If a guy told you that he wants to take it slow, this post will show you likely reasons why and what would make them more likely.

So, what does it mean when a guy wants to take it slow? Likely reasons why a guy will say that he wants to take it slow are that he is seeing other people, he is not very interested in you, he is not looking for a relationship or that he just does not want to rush into one.

A guy might say that he wants to take it slow for a number of reasons. However, there are some things you can consider to help figure out the main reason.

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What does it mean when a guy wants to take it slow?

Below are likely reasons why a guy will say it to you and what would make them more likely.

He is seeing other people

The cause might be that he is actually seeing other women and he does not want to enter a relationship with you because he does not want to stop seeing them. This would be more likely if he often cancels dates, if you often see him around other women and if he has actually said that you are not the only one that he is dating.

He is not very interested

It is also possible that he is not very interested in you. This would be more likely if he is often hesitant to hang out with you, he takes a long time to respond to your messages, he rarely starts the conversation and he does not show a lot of interest in person.

He is not sure if he is ready for a relationship

It could also be the case that he is not sure that he is ready for a relationship. This would be more likely if he is likely to be moving away soon, he has recently left a relationship, or if he has said that he is not ready for one.

He just wants to take it slow

It might also be the case that he simply wants to take it slow so that he can get to know you better first. This would be more likely if he does seem interested in you but you have not been dating each other for long.

Things to consider

Below are some things to consider when figuring out the main cause.

How he reacts to seeing you

It would help to consider the way that he reacts when he sees you.

If he reacts to seeing you by doing things such as:

  • Adjusting his appearance
  • Adjusting his posture
  • Facing towards you (especially with his feet)
  • Moving closer to you
  • Having more dilated pupils
  • It would be more likely that he is interested in you but he just is not yet ready for a relationship.

    Whereas, if he does things such as move away, try to avoid eye contact or tighten his lips, it would be more likely that he is not actually interested.

    How he interacts with other people

    It would also help to compare how he interacts with other people with how he interacts with you. If he tends to stand closer to you than he does with other people, he touches you the most and asks you the most questions, it would be more likely that he is interested in you. Whereas, if he talks to you the least and stands far away from you, it would be more likely that he is not very interested in you.

    If you want to learn more about body language, a book I would recommend would be The Definitive Book of Body Language (on Amazon). It shows you how to interpret body language and understand people's true intentions.

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