If you have recently noticed a guy touching your hair you’re probably wondering why he did it and what it might mean.
This post will try to help you figure out why a guy might touch your hair and to make sense of it as it happens in the future.
So, what does it mean when a guy touches your hair? Possible causes of a guy touching your hair are that he is attracted to you, he’s being dominating, he’s trying to calm you down, he likes how it looks or that he’s from a culture where it’s a normal thing to do.
Since there are a number of reasons why a guy might touch your hair it is important to consider the body language that he shows.
By doing so you will be able to get a better idea of the motivations behind what he is doing.
Possible reasons a guy might touch your hair
Each of the different reasons why a guy might touch your hair will likely come with a number of clues in his body language.
Below, I will mention a number of reasons why a guy might touch your hair along with the body language signals to look for.
He’s attracted to you
It could be the case that he touched your hair because he is attracted to you.
If that is the case then he would likely also show a number of other signals of attraction in his body language.
These can include:
- Having dilated pupils when he is talking to you
- Touching you more than other people
- Talking to you more than others
- Glancing at you often and then quickly looking away when you notice
- Adjusting his hair or clothing when he sees you
- Showing his crotch area when talking to you
- Talking with a deeper voice than normal
- Pointing his feet at you when you’re around
- Pointing his toes up when talking to you
- Mirroring your body language
- Standing close to you when talking to you
- Staying in your general area
- Holding prolonged eye contact with you
- Looking at your lips while talking to you
- Blinking more
- He shows signs of nervousness when you’re talking
- He shows signs of anxiety when you’re talking to other men
- He gets defensive when other men are around
If he did do it due to attraction it would be less likely that he tends to touch other women’s hair (unless he’s attracted to them as well). This means that you should consider whether or not you have noticed him touching other women’s hair.
When he did touch your hair would likely have felt quite contrived since he was just looking for an excuse to touch it.
He’s being dominating
When people are behaving in a dominating way they will often touch other people.
This could be the reason that he touched your hair. It could be that he was trying to get you to do something and he was trying to show that he has authority over you or he might have been trying to
If this was the case then it would be likely that he would likely show other dominating behaviors.
These can include:
- Tight lips
Tensionin the jaw
- Thumb displays
- Taking up lots of space
- Putting his arms and legs on things that aren’t his
- Talking with a deeper and more direct voice
- Telling you to do things
- Making himself appear larger
- Less smiling
- Showing his crotch area
He’s trying to calm you down
If you were talking to him about something that makes you feel sad and you were showing body language signals of being said then it might be that he was trying to console you.
However, if that was the case, he would be more likely to put his arm on your shoulder instead.
He likes how it looks
The reason that he touched your hair could be that he likes the way that it looks and he wants to see how it feels.
In this case, it would be likely that he also finds you attractive so he would also likely show a number of other body language signals of attraction.
He’s from a different culture
It could be the case that he is from a culture where it is normal to touch people when talking to them.
In this case, his body language would likely appear to be more neutral to you unless he also finds you attractive or he has a dominant personality.
Consider where it happened
The location that he touched your hair in would likely be something that would help you in figuring out why he did it.
If it was at a party then it would make it more likely that he finds you attractive. However, he might have been trying to get you to lighten up.
If it was in a business setting then it would make it more likely that he was behaving in a dominating way. However, he still might have done it due to attraction which is why it’s important to consider the body language signals that he shows.
Consider when it happens
The timing of when he did it would also likely be a useful thing to consider when trying to understand why he did it.
If he did it when his vocal tone went a bit softer it would indicate that he was doing it due to attraction.
If he did it at the same time as telling you what to do it would be more likely that he
Watch how he interacts with others
Observing how he interacts around other people would likely be helpful in determining why he did it.
If he tends to touch other people it wouldn’t be as strong of a signal of attraction when he touches you. But, it might be that he does find you attractive so he would likely show a number of other body language signals of attraction.
If he does tend to touch other people it could be a sign that he has a slightly more dominating personality so you should consider if he shows other signs of domination when with you and others.
If he doesn’t tend to touch other people then it would be a stronger signal of attraction when he touches you.
Why does he play with my hair? If a guy plays with your hair it would generally be a sign of attraction. If you think it is then you should consider if he also shows other signs of attraction in his body language.
If you want to learn more about body language, a book I would recommend would be The Definitive Book of Body Language (on Amazon). It shows you how to interpret body language and understand people's true intentions.