If a girl was recently telling you about her ex then you might be wondering why and what it might mean about the way that she feels about you.

This post will show you why she might have told you about her ex and why other girls might do it as well in the future.

So, why would a girl tell me about her ex? It would often be a sign that she still likes her ex. However, it could also be the case that she is talking about him because she wants to know about your ex’s which would be more likely if she shows signs of attraction around you.

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Since there are actually a number of reasons why a girl might tell you about her ex it would be helpful to consider the body language she shows around you and the context of how she did it.

Why a girl will tell you about her ex

Each of the different reasons why she told you about her ex will likely come with a number of clues in her body language and in the way that she tells you about him.

Below, I will mention a number of reasons why a girl will tell you about her ex, the signs to look for and the things to consider.

She still likes her ex

The reason that she was telling you about her ex could be that she is still attracted to him.

This could even be the case if she was talking about him in a negative way. However, it would be more likely if she talks about him positively, if she still talks to him and if she shows signs of attraction around him (mentioned below).

Something to also be aware of is that she might be using you as a way to make her ex jealous. This would be more likely if she only seems to flirt with you when her ex is around you both.

She wants to know about your past girlfriends

It could be the case that she was talking about him because she is attracted to you.

This would be more likely if she also asks about your ex’s, she does it when her ex is not around and if she only does it with you.

If she did talk about her ex with you because she is attracted to you then it would be likely that she would show signs of attraction around you even when her ex is not around.

These signs could include:

  • Brushing her hair to the side when she is around you
  • Stroking her hair while talking to you
  • Holding prolonged eye contact with you
  • Touching you a lot
  • Standing closer to you than she does with other people
  • Laughing and looking to see if you’re also laughing
  • Laughing a lot at the things you say
  • Glancing at you a lot and quickly looking away or smiling when you notice
  • Pointing her feet at you
  • Looking at you with her friends
  • Talking to you, with a higher-pitched voice, than she does with other people
  • Having dilated pupils when looking at you
  • Tilting her head to the side while talking to you
  • Adjusting her appearance when she sees you

She doesn’t like her ex

It could be the case that she told you about her ex because she doesn’t like him.

This would be more likely if she doesn’t message him still and if she doesn’t still try to talk to him. If she does then it would be more likely that she is actually still attracted to him.

It would also be likely that she would show distancing behaviors when he is around her such as:

  • Crossing her arms
  • Avoiding eye contact with him
  • Avoiding talking to him
  • Pointing her feet away from him
  • Distancing herself from him

She was just making conversation

It could have been the case that she told you about her ex because she was just making conversation.

This would be more likely if she did it during a lull in the conversation or if she did it while you were both around other people. It would also be more likely if she asked about other people’s ex’s as well.

Consider how she reacts to seeing you

When trying to understand why she was telling you about her ex it would help to consider the way that she reacts to seeing you.

If she reacts to seeing you by noticeably showing signs of attraction then it would be more likely that she was talking about him due to being attracted to you.

So, if she reacts to seeing you by doing things such as:

  • Brushing her hair to the side
  • Holding eye contact with you
  • Sitting or standing more upright and uncrossing her arms
  • Adjusting her appearance
  • Positioning herself to be nearer to you

Then it would be more likely that she is actually attracted to you.

Consider how she interacts with her ex (if you can)

It would also be helpful to consider how she interacts with her ex.

If she is still talking to him, she shows signs of attraction to him when he is around or if she only flirts with you when he is around then it would be more likely that she is actually still attracted to him.

Consider how she interacts with other people

It would also help to compare the way that she interacts with other people with how she interacts with you.

If she also talks about her ex to other people and she shows the same body language around them as she does with you then it would be more likely that she is either still into him or she was just trying to make conversation.

If she only talks about him with you and she shows signs of attraction around you that she doesn’t with other people then it would be more likely that she was either attracted to you or trying to make him jealous. It would help to consider if she shows signs of attraction when he is not around and if she still talks to him or sees him often.

Consider when and where she talked about her ex

It would also help to consider the timing and location of when and where she told you about her ex.

If she did it while she was alone with you then it would make it more likely that she was showing attraction to you. However, she could still have been doing it for a different reason so it would help to consider the other things already mentioned.

If she did it while you were around other people then it would be more likely that she was making conversation but it could also be a sign that she still likes him or that she doesn’t.

Look for multiple signs in her body language

When considering her body language it would be helpful to consider multiple aspects of it at the same time.

A single body language sign will usually have multiple different possible meanings making them less reliable on their own.

Whereas, a cluster of body language signs that all suggest the same thing would be more likely to be there for that specific reason.

If you want to learn more about body language, a book I would recommend would be The Definitive Book of Body Language (on Amazon). It shows you how to interpret body language and understand people's true intentions.

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