If a guy has been avoiding eye contact with you while talking then you might be wondering why and what it might mean about the way that he feels about you.

This post will show you why he might avoid eye contact while talking and why other guys might do the same in the future.

So, why does he avoid eye contact while talking? It would likely be a sign that he is nervous especially if he does it around other people as well. It could be a sign that he likes you and is nervous because of it if he shows other signs of attraction.

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There are actually a number of things to consider when trying to figure out why he avoids eye contact while talking and there are a number of reasons why he might be doing it.

Why a guy avoids eye contact while talking

Each of the different reasons why he avoids eye contact while talking will likely come with a number of clues in the way that he does it and the body language that he shows.

Below, I will mention a number of reasons why a guy will avoid eye contact while talking, the signs to look for and the things to consider.

He is attracted to you

Avoiding eye contact while talking to you could be a sign that he is attracted to you. This is because it would suggest that he gets nervous around you.

It would be more likely that he avoids eye contact because he likes you if he only does it with you and he doesn’t do it with other people as well.

If he does avoid eye contact while talking to you because he likes you then it would be likely that he would show other signs of being attracted to you such as:

  • Adjusting his appearance when he sees you
  • Positioning himself to be nearer to you
  • Pointing his feet at you (people point their feet at people they are attracted to)
  • Getting anxious when you are around other men
  • Laughing and looking to see if you are laughing
  • Telling his friends about you or asking your friends about you
  • Uncrossing his arms and legs when he sees you
  • Getting defensive when other guys are with you both
  • Having dilated pupils around you (peoples pupils dilate when with a person they are attracted to)

He has some social anxiety

The reason that he avoids eye contact while talking to you could be that he has some social anxiety.

This would be more likely if he also avoids eye contact whilst talking to other people and if he tends to show other signs of being nervous around you and other people such as:

  • Couching
  • Fidgeting
  • Tapping the fingers and feet
  • Talking at a different pitch than normal
  • Having a dry mouth
  • Rubbing the face, arms and neck

He is nervous

The reason that he avoids eye contact around you could be that he gets nervous around you for some reason other than being attracted to you.

This would be more likely if he tends to avoid eye contact with you but he doesn’t with other people.

Possible reasons that he avoids eye contact with you but not other people could include feeling threatened by you, not liking you or not liking your friends. If he does it because he doesn’t like your friends then he would likely avoid them as well.

He is lying about something

Avoiding eye contact while talking with you could be a sign that he is lying about something.

This would be more likely if he didn’t use to avoid eye contact and he only started to avoid eye contact recently or if he only does it when talking about certain things. If he is lying about something then it would be likely that he would display other abnormal behaviors when talking about the subject.

Consider how he reacts to seeing you

When trying to figure out why he avoids eye contact while talking to you it would help to consider the way that he reacts to seeing you.

If he reacts to seeing you by showing a number of positive or negative body language signs then it would suggest that he has good or bad feelings about you.

If he reacts to seeing you by doing things such as:

  • Adjusting his appearance
  • Raising his eyebrows momentarily
  • Positioning himself to be nearer to you
  • Pointing his feet at you
  • Uncrossing his arms and sitting upright

Then it would suggest that he avoids eye contact because he is attracted to you.

Whereas, if he reacts to seeing you by doing things such as:

  • Squinting
  • Crossing his arms
  • Facing his feet away from you
  • Distancing himself from you

Then it would suggest that he avoids eye contact with you because he has negative feelings towards you.

Consider how he interacts with other people

It would also help to compare the way that he interacts with you with how he interacts with other people.

If he also avoids eye contact with other people and he shows the same body language around them as he does with you then it would make it more likely that he does it because he has some social anxiety.

If he only does it with you and he shows different body language around you then it would suggest that he either is attracted to you or he has negative feelings towards you. It would help to consider the other body language signs that he shows around you.

Consider when and where he avoids eye contact

It would also help to consider the timing and location that he avoids eye contact with you.

If he only avoids eye contact while talking to you when other people are around then it would make it more likely that he has some social anxiety.

If he avoids eye contact while talking with you all of the time then it would make it more likely that he has good or bad feelings about you depending on the body language that he shows.

Consider multiple aspects of his body language

When considering what his body language could be showing it would help to consider multiple signs at the same time.

This is because a single body language sign can have multiple different meanings making them unreliable on their own.

Whereas, it would be more likely that he would show multiple body language signs that all suggest the same thing for that reason.

If you want to learn more about body language, a book I would recommend would be The Definitive Book of Body Language (on Amazon). It shows you how to interpret body language and understand people's true intentions.

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