If a was recently telling you about her boyfriend then you might be wondering why and what it might mean about the way that she feels about you.

This post will show you a number of reasons why she might have talked about her boyfriend and why other girls might do it as well in the future.

So, why would a girl tell you about her boyfriend? It would likely be a sign that she is not attracted to you especially if she does it when she is alone with you. She could also do it despite being attracted to you because she doesn’t want to cheat on him or possibly because she doesn’t want to feel guilty about doing so.

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Since there are actually a number of reasons why a girl will tell you about her boyfriend it would help to consider the context of how she did it and the body language she was showing.

Why a girl will tell you about her boyfriend

Each of the different reasons why a girl will tell you about her boyfriend will likely come with a number of clues in the way that she does it and the body language that she shows.

Below, I will mention a number of reasons why she might have told you about her boyfriend, the signs to look for and the things to consider.

She is not attracted to you

The reason that she told you about her boyfriend could have been that she was showing that she is not interested in you.

This would be more likely if she did it while alone with you or if she did it specifically to you when you were around other people and if she did it after you had just shown interest in her yourself.

If she wasn’t interested in you then she might have shown it in her body language by doing things such as:

  • Squinting at you
  • Crossing her arms around you
  • Having tight lips while you were talking
  • Avoiding eye contact with you
  • Giving you short answers
  • Not asking you any questions
  • Distancing herself from you
  • Pointing her feet away from you

She is attracted to you

It could be the case that she is actually attracted to you but she mentioned her boyfriend because she doesn’t want to cheat on him or possibly because she intends to but she doesn’t want to feel guilty for it.

If she is attracted to you then it would be likely that she would show signs of being attracted to you, in her body language, when she is around you.

These signs could include:

  • Holding prolonged eye contact with you
  • Having dilated pupils when looking at you
  • Touching you a lot
  • Standing closer to you than she does with other people
  • Mirroring your body language
  • Talking to you, with a higher-pitched voice, than she does with other people
  • Asking you a lot of questions and giving you the most attention
  • Laughing and looking at you
  • Laughing a lot at the things that you say
  • Brushing her hair to the side when she is around you
  • Stroking her hair while talking to you
  • Tilting her head while talking to you
  • Adjusting her appearance when she sees you

She mentions him naturally

It could be the case that she has a habit of mentioning him a lot naturally.

This would be more likely if she mentioned him when you didn’t show any interest in her and if she also mentions him when she is with other people as well.

In this case, she may or may not also be attracted to you. It would help to consider the body language that she shows around you and how it is different compared to when she is with other people.

She didn’t like someone you were with

It could be the case that she was actually showing a lack of interest in someone else that you were with at the time.

This would be more likely if she shows signs of not being interested in him, in her body language, when she is around him.

Again, in this case, she could still be interested in you and it would help to consider how she interacts with you and the body language that she shows.

Think about how she reacts to seeing you

When trying to understand why she told you about her boyfriend it would help to consider the way that she reacts to seeing you.

If she changes her body language and behavior in a way that shows attraction or disinterest then it would be more likely that she told you about him for one of those reasons.

If she reacts to seeing you by doing things such as:

  • Adjusting her appearance
  • Brushing her hair to the side
  • Ventilating her hair
  • Pointing her feet at you
  • Sitting or standing more upright and uncrossing her arms

Then it would be more likely that she is actually attracted to you.

Whereas, if she reacts to seeing you by doing things such as:

  • Squinting
  • Crossing her arms
  • Tensing her jaw
  • Tightening her lips
  • Avoiding eye contact
  • Pointing her feet away from you

Then it would be more likely that she told you about her boyfriend due to not being interested in you.

Think about how she interacts with other people

Comparing the way that she interacts with you with how she interacts with her other friends could also help in understanding why she told you about her boyfriend.

If she also tells her other friends about him a lot and she shows the same body language around them as she does with you then it would be more likely that she talks about him a lot naturally.

Whereas, if she only told you about him and her body language is more negative around you compared to when she is with her other friends then it would be more likely that she is not interested in you.

Consider when and where she told you about her boyfriend

The timing and location of when and where she told you about her boyfriend could also be a useful thing to consider.

If she told you about her boyfriend while she was alone with you then it would be more likely that she either was showing that she wasn’t interested in you or she was but she didn’t want to cheat or to feel guilty.

Whereas, if she did it while you were around other people then it would make it more likely that she mentioned him naturally or that she said it because she didn’t like someone else that you were with.

Look for a number of signs

When considering her body language she was showing it is important to try to look for multiple signs.

This is because she might have shown a single body language sign for a number of different reasons. This can make single body language signs unreliable on their own.

Whereas, if she was showing multiple body language signs of the same thing then it would be more likely that she was showing them for that reason.

Related

What does it mean when a girl tells you about her boyfriend problems? It would likely mean that she is not attracted to you. However, she might be attracted to you and trying to show you that she is open to leaving her boyfriend. It would help to consider the body language that she shows around you.

If you want to learn more about body language, a book I would recommend would be The Definitive Book of Body Language (on Amazon). It shows you how to interpret body language and understand people's true intentions.

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