If your boyfriend barely talks to you then you’re probably wondering why and what it might mean.

This post will help you understand why your boyfriend might barely talk to you.

So, what does it mean when your boyfriend barely talks to you? It could be that he is annoyed with you, he is seeing someone else, he doesn’t want to tell you something or that he thinks you’re annoyed with him each of which would be more likely if he stopped talking to you suddenly. He might also do it naturally or he might be upset.

Since there are a number of reasons why your boyfriend might barely talk to you it is important to think about the context of how he doesn’t talk to you and the body language that he shows.

By doing so you will be able to have a better understanding of why he barely talks to you.

Reasons why your boyfriend will barely talk to you

Each of the different reasons why your boyfriend will barely talk to you will likely come with a number of clues in his body language and behavior.

Below, I’ll show you a number of reasons why your boyfriend will barely talk to you and the body language and behavior signs that you can expect to see with them.

He’s annoyed with you

The reason that he hasn’t been talking to you could be that he is annoyed with you.

This would be more likely to be the reason if he stopped talking to you suddenly and if something recently happened between you both that would make him be annoyed with you. It could be that you had an argument, you did something that he didn’t like or he thinks that you did.

If he isn’t talking to you because he is annoyed with you then it would be likely that he would show other signs of being annoyed with you in his body language by doing things such as:

  • Avoiding you
  • Pointing his feet away from you
  • Avoiding eye contact with you
  • Crossing his arms when he sees you
  • Tensing his jaw when looking at you
  • Squinting when looking at you
  • Having tight lips when you are talking
  • Giving you short answers

He thinks that you’re annoyed with him

Alternatively, the reason that he hasn’t been talking to you could be that he thinks that you are annoyed with him.

This would be more likely if he stopped talking to you after you both recently had an argument or if you have been showing signs of being annoyed with him such as those mentioned above.

If it is the case that he thinks that you’re annoyed with him then he might show some signs of being anxious which could include:

  • Self-hugging
  • Rubbing his face, arms, neck or legs when he is around you
  • Distancing himself from you
  • Avoiding eye contact with you

If you think that he isn’t talking to you due to a recent argument and he doesn’t appear to be annoyed with you then it would be likely that he would talk to you if you talk to him.

He is seeing someone else

The reason that he hasn’t been talking to you could be that he has been seeing someone else.

If that is the case then it would be likely that he would have stopped talking to you more suddenly.

It would also be likely that he would show signs of deceit in his body language which could include things such as:

  • Becoming annoyed when you ask him what he has been doing
  • Avoiding answering questions related to what he has been doing
  • Changing the topic when talking about what he has been doing
  • Becoming anxious when talking about the things that he has been doing
  • Rubbing his arms, legs, face or neck while he’s talking about what he’s been up to
  • He avoids being seen with you by certain people and becomes anxious when he is
  • Crossing his arms when you ask him about what he’s been up to
  • Having tight lips when talking about what he’s been up to
  • Wrapping his feet around his chair when talking about what he’s been up to
  • Having a dry mouth when talking about the things that he has been up to
  • Touching his mouth shortly after telling you an answer about what he’s been up to
  • Doing contradictory things such as nodding and saying no
  • Becoming jealous when you hang out with other men
  • Accusing you of cheating

It would also be likely that he would change his routine in a number of ways as well.

These changes could include:

  • Staying out longer
  • Working more
  • Going out late in the evening more
  • Going out when he usually wouldn’t

Additionally, he would likely change his behavior in ways such as:

  • Deleting pictures of you from social media
  • Not posting any pictures of you both on social media
  • Wanting more privacy all of a sudden
  • Hiding his phone from you
  • Taking more care over his appearance
  • Working out more

He thinks the relationship is over

The reason that he has been barely talking to you might be that he doesn’t think that you are still together.

This would be more likely to be the reason if you haven’t seen each other for a while.

If that is the case then it would be necessary for you to talk to him to see where you stand.

He’s being submissive

The reason that he barely talks to you could be that he is being submissive.

The reason that he is submissive could be that you come across as being aggressive and he isn’t talking to you because he doesn’t want to make you become annoyed with him.

If he does avoid talking to you due to being submissive then it would be likely that he would show other submissive signs such as:

  • Rubbing his arms, legs, neck or face around you
  • Avoiding eye contact with you
  • Talking with an upwards inflection to you where he goes higher-pitched towards the ends of sentences
  • Smiling at the mouth and not beside the eyes
  • Avoiding touching you

He has a quiet personality

If he has barely been talking to you right from the first moment that you met then it could be the case that he has a quiet personality.

If that is the case then it would be likely that he would also be quiet around other people as well.

It would also be likely that he would show positive body language towards you unless he is also annoyed with you.

He doesn’t want to tell you about something

The reason that he has been avoiding talking to you could be that he doesn’t want to talk about a certain subject with you.

It could be that he is seeing someone else but it might also be due to something else such as having broken something of yours or done something that he knows would upset you.

If it is the case that he has been barely talking to you because he doesn’t want to tell you something then it would be likely that he would also have been distancing himself from you as well.

He’s sad

The reason that he has been barely talking to you might be that he is sad.

If that is why he has been barely talking to you then it would be likely that something would have recently happened that would have made him sad that may or may not be related to you.

If he is sad then it would be likely that he would show it in his body language in a number of ways including:

  • Having watery eyes
  • Taking deeper breaths
  • Inhaling quickly through the nose
  • Slouching
  • Looking down
  • Not doing things that he normally would

Consider the way that he reacts to seeing you

When trying to understand how he feels about you it would be helpful to consider the way that he reacts to seeing you.

If he reacts to seeing you by uncrossing his arms, sitting up straight, adjusting his appearance, pointing his feet at you, raising his eyebrows, smiling, making space for you, his pupils dilate and he doesn’t show negative signs such as squinting then it would be likely that he has positive feelings about you.

Whereas, if he crosses his arms, points his feet away from you, avoids eye contact with you, distances himself from you, squints at you, shows a false smile where he only smiles at the mouth and he tightens his lips and jaw then he’s probably been barely talking to you for a negative reason.

Consider when he stopped talking to you

When trying to understand why he is barely talking to you it would be helpful to consider when he stopped talking to you.

If he stopped talking to you after an argument then it would be more likely that he stopped because he is annoyed with you or he thinks that you’re annoyed with him.

If he stopped over a more gradual period then it could be that he thinks that you are not in a relationship anymore, that he is losing interest in the relationship or possible that something else has been bothering him.

If he suddenly stopped talking to you then it could be that something made him sad, he is seeing another woman, that it’s due to an argument or he might be stressed due to something unrelated to you.

Consider the timing of when he stops talking to you

It would also be useful to consider the timing of when he doesn’t talk to you.

If he stops talking to you at specific times then it would be likely that something to do with the environment is causing it.

If he doesn’t talk to you in front of certain people then it could be the case that he doesn’t want them to know about you and it would be more likely that he is seeing someone else.

If he barely talks to you in general then it could be any of the other reasons mentioned above. It would be necessary to consider recent events that happened when he stopped talking to you and how his body language has changed to get a better idea.

Consider multiple aspects of his body language

When trying to understand why he isn’t talking to you it would be helpful to consider multiple aspects of his body language at a time.

He might show a single body language sign for a number of different reasons. This can make it difficult to accurately understand how he is feeling based on one sign.

Whereas, if he shows multiple signs with the same meaning then it would be more likely that he is showing them for a specific reason.

If you want to learn more about body language, a book I would recommend would be The Definitive Book of Body Language (on Amazon). It shows you how to interpret body language and understand people's true intentions.

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