If you have noticed that a guy with a girlfriend stares at you then you’re probably wondering why and what it might mean.
This post will help you figure out why he stares at you and help you to understand why other guys with girlfriends might do it in the future.
So, why does he stare at you if he has a girlfriend? A guy staring at you when he has a girlfriend could mean that he is attracted to you especially if he only does it with you, he does it numerous times and if he shows other signs of attraction around you. He might also think you’re staring at him, have a habit of staring, be annoyed with you or his girlfriend might have told him something about you.
Seeing as there are a number of different reasons why a guy with a girlfriend will stare at you it is important to consider the body language signals that he shows around you and the context that he does it in.
Reasons why a guy with a girlfriend will stare at you
Each of the different reasons why a guy with a girlfriend will stare at you will likely come with a number of different clues in his body language.
Below, I will mention a number of different reasons why a guy with a girlfriend will stare at you and the body language signals that you should expect to see with them.
He’s attracted to you
If he only seems to stare at you and he changes his body language and behavior when you are around then it would make it likely that he does it because he is attracted to you.
If he does stare at you because he is attracted to you then it would be likely that he would show it in his body language and behavior in other ways such as:
- Mirroring your body language
- Uncrossing his arms and legs when he first notices you
- Raising his eyebrows and smiling at you
- Positioning himself to be near you
- Adjusting his clothing or hair when he notices you
- Sitting up straight when he notices you
- Pointing his feet at you
- Showing off
- Becoming agitated and sticking around when you’re with other men
- Quickly looking away when you catch him staring at you
- Asking your friends about you
- Having dilated pupils when you’re around
He stares when he is thinking
It might not actually be the case that he stares at you. Rather, it might be the case that he tends to stare when he is thinking about things.
If that is the case then it would be likely that he would seem to stare at other people, he would likely seem to have a neutral body language to you and he wouldn’t quickly look away when you notice since he isn’t actually staring at you.
He thinks that you’re staring at him
It might be the case that he has noticed that you tend to stare at him and it has caused him to become self-conscious around you.
This could cause him to stare at you because he is trying to see why you look at him yourself.
If that is why he does it then it would be more likely that he would show more anxious-looking body language. This means that he might cross his arms and legs around you, rub his face, arms, legs or neck, scratch his neck and point his feet away from you.
He has a habit of staring
It might be the case that he has a habit of staring at people.
If that is why you have noticed that he tends to stare at you then it would be likely that he would stare at other people as well and that he would show the same body language around you as he does around other people.
His girlfriend or friends told him about you
It might be the case that he stares at you because his girlfriend or his friends said something about you to him.
If that is why he did it then it would be likely that you would know his friends or his girlfriend and he would be less likely to show signs of attraction around you and be more likely to have an observant appearance around you.
He’s annoyed with you
If you know him then the reason that he stares at you might be that he is annoyed with you.
If he is annoyed with you then it would be likely that something would have recently happened between you both that would cause him to be annoyed with you. It could be that you recently had an argument, you did something that would have annoyed him or that he thinks that you did.
If he is annoyed with you then it would also be likely that he would do things such as:
- Avoid talking to you
- Cross his arms and legs when he sees you
- Point his feet away from you
- Squint at you when looking at you
- Show tight lips when your talking
- Tighten the eyebrows when looking at you
He has a dominating personality
People that have dominating personalities will often stare at people for longer than is usual.
The reason that he stares at you could be that he has a dominating personality. If he does then it would be likely that he would stare at other people as well.
It would also be likely that he would show other signs of being dominant in his body language by doing things such as:
- Squinting when looking at people
- Taking up lots of space
- Having tight lips and tightened eyebrows when people are talking
- Talking over people
- Telling people to do things
- Putting his hands and feet on things that aren’t his
Consider how he reacts to seeing you
The way that he initially reacts when he sees you will likely be a key moment to consider when trying to figure out how he feels about you.
If he sits up straight, points his feet at you, adjusts his clothing or hair, his pupils dilate, he mirrors your body language, he raises his eyebrows at you and he watches you as you initially enter the room then it would be more likely that he is attracted to you.
Whereas, if he crosses his arms, points his feet away from you, squints, tenses the jaw, tightens the lips and distances himself from you then it would be more likely that he is annoyed with you in some way.
Consider how he behaves around other people
Thinking about the way that he behaves around people other than his girlfriend would also be a helpful thing to consider.
If he shows the same body language around other people and he stares at other people a lot then it would be more likely that he either has a habit of staring at people or he has a dominating personality. It would be necessary to consider the type of body language that he shows to figure out which.
Whereas, if he only seems to stare at you and he changes his body language when you are around then it would be more likely that he is attracted to you assuming that he shows signs of attraction in his body language.
Consider multiple aspects of his body language
When trying to understand why he stares at you despite having a girlfriend it would be helpful to consider multiple aspects of his body language at a time.
This is because there are often many different reasons that a guy might show one body language sign. This would make it difficult to accurately figure out why he is showing it.
Whereas, if he shows multiple body language signals that can all have the same meaning then it would be much more likely that he is showing them for that particular meaning.
Why does his girlfriend stare at me? It could be that she is jealous because her boyfriend likes you. If she is then it would be likely that she would show signs of being annoyed with you in her body language by doing things such as squinting, tightening the eyebrows and lips, tensing the jaw and crossing her arms and legs when you’re talking. If she doesn’t show negative signs then it could be that she wasn’t actually looking at you.
If you want to learn more about body language, a book I would recommend would be The Definitive Book of Body Language (on Amazon). It shows you how to interpret body language and understand people's true intentions.