If a girl with a boyfriend has been flirting with you then you’re probably wondering why and what it might mean about the way that she feels about you.

This post will show you a number of reasons why she might do it and why other girls with boyfriends might flirt with you as well in the future.

So, why would a girl flirt when she has a boyfriend? It could mean that she is attracted to you and she wants to leave her current boyfriend this would be more likely if she only does it with you and if she shows other signs of attraction around you. She might also be trying to make him jealous, act that way naturally or want something from you.

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Since there are a number of reasons why a girl might flirt with you when she has a boyfriend it would help to consider the body language that she shows around you and the context of how she does it.

Why a girl with a boyfriend will flirt with you

Each of the different reasons why a girl with a boyfriend will flirt with you will likely come with a number of clues in her body language and in the way that she does it.

Below, I will mention a number of reasons why a girl with a boyfriend will flirt with you, the signs to look for and the things to consider.

She is attracted to you

The reason that she flirts with you could be that she is attracted to you.

This would be more likely if she only does it with you, she doesn’t act in a similar way with her other friends and she only does it when her boyfriend is not around.

If she does flirt with you because she is attracted to you then it would be likely that she would show signs of attraction around you, in her body language, that she doesn’t with other people.

These signs could include:

  • Brushing her hair to the side when with you
  • Stroking her hair while talking to you
  • Touching you a lot
  • Standing closer to you than she does with other people
  • Adjusting her appearance when she sees you
  • Holding prolonged eye contact with you
  • Having dilated pupils when looking at you
  • Pointing her feet at you
  • Talking to you with a higher pitch than she does with other people
  • Laughing and looking to see if you are also laughing
  • Giggling a lot at the things that you say
  • Asking you the most questions and giving you the most attention
  • Tilting her head while talking to you
  • Asking if you have a girlfriend or about your previous girlfriends

She wants to leave her boyfriend

The reason that she flirts with you could be that she wants to leave her boyfriend or she is thinking of doing it.

This would be more likely if she shows signs of attraction around you, she has mentioned being unhappy with him, she avoids talking about him, she only flirts with you and her body language is different around you compared to when she is with her other friends.

She wants to make him jealous

It could be the case that she flirts with you because she is trying to make her boyfriend jealous.

This would be more likely if she only does it when he is around and if she acts similarly with you as she does with her other friends when he isn’t.

She does it naturally

It could be the case that she isn’t actually flirting with you and that she just acts that way naturally.

This would be more likely if she doesn’t reciprocate any signs of interest that you show in her and if she acts the same way with other people.

It could be the case that she acts that way naturally but she is also attracted to you. If she is then it would be likely that she would show some signs of attraction around you that she doesn’t with other people.

She wants something from you

It could have been the case that she was just pretending to be attracted to you because she wanted something from you.

This would be more likely if she doesn’t always flirt with you, if she only talks to you when she wants something from you and if she asked for something from you when she did flirt with you.

She considers you a friend

It could be the case that she was just being friendly and that she wasn’t actually flirting with you.

If that was the case then it would be more likely that she would have also acted in a similar way when she is with her other friends and that she would also act like that when her boyfriend is around.

Consider how she reacts to seeing you

Considering the way that she reacts to seeing you could help in understanding why she flirts with you despite having a boyfriend.

If she reacts to seeing you by showing a number of signs of attraction it would make it more likely that she does it because she is attracted to you and possibly that she is thinking of leaving her current boyfriend.

So, if she reacts to seeing you by doing things such as:

  • Brushing her hair to the side
  • Pointing her feet at you
  • Positioning herself to be nearer to you
  • Adjusting her appearance
  • Sitting or standing more upright and uncrossing her arms

Then it would make it more likely that she is flirting with you because she likes you.

Consider when and where she flirts with you

Considering when and where she does it could also help.

If she only seems to flirt with you when her boyfriend is around then it would make it more likely that she does it to make him jealous.

If she only does it when he is not around then it would make it more likely that she is attracted to you and that she is considering leaving him.

If she always acts that way then it would make it more likely that she acts that way naturally.

Consider how she interacts with other people

Comparing the way that she interacts with you with how she interacts with other people could also help in understanding why she flirts with you.

If she also acts the same way around her other friends and she shows the same body language around them then it would be less likely that she does it because she is attracted to you or that she wants to leave him.

Whereas, if she only flirts with you and she shows signs of attraction that she doesn’t with her other friends then it would be more likely that she is attracted to you.

Look for a number of clues in her body language

When considering what her body language could be showing it would be helpful to consider multiple aspects of it at a time.

If she shows a single body language sign of attraction then it would be less reliable since single body language signs can have multiple different meanings.

Whereas, if she shows a cluster of signs of attraction then it would make it more likely that she is actually attracted to you.

Related

Why would a girl with a boyfriend talk to me every day? It could be the case that she is attracted to you and she is thinking of leaving him if she only does it with you and if she shows signs of attraction around you that she doesn’t with other people. She might also do it because she considers you a friend.

If you want to learn more about body language, a book I would recommend would be The Definitive Book of Body Language (on Amazon). It shows you how to interpret body language and understand people's true intentions.

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