If you have recently noticed a guy sneaking glances at you, you’re probably wondering why he does it and what it might mean.
This post will try to help you figure out why he might be sneaking glances at you and to make sense of it when it happens in the future.
So, why does he sneak glances at you? He might like you especially if he only does it to you and if he shows other signs of attraction around you. He could also be annoyed with you, he might think that you’re looking at him or he might not like you.
Since there are a number of reasons why a guy might sneak glances at you it is important to consider the body language signals that he shows when he does it.
By doing so you will be able to get a better understanding of the motivations that he has behind doing it.
Possible reasons why a guy will sneak glances at you
Each of the different reasons why a guy might sneak glances at you will likely come with a number of clues in his body language.
Below, I will mention a number of reasons why a guy might sneak glances at you and the body language signals to look for with them.
He finds you attractive
If he tends to sneak glances at you and nobody else and he tends to look away quickly or smile when you notice then there would be a good chance that he finds you attractive.
If he does and he hasn’t approached you then he might be feeling too nervous to do so. If you want him to then consider having an open body language and smiling when you both look at each other. If you don’t want him to then show a more closed body language.
If he does find you attractive then it would be likely that he would show other body language signals of attraction.
These can include:
- Having dilated pupils when looking at you
- Pointing his feet at you even when not directly in front of you
- Adjusting his clothing or hair when he notices you
- Getting anxious when you’re with other men
- A lack of negative signals such as squinting, crossing the arms or clenching the jaw
- Laughing and looking at you to see if you laughed as well
- Positioning himself to be next to you
- Holding eye contact with you for longer
- Touching you more than others
- Talking to you more than others
- Getting defensive when other men are around
- Blinking more frequently when talking to you
- Showing signs of nervousness when talking to you
- Asking your friends about you
- Remembering small details about things you said
He wants to be more than just friends
If he has been your friend for a while and he tends to sneak glances at you then it could be the case that he actually is into you and he wants to be more than friends.
If this is the case then he would likely have shown a number of the body language signals of attraction mentioned above.
It would also be likely that he would try to make plans based on your schedule.
Since he hasn’t overtly told you that he likes you yet then it could also be the case that he shows signs of nervousness around you.
He wants to see if you’re into him
It might also be the case that he finds you attractive but he is unsure of whether or not you find him attractive.
If this is the case then he would likely show a number of body language signals of attraction towards you. He would also be especially likely to get anxious when you’re with other men.
He might also get nervous when talking to you since he wants to ask you out but he is unsure of what you will say.
He likes you but he’s not interested
It might also be the case that he sneaks glances at you because he’s checking you out but he isn’t into you.
It could be that he has a girlfriend or that he just isn’t currently looking for one but he still finds you attractive.
If that is the case then it would be likely that he would show signals of attraction in his body language when he is around you.
However, he would be less likely to show signs of nervousness around you, get anxious when you’re with other men, get defensive when other men are around and he’d be less likely to ask your friends about you.
He finds you interesting
It could be the case that he sneaks glances at you because he thinks you’re interesting but not because he finds you attractive.
It could be that he likes hearing your opinion on things, he thinks you’re funny or he might think that you have an interesting look.
If he does find you interesting it would be more likely that he would sneak glances at you when you’re talking or when something happens and he wants to see how you’ll react to it.
He would also be less likely to show many of the signs of attraction mentioned above.
He doesn’t like you
It might actually be the case that he doesn’t like you and he sneaks glances at you due to being spiteful.
It could be that he doesn’t like something that you said, he disagrees with your opinion on things or that he doesn’t like the group of people that you hang out with.
If that is the case then he would likely show negative body language signals towards you such as:
Crossing his arms when you enter the room or when you speak
- Squinting at you
- Tightening his lips when you start speaking or enter the room
- Clenching his jaw
- Pupil constriction
- Pointing his feet away from you
- Tightening his eyebrows when looking at you
- Rolling his eyes at you
- Exhaling loudly when you say something he disagrees with
- Speaking over you
- Disagreeing with you often and in a negative way
He’s noticed that you tend to look at him
It could be the case that he noticed that you have actually been sneaking glances at him and it has made him feel a bit self-conscious so he’s trying to see why you keep looking at him.
If that is the case then it would be likely that his body language would appear to be slightly anxious when around you because you’re making him feel unsure of himself.
These means that he might do things such as:
- Rub his face, arms, legs or neck
- Touch his neck
- Tap his fingers or feet
- Not hold eye contact
- Tap the fingers or feet
- Quiver under the eyes or lips
Alternatively, he might actually be mirroring you which would be a more positive signal.
When people are trying to fit in with a certain group of people they will actually often mirror aspects of their body language.
If he tends to hang out with the same people as you and you have been sneaking glances at him then he might be mirroring you.
Mirroring can also be a signal of attraction. If he is mirroring your due to attraction then he would also show other signals of attraction in his body language.
If he was mirroring you he would likely mirror you in other ways.
They can include:
- Mirroring your hand gestures
- Mirroring your smile
- Laughing in a similar way to you
- Mirroring your facial gestures
- Standing or sitting in a similar way to you (ie with hands in the pockets etc)
- Talking at a similar pitch and speed as you
He’s mad at you
It could also be the case that he’s sneaking glances at you due to being mad at you about something.
It could be that you said something to him that he didn’t like or that you went out with someone that he didn’t want you to.
If he is mad at you then it would be likely that he would show a number of the negative body language signals mentioned in the “he doesn’t like you section.”
However, if his feet are pointing towards you, his pupils don’t constrict much and he doesn’t try to avoid you then it would suggest that he isn’t very mad at you.
Consider where he sneaks glances at you
When trying to figure out why he tends to sneak glances at you it would be helpful to think about where it happens.
If he tends to do it in an environment where you tend to talk a lot then it would suggest that he wants to hear what you have to say (unless his body language suggests otherwise).
If he tends to do it in an environment where you don’t tend to speak much like in a classroom or in one that is a more social place such as at a party then it could be that he finds you attractive and he’s checking you out.
Consider when he sneaks glances at you
The timing of when he sneaks glances at you would also likely be something that would be of use to you.
If he only seems to do it when you’re talking then either he is looking for an excuse to look at you or he is interested in what you have to say.
If he does it when you’re not talking or doing anything to draw attention to yourself then it would be more likely that he finds you attractive unless there have been recent events that would have made him mad.
Think about what his normal body language looks like
When trying to figure out what a guy’s body language means it would be helpful to know what his ordinary body language looks like.
If he tends to glance at other people and he doesn’t show any changes in his body language when he glances at you it would make it less likely that he’s glancing at you for any particular reason.
If you don’t think that he tends to glance at other people and his body language changes when he looks at you then it would make it more likely that he’s doing it for one of the reasons already discussed. You would have to consider how his body language changes to figure out which reason.
Why does my crush steal glances at me? It could be that he finds you attractive. You would have to see that he also shows multiple other body language signals of attraction to be sure of that. It might also be that he has noticed that you tend to glance at him and he is unsure why.
If you want to learn more about body language, a book I would recommend would be The Definitive Book of Body Language (on Amazon). It shows you how to interpret body language and understand people's true intentions.