If a girl that likes you recently rejected you then you might be wondering why.
This post will show you a number of reasons why she might have done it and why other girls might do it as well in the future.
So, why would a girl reject a guy she likes? It could be that she wasn’t expecting you to ask, she isn’t looking for a boyfriend, she was in a bad mood or that she didn’t feel like she knew you well enough. It could also be the case that you read her signals wrong and she wasn’t actually interested in you in the first place.
Since there are a number of reasons why she might have rejected you despite liking you it would be helpful to consider the context of how she did it and the body language that she was showing.
Why a girl will reject a guy that she likes
Each of the different reasons why a girl will reject a guy that she likes will likely come with a number of clues in the way that she does it and in the body language that she shows.
Below, I will mention a number of reasons why a girl will reject a guy that she likes, the signs to look for and the things to consider.
She wasn’t expecting you to ask
The reason that she did it could have been that she wasn’t expecting you to ask and she naturally reacted by saying no.
This would be more likely if you hadn’t been showing many signs of attraction towards her before you asked her out.
It could be the case that she does actually want to go out with you and she might show signs of being attracted to you, in her body language, when she is around you.
These signs could include:
- Holding prolonged eye contact with you
- Standing closer to you than she does with other people
- Asking you more questions and giving you the most attention
- Brushing her hair to the side when she is around you
- Stroking her hair while talking to you
- Having dilated pupils while talking to you
- Laughing and looking to see if you are also laughing
- Pointing her feet at you when she is in the same room as you
- Adjusting her appearance when she sees you
- Talking to you with a higher-pitched voice than she does with other people
She isn’t looking for a boyfriend
It could also have been the case that she did it because she is not looking for a boyfriend.
This would be more likely if she has said so in the past or if she is planning on moving away soon. It would also be more likely if she also seems to reject other guys that she likes in a similar way.
She doesn’t actually like you
It could be the case that she was not actually interested in you in the first place.
She might have just been showing positive body language towards you because she was being polite. If that was the case then it would be less likely that she was showing signs of attraction, as mentioned above, when she was around you.
She might also have been showing signs of not liking you, in her body language, when she was around you.
These signs could have included:
- Squinting at you
- Crossing her arms while around you
- Pointing her feet away from you
- Giving you short answers
- Avoiding eye contact with you
- Having tight lips while you were talking
- Distancing herself from you
- Only smiling at the mouth and not beside the eyes as well
She was in a bad mood
The reason that she rejected you could have been that she was just in a bad mood at the time.
If she was then she would likely have been acting differently, before you asked her out, compared to how she normally does. She would also have been showing signs of being in a bad mood while she was with other people as well.
She might also have shown signs of being in a bad mood as well by doing things such as:
- Talking less
- Talking with a flat speech tone
- Getting annoyed easily
- Avoiding eye contact
- Looking down
- Crossing her arms
- Tensing her jaw
She doesn’t know you well enough
The reason that she rejected you could have been that she didn’t feel like she knew you well enough.
This would be more likely if you asked her out during one of your first conversations with her and if you asked her out before you had gotten a chance to get to know each other.
Consider when and where she did it
It would be helpful to consider when and where she rejected you despite liking you when trying to understand why she did it.
If she did it while you were alone together then it would make it more likely that she did it because she doesn’t actually like you. However, she could still have done it for one of the other reasons mentioned so it would help to consider the body language she was showing and the way that she did it.
If she did it while you were around other people then it would be more likely that she did it because she didn’t know how else to react. So, it could be the case that she does actually like you still. However, she could also have done it for one of the other reasons mentioned so it would help to consider the way she did it and the body language she shows around you.
Consider how she reacts to seeing you
Thinking about the way that she reacts to seeing you could also help in understanding why she rejected you.
If she reacts to seeing you by noticeably changing her behavior and body language then it would make it more likely that she has good or bad feelings about you depending on how she changes it.
If she reacts to seeing you by doing things such as:
- Brushing her hair to the side
- Sitting more upright and uncrossing her arms
- Adjusting her appearance
- Pointing her feet at you
- Positioning herself to be nearer to you
Then it would be more likely that she does actually like you and that she did it due to not knowing how to react or not wanting a boyfriend.
Whereas, if she reacts to seeing you by doing things such as:
- Crossing her arms
- Squinting
- Pointing her feet away from you
- Avoiding eye contact
- Distancing herself from you
Then it would be more likely that she does not actually like you.
Consider multiple signs in her body language
When considering what her body language could be suggesting it would be helpful to consider multiple aspects of it at a time.
This is because she could have shown a single body language sign for many different reasons. So, body language signs on their own can be unreliable.
Whereas, if she was showing multiple body language signs of the same thing then it would be more likely that she was showing them for that reason.
If you want to learn more about body language, a book I would recommend would be The Definitive Book of Body Language (on Amazon). It shows you how to interpret body language and understand people's true intentions.