If a guy has been talking to you about his relationship problems then you might be wondering why and what it might mean about the way that he feels about you.
This post will show you a number of reasons why he might talk to you about his relationship problems and why other guys might do the same in the future.
So, what does it mean when a guy talks to you about his relationship problems? It could be that he is attracted to you if he mentions that he is single or that he wants to leave his girlfriend and he shows signs of attraction around you. He might also do it naturally or he might do it because he is feeling sad or annoyed.
There are actually a number of different reasons why a guy might talk to you about his relationship problems and there are a number of things that you can consider when trying to figure out the exact reason.
Why a guy will tell you about his relationship problems
Each of the different reasons why a guy will talk to you about his relationship problems will likely come with a number of clues in the way that he does it and the body language that he shows.
In the following sections, I will mention a number of reasons why a guy will mention his relationship problems, the signs to look for and the things to consider.
He is attracted to you
The reason that he was telling you about his relationship issues could be that he is attracted to you.
This would be more likely if he only seems to do it with you, he mentioned being single, wanting a girlfriend or wanting to leave his current girlfriend and if he asked if you are single or want a boyfriend. It would also be more likely if he shows different body language around you compared to when he is with other people.
If he is attracted to you then it would be likely that he would show some signs of attraction around you that he does not around other people.
These signs could include:
- Keeping his focus on you when multiple people are talking
- Pointing his feet at you (people often point their feet at people that they are attracted to)
- Adjusting his appearance when he sees you
- Asking you the most questions when in a group with you
- Touching you a lot
- Looking in your direction a lot and smiling or quickly looking away when you notice
- Holding prolonged eye contact with you
- Talking to you with a deeper voice than he does with other people
- Standing closer to you than he does with other people
- Watching you and getting anxious when you are around other men
- Getting defensive when other men are with you both
There are more signs of attraction that a guy might show around you and I have written about more of them in this blog post.
He is thinking of leaving his girlfriend
The reason that he did it might be that he is thinking of leaving his girlfriend.
The reason that he is thinking of leaving her might be that he is attracted to you. If he is then it would be likely that he would show some signs of attraction around you.
It could also be that he just wanted to talk to someone about why he wanted to leave her. This could be because he wanted confirmation that it would be a good reason to leave her.
He is feeling sad
The reason that he was telling you about his relationship problems could be that he was feeling sad.
If this was the reason then it would be more likely that he would have done it after something happened that would cause him to feel sad about his relationship status.
It would also be more likely that he would show signs of being sad when talking about it. These signs could include:
- Drooping the shoulders
- Speaking with a flat pitch
- Looking down a lot
- Feeling fatigued
- Watery eyes or sniffing through the nose a lot
He does it naturally
It might be the case that he has a habit of talking about his relationship problems.
This would be more likely if he also tells other people about his relationship problems and if he told you about them when other people were around.
If he does do it naturally then it could be the case that he is also attracted to you. If he is then it would be likely that he would show some signs of attraction when he is around you.
Consider the way that he reacts upon seeing you
When trying to understand why he did it and how he feels about you it would help to consider how he reacts when he sees you.
If you notice that he changes his body language and behavior, noticeably, then it would make it more likely that he is attracted to you.
So, if he reacts to seeing you by doing things such as:
- Adjusting his appearance
- Adjusting his posture
- Facing towards you (especially with his feet)
- Moving closer to you
- Having more dilated pupils
Then it would make it more likely that he is attracted to you.
Consider how he interacts with other people
It would also be helpful to compare the way that he interacts with other people with how he interacts with you.
If he shows the same body language around other people and he also seems to tell them about his relationship problems then it would be more likely that he does it naturally or that he considers you a friend.
If he only tells you about his relationship problems and his body language is different around you then it would make it more likely that he is attracted to you. That is assuming that he changes it in a way that shows attraction.
Consider when and where he was telling you about his relationship problems
It would also help to consider the timing of when he told you about his relationship problems.
If he told you about them while other people were around then it would make it more likely that he either does it naturally or he was feeling particularly annoyed in that moment.
Whereas, if he did it when he was alone with you then it would make it more likely that he was either showing attraction to you or he was feeling sad. It would help to consider what his body language was like.
Consider a number of body language signs
When thinking about what his body language might have been showing it would help to consider multiple signs at the same time.
The reason for this is that a single body language sign can have many different possible meanings. This can cause single body language signs to be less reliable on their own.
Whereas, if he shows multiple signs that all suggest the same thing then it would be more likely that he is showing them for that reason.
If you want to learn more about body language, a book I would recommend would be The Definitive Book of Body Language (on Amazon). It shows you how to interpret body language and understand people's true intentions.