Sometimes, despite being attracted to a guy, they will ignore him. This is something that many men find confusing and can get frustrated with.
This post will help you understand why girls ignore guys that they like and why a girl that likes you might ignore you.
So, why do girls ignore guys that they like? One possible reason is that she finds it unattractive when it feels like it would be too easy to be with him. She could also do it because she wants him to have to chase her, she is shy, she doesn’t want to seem too interested, she thinks that he doesn’t like her, she might not like his personality or she might fear that he will not be attracted to her.
Since there are actually a number of reasons why a girl might ignore a guy that she likes it is important to consider the context of how she ignores him and the body language that she shows around him.
Why a girl will ignore a guy that she likes
There are a number of reasons why a girl will ignore a guy that she likes and many of them will likely come with a number of clues in the way that she ignores him and the body language that she shows.
Below, I will mention a number of reasons why a girl will ignore the guy that she likes, the signs to look for and the things to consider.
She thinks that he acts that way with most women
The reason that she might ignore him could be that she feels like he acts that way with most women.
This would be more likely to happen when the guy comes across as overly interested in her and if he also acts in a similar way with other girls around her.
She is shy
It could be the case that she doesn’t talk to him because she is shy.
In this case, it would be more likely that she would be more responsive to him if he talks to her. But, she would be less likely to start any conversations with him since she would be too nervous to do so.
If she does ignore him due to being shy then it would be likely that she would show signs of being nervous when around him. She might do things such as rub her face, arms, neck or legs, tap her fingers or feet and she might struggle to maintain eye contact.
She doesn’t want to seem too interested
The reason that she might ignore him could be that she doesn’t want to come across as being overly interested.
The reason that she doesn’t want to seem too interested could be that people will often lose attraction when someone shows too much interest in them and she might want to avoid that happening to her.
It could also be that she doesn’t want to seem like she doesn’t want her friends to see her show too much interest in him perhaps because she doesn’t want to seem too “easy” or she might think her friends don’t like him.
She thinks that he doesn’t like her
It could be the case that she will ignore him because she thinks that he is not interested in her.
This would be more likely if he hasn’t spoken to her before or if he hasn’t shown any express interest in her.
She doesn’t want to be rejected
The reason that she might ignore him could be that she doesn’t want to be rejected.
This would be more likely to happen when he hasn’t shown any interest in her or if they haven’t spoken to each other before.
In this case, it would also be more likely that she would want him to be the first to make a move.
She wants him to be the one to make the move
The reason that she ignores him might be that she wants to feel like he is interested in her before she shows that he is interested in him.
If that is the case then it would be likely that she would want him to be the first to make a move and that is why she has not been starting any conversations with him.
She finds it unattractive
If a guy comes across as being too easy then it can be a turn-off for many women. The reason that she might be ignoring him could be that she finds it unattractive that he has been showing as much interest as he has.
This would be more likely to happen when a guy shows a lot of interest before he has spent any time getting to know her.
She doesn’t like his personality
The reason that she might ignore the guy that she likes could be that she doesn’t like his personality.
If that is the case then it would be more likely that she would have initially shown interest in him but gradually started to ignore him more and more as she began to lose interest in him due to his personality.
She is worried that he won’t like her
The reason that she might ignore the guy that she likes could be that she is worried that he won’t like her.
This would be more likely if they haven’t spoken to each other before or if the guy hasn’t shown any interest in her himself. It would also be more likely that she would show more interest in him if he shows more interest in her.
She is not actually attracted to him
It could also be the case that she wasn’t actually attracted to him. She might have initially been showing positive body language towards him because she was just being polite but it came across like she was interested in him.
In that case, it would be more likely that she would ignore any interest that he shows towards her later on because she doesn’t want to give him the impression that she is attracted to him.
Consider the way that she reacts to seeing him
When trying to understand why a girl might ignore a guy that she is attracted to it would be helpful to consider the way that she reacts to seeing him.
If she reacts by doing things such as:
- Adjusting her appearance
- Positioning herself to be nearer to him
- Holding eye contact with him
- Brushing her hair to the side
- Pointing her feet at him
Then it would be more likely that she does actually want to speak to him but she wants him to be the one to talk to her.
Whereas, if she reacts to seeing him by doing things such as:
- Squinting at him
- Crossing her arms
- Avoiding eye contact with him
- Pointing her feet away from him
- Tightening her lips
Then it would be more likely that she ignores him because she is annoyed with him.
Think about how she interacts with other people
It would also be helpful to compare the way that she interacts with him with how she interacts with other people.
If she shows the same body language and behavior around him as she does with other people then it would be more likely that she is either not actually attracted to him or she doesn’t want to seem too interested.
Whereas, if she acts differently around him then it would be more likely that she is attracted to him assuming that she shows signs of attraction and she could be ignoring him for any of the reasons mentioned above.
Consider multiple aspects of her body language
When considering what her body language could be suggesting it is important to look for multiple signs of the same thing.
This is because she could show a single body language sign for a number of different reasons. Whereas, it would be more likely that she would show multiple body language signs that all suggest the same thing for that specific reason.
If you want to learn more about body language, a book I would recommend would be The Definitive Book of Body Language (on Amazon). It shows you how to interpret body language and understand people's true intentions.