If you have noticed that someone was mirroring your body language recently then you’re probably wondering why and what it might mean. This post will try to help you to figure that out and it will try to help you to make sense of it as it happens in the future.
So, what does it mean when someone mirrors your body language? When someone mirrors your body language it is normally a positive sign. It can mean that they find you attractive, they want to fit into your group or that they like you and consider you a part of their group.
When trying to figure out what it might mean when someone is mirroring your body language there are actually a number of things that you should consider. It’s important to look at other body language signals that they are showing, it helps to consider when they started to do it and it helps to think about what their relationship with you is like.
What it means when someone copies your body language
It can mean a lot of things when you notice someone copying your body language. That is why it is important to consider other body language signals that they are showing.
Below, I will mention a number of reasons that someone might be doing it and I will mention the body language signals that you should expect to go with it.
They’re attracted to you
One reason that someone might mirror your body language is that they are attracted to you.
When we begin to develop feelings towards a person we begin to mimic their body language as it can help to make them feel more comfortable around us and helps to build rapport with them.
If they are mirroring your body language because they find you attractive then there are a number of signals that they would likely be giving in addition to mirroring your body language.
It is more likely that you will find that they tend to touch you more than others or that they tend to find excuses to touch you. You should observe how they interact with their other friends to see if they touch you more than others.
When we are with people that we are attracted to it can actually cause us to have more dilated pupils than usual. This means that they will likely have more dilated pupils when they are around you. They will also tend to hold their eye contact with you for longer than normal.
You may also find that they tend to give lots of glances in your direction. If you catch them doing it then they might smile or look away quickly. You may also find that they tend to look at you when laughing.
You may find that they tend to stand at a close proximity to you and that they move closer or reciprocate your touching when you touch them or move closer.
Another thing to look at is their feet. You may not have thought it but the feet are actually a good indicator of what a person might be thinking. The reason for this is that people learn to control the expressions that they show with their face but they don’t think about what their feet might be saying.
If when the person is with you they point their feet towards you and they point their feet towards you when they are with a group of people then that would indicate that they are interested in you. Additionally, you’ll likely find that they may sometimes touch your feet with theirs.
They will also likely have open body language where they lean towards you slightly, have their palms showing and don’t have their arms in a crossed position. If they do have a negative looking body language then it may be that they are mirroring your behavior.
You’ll also likely find that they tend to talk to you more than others.
They want to fit in with your group
One reason that someone might mirror your body language is that they want to fit into your group.
By copying the body language that you and your friends are showing
This can help to get them to be more welcomed by you and your friends.
This also means that if you want to fit in with a certain group of people in the future then it would help you to mirror their body language.
They like you
On the other hand, they might be mirroring your body language because they see you as a key part of their own group.
If this is the case then it is more likely that they will see you as being slightly higher in the hierarchy than they are since it tends to be the case that people mimic the body language of the leaders in the group.
This is why employees in a company may mimic the mannerisms of the boss.
Ways that people mirror
There are many ways that someone might begin to mirror your body language and it will be something that they do without thinking about it.
You may find that they adjust their voice so that they speak as loudly as you do or so that they speak at the same pitch as you or at a slightly higher pitch. They might choose to speak at a slightly higher pitch than you since the person that is doing the mirroring will often be the one of a lower status.
An obvious way that people mirror others is by yawning. Another common example is when they copy your smile. Although these are two more minor ways that people will mirror others.
You may notice that they put their feet into a similar position as yours. So, if you have your feet tucked under a chair they may do so as well or if you tapping them then they might copy that.
They might mimic the position that you have your legs in. So, if you have your legs crossed then they might as well even though it is a closed position. This is one reason why you can see groups of people that are seemingly hostile to each other but are actually enjoying each other’s company.
They might also copy how you have your arms positioned. So if they are crossed then they might do that as well.
You may also notice that they copy the mannerisms that you have with your hands. So, they might make the same gestures with them and they might hold them in the same position as you do.
Additionally, they would also likely copy you when you touch them and if you close the proximity between you both then they would as well.
Think about who you mirror
It can be quite interesting to consider who you mirror yourself. Since people do it subconsciously it can be difficult to figure out when we are mirroring people but if you make a conscious effort to then you should be able to catch yourself doing it.
Something to be aware of is that sometimes mirroring other people can actually be a bad idea.
If someone is being aggressive then mirroring their behavior is likely to make them make their behavior even more aggressive. It would also be a bad idea to mirror your boss since they might perceive you as trying to threaten their position.
Consider other signals that they are showing
It would also be helpful to consider the body language signals that they are showing in addition to the mirroring.
This means that you should look at their feet and make note of where they are
Consider what way they are leaning. If they are leaning towards you with their lower body’s and their upper body’s are facing you then that would suggest that they are interested in you in some way.
Look at whether or not their smiles are genuine where they open their mouther and wrinkle next to the eyes. Look to see if their pupils are constricted or dilated and see if they are squinting.
Observe their normal behavior
You should also look to see what their normal body language looks like. It might be that they naturally have a similar body language to you which would suggest that they might have neutral feelings towards you if they don’t alter that at all when you’re around.
Think about when they started to mirror your body language
It can also help to think about when they started to mirror your body language. If they didn’t do it right from the start then it would suggest that they have started to consider you as the leader of the group or that they have started to find you attractive.
You should also think about your relationship with them. Women mirror actually other women 4 times more than men mirror men. So, if it’s a woman that’s mirroring you it would be a normal sign that they feel comfortable with you.
What does it mean when someone is mirroring you? If someone mirrors your body language then it would suggest that either they find you attractive, they consider you the leader of the group or that they are trying to fit in with your group.
Is mirroring a sign of attraction? Mirroring can be a sign of attraction. If it is then they will likely also show body language signals that suggest attraction.
If you want to learn more about body language, a book I would recommend would be The Definitive Book of Body Language (on Amazon). It shows you how to interpret body language and understand people's true intentions.