If you have noticed that girls will often lose interest, in a guy, once they know he is interested in her then you might be wondering why.
This post will show you a number of reasons why a girl will lose interest in a guy once she knows that he likes her.
So, why would a girl lose interest once she knows you like her? It is often because she will want to be the one that is chasing otherwise it will feel like starting the relationship was too easy. It could also be that she was not interested in him in the first place, she doesn’t want a relationship or she wants you to get you to make a move.
There are actually a number of reasons why a girl will lose interest once she knows that a guy likes her and there are a number of things to consider.
Why a girl will lose interest once she knows you like her
Each of the different reasons why a girl will lose interest once she knows that you like her will likely come with a number of clues in the interaction and the body language she shows.
Below, I will mention a number of reasons why a girl will lose interest once she knows that you like her, the signs to look for and the things to consider.
She wants to chase
The reason that girls will often lose interest when they find out that a guy likes them is that they want to be the ones chasing.
If the guy is doing the chasing, where he is putting a lot more energy into the interaction, then it will often feel like he doesn’t have any other options and it will make the girl feel like she isn’t special to him.
She thinks that you act that way with all women
Another reason could be that it will often give the impression that a guy acts that way with all women when he shows a lot of interest early on in the interaction.
If you show a lot of interest early on then it would come off as needy and desperate. This will often put girls off. One reason for this would likely be that she doesn’t feel like she should be getting this much interest so soon in the interaction and it would likely make her feel like you act that way with all other girls and that you don’t really care about her herself.
She is not looking for a boyfriend
It could also be the case that she loses interest because she is not looking for a boyfriend.
If a guy shows a lot of interest when a girl is not looking for a boyfriend then it may make her feel like she should distance herself from him. Otherwise, it would make things difficult later on when a guy wants a relationship but she does not.
She might not have been interested in the first place
It could also have been the case that she was not interested in the first place. She might initially have been seemingly showing interest when she was actually just being friendly. Then, she will have seemed to have lost interest when she found out that you like her because she won’t want to give off the impression that she is actually interested.
If a girl is interested in you then it would be likely that she would show multiple signs of interest, in her body language, around you by doing things such as:
- Holding prolonged eye contact with you
- Touching you a lot
- Having dilated pupils when looking at you (peoples pupils dilate when looking at someone they are attracted to)
- Pointing her feet at you (people often point their feet towards people that they are attracted to)
- Brushing her hair to the side when she sees you and when talking to you
- Stroking her hair while talking to you
- Standing closer to you than she does with other people
- Giggling a lot at the things that you say
- Asking whether or not you have a girlfriend
- Adjusting her appearance when she sees you
She is doing it on purpose to get you to show more interest
If she found out that you like her indirectly then the reason that she seemed to have lost interest could be that she wants to get you to make a move.
Girls will often not want to be the ones that make the initial move, if you have not done it yet then it would be more likely that she wants you to.
If she does want you to make a move then it would be likely that she would still show signs of attraction around you.
Consider the way that you show interest
When trying to understand why a girl might have lost interest it would help to consider the way that you showed interest.
If you compliment her on her looks a lot then it will likely cause her to lose interest. This is because every other guy compliments her on her looks and it will make it feel like you are only interested in her for her looks.
Additionally, girls will often lose interest when you agree with everything and compliment constantly. If you do then it will feel like you are not being genuine with her and it will make her feel like you have something to hide.
Consider how she reacts to seeing you
When trying to understand why she lost interest when she found out that you like her it would help to consider the way that she reacts to seeing you.
If she reacts to seeing you by changing her body language in a positive or negative way then it would be a stronger sign that she has good or bad feelings about you.
If she reacts to seeing you by doing things such as:
- Adjusting her appearance
- Brushing her hair to the side
- Raising her eyebrows and smiling
- Uncrossing her arms and sitting or standing more upright
- Positioning herself to be nearer to you
- Pointing her feet at you
- Seeking eye contact with you
Then it would suggest that she is attracted to you but perhaps it made her feel shy when she found out that you like her.
Whereas, if she reacts to seeing you by doing things such as:
- Avoiding eye contact
- Crossing her arms
- Distancing herself from you
- Pointing her feet away from you
- Tensing her jaw
- Smiling only at the mouth
Then it would suggest that she was not interested in you in the first place and it made her feel uncomfortable when she found out that you like her.
Consider multiple aspects of her body language
When considering what her body language could be suggesting it would help to consider multiple aspects of it at the same time.
If she shows multiple body language signs that all suggest the same thing then it would make it much more likely that she is showing them for that reason. Whereas, if she only shows a single body language sign of something then it would make it less reliable since single body language signs can have multiple different meanings.
If you want to learn more about body language, a book I would recommend would be The Definitive Book of Body Language (on Amazon). It shows you how to interpret body language and understand people's true intentions.