If a girl recently said no to a date with you then you are probably wondering why and what it might mean about the way that she feels about you.
This post will show you a number of reasons why she might have said no to a date and why other girls might do the same in the future.
So, why would a girl say no to a date? It would likely be because she is not interested in you. However, it could also be that she doesn’t want a boyfriend, she is seeing someone else already or that she was busy at the time you wanted to go out.
There are actually a number of reasons why a girl might say no to a date and there are a number of things to consider.
Why a girl would say no to a date
Each of the different reasons why a girl will say no to a date will likely come with a number of clues in the way that she does it and the body language that she shows.
Below, I will mention a number of reasons why a girl will say no to a date, the signs to look for and the things to consider.
She doesn’t want a boyfriend
The reason that she said no could be that she is not looking for a boyfriend at the moment.
This would be more likely if she has mentioned not wanting a boyfriend in the past and if she also says no to going on dates with other guys. It would also be more likely if she recently came out of a relationship or if she will be moving away soon.
She is seeing someone else
The reason that she said no could be that she is already seeing someone else.
This would be more likely if she has mentioned other guys around you in the past and if she doesn’t show many signs of attraction around you.
She might also have initially been showing signs of interest in you but she would likely have stopped showing them or she would have shown them less when she started seeing the other guy. She might also stop showing them when the other guy is around.
She was busy
It could be the case that she was actually just busy at the time but she is actually attracted to you.
If this is the case then it would be likely that she would have given the excuse of being busy at that time.
If she is interested in you then she might also suggest another time to go out. However, she still might be interested in you if she doesn’t but she does show signs of interest in you.
Signs of interest that she might show could include:
- Holding prolonged eye contact with you
- Standing closer to you than she does with other people
- Brushing her hair to the side when she sees you and when talking to you
- Touching you a lot
- Adjusting her appearance when she sees you
- Laughing and looking to see if you are also laughing
- Laughing a lot at the things that you say
- Stroking her hair while talking to you
- Pointing her feet at you (people point their feet at people that they are attracted to)
- Having dilated pupils (people have more dilated pupils when looking at someone that they are attracted to)
There are many more signs of attraction that a girl might show you and I have written about more of them in this blog post.
She is not attracted to you
The reason that she said no to the date could just be that she is not interested in you.
This would be more likely if she has not been showing many signs of interest in you, if she shows similar body language around you as with her other friends or if she shows signs of disinterest around you.
Signs of disinterest could include:
- Pointing her feet away from you
- Smiling only at the mouth or smiling with a closed mouth
- Avoiding eye contact
- Looking at her friends when talking with you
- Squinting at you
- Tightening her lips when looking at you
Consider how she reacts to seeing you
When trying to figure out why she said no to the date it would help to consider how she reacts to seeing you.
If she reacts to seeing you by noticeably changing her body language then it would make it more likely that she has good or bad feelings about you.
If she reacts to seeing you by doing things such as:
- Brushing her hair to the side
- Adjusting her appearance
- Seeking eye contact
- Adjusting her posture
- Moving closer to you
Then it would make it more likely that she is actually interested in you but she was busy when she said no.
Whereas, if she reacts to seeing you by doing things such as:
- Facing away from you
- Pointing her feet away from you
- Tightening her lips
- Only smiling at the mouth
Then it would make it more likely that she isn’t actually interested in you.
Consider how she acts around other people
It would also help to compare the way that she interacts with you with how she interacts with other people.
If she shows the same body language around other people as she does with you then it would make it more likely that she considers you a friend.
Whereas, if she shows different body language around you then it would make it more likely that she has good or bad feelings about you depending on how she changes it.
Consider when and where you asked her
It would also help to consider the location that you asked her in.
If you asked her when she was around her friends then she might not have wanted to say yes when her friends were watching. It would help to consider the body language that she normally shows you when she is not around her other friends.
If she said no when you were alone with her then it would make it more likely that she was not interested in you.
Look for a number of body language clues
When considering what she might have been showing, in her body language, it would help to consider multiple signs at the same time.
This is because people will show single body language signs for multiple different reasons making body language signs unreliable on their own.
Whereas, it would be more likely that a person would show multiple body language signs, that all suggest the same thing, for that exact reason.
If you want to learn more about body language, a book I would recommend would be The Definitive Book of Body Language (on Amazon). It shows you how to interpret body language and understand people's true intentions.