If your boyfriend won’t kiss you then you’re probably wondering why and what it might mean.

This post will help you understand why your boyfriend won’t kiss you.

So, what does it mean when your boyfriend won’t kiss you? It could be that he is in a bad mood, he thinks that you don’t want to kiss him, he wants you to initiate the kissing or that he has something else on his mind. It could also be a sign that he doesn’t enjoy kissing or that he is seeing someone else especially if he stopped suddenly.

Since there are a number of reasons why your boyfriend might not be kissing you it is important to consider the context of how he avoids kissing and the body language that he shows.

By doing so you’ll be able to get a better understanding of the motivations that he has behind not kissing you.

Reasons why your boyfriend won’t kiss you

Each of the different reasons why your boyfriend won’t kiss you will likely come with a number of clues in his body language and behavior.

Below, I will mention a number of reasons why your boyfriend might not kiss you and the body language and behavior signs that you can expect to see with them.

He is seeing someone else

The reason that your boyfriend won’t kiss you might be because he is actually seeing someone else.

If that is the case then it would be more likely that he kissed you a lot in the past but he suddenly stopped recently.

If he doesn’t kiss you because he is actually seeing someone else then it would be likely that he would show signs of it in other ways as well.

Signs that he might show in his body language could include:

  • Becoming defensive when you question what he’s been doing
  • Avoiding answering questions related to what he has been doing
  • Changing the subject when asked about what he has been doing
  • Showing signs of being anxious when talking about the relationship
  • Rubbing his arms, face, legs or neck when talking about the relationship
  • He avoids you at certain times especially when he is around other women
  • Having tight lips when talking to you about certain topics
  • Crossing his arms or legs when he sees you or when talking about certain topics
  • Wrapping his feet around his chair when he sees you or when talking about the relationship
  • Coughing and having a dry mouth when talking about what he’s been doing
  • He shows forced smiles where he only smiles at the mouth but not beside the eyes as well
  • Showing contradictory signals such as nodding the head when saying no
  • He scratches his neck when talking about what he has been doing
  • Touching his mouth shortly after saying what he’s been doing
  • Accusing you of things
  • Getting jealous when you hang out with other men

If he is actually seeing another woman then he would likely change his routine in certain ways such as:

  • Working for longer hours
  • Staying out later
  • Going out when he normally wouldn’t
  • Staying out late more often

He would also likely change his behavior in certain ways as well which could include:

  • Wanting to have more privacy
  • Not letting you look at his phone when he previously would
  • Suddenly taking more care of his appearance
  • Suddenly starting to work out
  • Suddenly having less interest in things related to you

He doesn’t enjoy kissing

The reason that he kisses you might be that he just doesn’t enjoy kissing.

Even if that is the case it doesn’t mean that he doesn’t like being with you and it would be likely that he would show otherwise normal body language and behavior when around you.

He doesn’t think that you want to kiss him

The reason that he doesn’t kiss you might be because he doesn’t think that you want to kiss him.

If that is the case then it would be likely that he would have no problems with kissing you when you kiss him.

It would also be likely that he would start to kiss you more if you begin to kiss him more often yourself.

He has had something else on his mind

The reason that he won’t kiss you might be because there is something that has been bothering him.

If that is the case then it would be likely that he would have stopped kissing you suddenly and that he would have suddenly changed his behavior and body language as well.

It might be apparent that this is the reason based on recent events that have happened to him that you know about but it might also be the case that something is bothering him that you are unaware of.

Unless it is due to something related to you it would also be likely that he would show different body language and behavior than he normally would when he is around other people as well.

He wants you to initiate the kissing

The reason that he might avoid kissing you could be that he wants you to initiate the kissing.

The reason that he might want you to initiate the kissing could be that he wants to know that you actually want to kiss him yourself.

If that is the case then it would be likely that he wouldn’t have any issue with kissing you when you want to and that he wouldn’t appear to be hesitant when you do.

It would also be likely that he would kiss you more often if you start to kiss him more often.

He doesn’t like kissing in front of other people

The reason that he doesn’t want to kiss you could be that he doesn’t like kissing in front of other people.

If that is the case then it would be likely that he would kiss you when you are both alone together but that he wouldn’t kiss you in public.

If you notice that he does kiss in public sometimes but not when certain people are around then it could be that he specifically doesn’t want to be seen kissing by them.

Consider how old the relationship is

When trying to understand why your boyfriend won’t kiss you it would be helpful to consider the age of the relationship.

If the relationship is still new then it would be more likely that he either wants you to initiate the kissing, he doesn’t enjoy kissing or that he doesn’t feel like you enjoy kissing.

Whereas, if the relationship is older then it would be more likely that he either doesn’t enjoy kissing as much as in the past, he is seeing someone else or something has been bothering him lately.

Consider how he reacts to seeing you

When trying to understand the way that he feels about you it would be helpful to consider the way that he reacts to seeing you.

If he reacts to seeing you by sitting upright, mirroring your body language, raising his eyebrows and smiling, his pupils dilate, he shows genuine smiles, he uncrosses his arms and he doesn’t show negative signs such as squinting then it would be likely that he has positive feelings towards you.

Whereas, if he crosses his arms, squints at you, tightens his lips, tenses his jaw, shows a non-genuine smile, points his feet away from you and rubs his face, arms, neck or legs then it would be more likely that he has negative feelings towards you for some reason.

Consider multiple aspects of his body language

When considering his body language and what it is suggesting it is important to consider multiple aspects of his body language.

He might show a single body language signal for a number of different reasons. This means that a single body language sign is unreliable since it’s difficult to accurately judge why he is showing it.

Whereas, if he is showing multiple body language signs that all appear to mean the same thing then it would be much more likely that he is showing them for that specific reason.

Consider when he does kiss you

It would also be helpful to consider when he does kiss you.

If he seems to have no problems with kissing you when you’re alone together then it would be more likely that he doesn’t like kissing in front of people or that he doesn’t want to kiss in front of certain people.

If he is ok with kissing you when you kiss him then it would be more likely that he wants you to initiate the kissing.

Related

What does it mean when your boyfriend won’t kiss you anymore? If he used to kiss you but now he doesn’t then it would be more likely that he either is seeing someone else, has something on his mind that may or may not be related to you or he doesn’t feel the need to kiss as much as he used to.

What does it mean when your boyfriend suddenly stops kissing you? If he suddenly stops kissing you then it would be more likely that he is seeing someone else or that there is something that has recently happened that is bothering him.

If you want to learn more about body language, a book I would recommend would be The Definitive Book of Body Language (on Amazon). It shows you how to interpret body language and understand people's true intentions.

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