentioned above.
He naturally expresses his feelings in that way
It might be the case that he naturally tells people about his relationships with other people when talking to people.
If that is why he told you about his relationship with other girls then it would be likely that he would also tell other people about it as well. It would also be likely that he would show similar body language around his other friends as he shows around you unless he is also attracted to you in which case he would likely show signs of attraction as well.
He’s insecure
The reason that he tells you about his relationship with other girls could be that he is insecure about himself and that he is doing it in order to make him appear to be more popular.
If that is why he does it then it would be likely that he would care a lot about the way people perceive him.
He would also probably show other signs of insecurity such as:
- Making you feel insecure about yourself
- Showcasing his accomplishments a lot
- He brags about himself often
- He often complains that things are not good enough
It could be the case that he is insecure but that he is also attracted to you. If that is the case then it would be likely that he would show signs of attraction and insecurity when he is around you.
He was feeling sad
The reason that he told you about his relationship with other girls could be that he was feeling sad.
This would be more likely to be the case if he was telling you about an aspect of his relationship that might make him feel sad. It would also be more likely that he would only have told you about his relationship with other girls once and that he wouldn’t do it repeatedly.
If he was sad then it would also be likely that he would have shown signs of being sad in his body language.
These signs can include:
- Slouching
- Looking down
- Being more quiet than usual
- Watery eyes
- Taking deeper breaths
- Inhaling through the nose quickly
- Flat speech tone
He considers you a friend
The reason that he told you about his relationship with other girls could be that he considers you a friend and he wanted to talk about it.
If that is the case then it would be likely that he would say similar things when his other friends are around and that he would show the same body language and behavior around them as he does around you.
Consider the aspects that he emphasizes
When trying to understand why he told you about his relationship with other girls it would be helpful to consider the aspects that he focused on.
If he was mainly bragging about having lots of sexual experiences with other women then he would be more likely to have been doing it due to being attracted to you or possibly that he is insecure about himself. It would be helpful to consider whether or not he was showing many signs of attraction when he did it.
Whereas, if he was focusing on the more negative aspects then he might have been doing it because he was feeling sad about it and possibly that he was feeling insecure about himself. He might also have done it to show to you that he is available to you. If he did then it would be likely that he wouldn’t have shown many signs of being sad and he would likely show signs of attraction when around you.
Consider how he interacts with other people
When trying to understand the way that he feels about you it would be helpful to consider the way that he interacts with other people.
If he tends to tell other people about his relationship with other girls and he shows the same body language around them as he does around you then it would be more likely that he naturally does it.
Whereas, if he only talks to you about his relationship with other girls and he changes his behavior and body language around you then it would be more likely that he is attracted to you assuming that he shows signs of attraction.
Consider how he reacts to seeing you
When trying to understand the way that he feels about you it would be helpful to consider the way that he reacts to seeing you.
If he reacts to seeing you by doing things such as:
- Uncrossing his arms
- Sitting upright
- Adjusting his hair or clothing
- Holding eye contact with you
- Having more dilated pupils
- Making space for you
- Raising his eyebrows
- Smiling
Then it would be likely that he has positive feelings towards you and that he told you about his relationship with other girls due to being attracted to you.
Consider multiple aspects of his body language
When considering his body language it would be helpful to consider clusters of body language.
This means that you should consider multiple aspects of his body language at a time.
This is because he might show a single sign in his body language for a number of different reasons making it difficult to know the exact reason that he is showing it.
Whereas, if he shows a number of body language signs that can all mean the same thing then it would be much more likely that he is showing them for that reason.
Related
Why does he say that other women are hot? It could be that he is attracted to you and he is trying to make you jealous in which case he would likely show signs of attraction in his body language and behavior. It could also be that he was trying to make you feel bad in which case he would likely have self-esteem issues.
If you want to learn more about body language, a book I would recommend would be The Definitive Book of Body Language (on Amazon). It shows you how to interpret body language and understand people's true intentions.