If you recently noticed that a guy touched you on the wrist you’re probably wondering why.
This post will try to help you to figure out why he touched you on the wrist and to make sense of it in the future.
So, what does it mean when a guy touches you on the wrist? Possible causes of a guy touching your wrist are that he is attracted to you, he is being dominating, mirroring your behavior, trying to reassure you or he might be emphasizing a point.
Since there are actually a number of reasons why a guy might touch your wrist it’s important to consider what his body language looked like.
By doing so you’ll be able to get a better idea of the motivations behind why he did it.
Possible reasons why a guy might touch you on the wrist
Each of the different reasons why a guy might touch you on the wrist are likely to come with a number of clues in his body language.
Below, I will mention a number of reasons why a guy might do it along with the body language signals to look for.
One reason that a guy might touch you on the wrist is that he finds you attractive.
If this was the case then it would be more likely that it would have happened at a time when he slightly changed his vocal tone and he may have shown some signs of nervousness when he did it. It may have also felt like it was deliberate and not natural.
If this was the case then he would likely show other body language signals of attraction such as:
- Having dilated pupils when talking to you
- Talking to you more than other people in the group
- Laughing and looking at you
- Pointing his feet towards you even when he’s not directly in front of you
- Glancing in your direction and looking away quickly when you notice
- Showing signs of nervousness such as rubbing the face, arms, legs or neck, fidgeting or foot and finger tapping.
- Blinking more than normal
- Talking with a deeper voice
- Adjusting himself when he notices you
- Getting anxious when you’re around other men
- Getting defensive when other men are around
- Holding prolonged eye contact with you
- Looking at your lips while talking to you or listening to you
One reason that a guy might touch you on the wrist is that he is being dominating.
When people are trying to show that they have authority over the people around them they will often touch them.
If that is why he touched your wrist then it is likely that he would have done it at the same time as making some kind of statement to you or when asking you to do something.
They would also likely show other signals of domination when interacting with you.
They can include:
- Taking up lots of space
- Placing their arms and legs on things that aren’t theirs
- Making themselves appear bigger
- Talking with a deep voice
- Thumb displays
When a person is trying to get accepted by a certain group of people they will often begin to mirror their behaviors.
By doing this, on a subconscious level, it makes the other people in the group deem the person to be a part of their group.
If you recently touched him on the wrist and if the guy tends to hang around with you and your friends then this could have been a reason that he did it.
Mirroring behaviors is also a sign of attraction so if you recently touched him on the wrist but he also shows signals of attraction to you then it would suggest that he was mirroring you due to attraction.
There are a number of other ways that he might mirror your behavior as well which can include:
- Laughing when you do
- Copying your smile
- Mirroring how you stand and sit
- Mirroring your hand gestures
- Walking in a similar way to you
- Talking at a similar pitch and speed as you
He’s trying to reassure you
It could be that he was trying to console you.
If that was the case, he likely would have done it when you were talking to him about something that makes you sad and you would likely have been showing signs of being sad in your body language.
If he is from a culture where they tend to touch each other a lot then he might have touched your wrist since it’s a normal thing to do in his culture.
However, that doesn’t rule out the possibility that he did it due to attraction, domination, consoling or mirroring which is why it’s important to consider the other body language signals that he was showing.
To emphasize what he was saying
The reason that he touched you on the wrist could be because he was trying to emphasize what he was saying.
This would be more likely if he was telling you about something that he feels emotional about. He also would likely have had wide-open eyes, he would have been talking faster, he might have opened his mouth wide at times and he might have appeared red in the face.
Consider your relationship with him
When trying to figure out why a guy might have touched you on the wrist it would be helpful to think about what your relationship with him is like.
If he tends to tell you to do things and he talks to you in a very direct way and tends to make statements while also showing body language signs of domination it would make it likely that he did it due to domination.
Whereas if he has a more dramatic personality then he could have been doing it to try and emphasize what he was saying.
Consider his normal behavior
It would also be helpful to watch how he interacts with others.
If he tends to touch other people a lot then it wouldn’t be a strong indicator that he touched you for any particular reason. In this case, it would be important to consider the other body language signals that he shows when he does it.
Whereas if it isn’t something that he would normally do then it would make it more likely that he did it due to attraction, domination or to emphasize a point.
Think about where and when it happened
If he touched you on the wrist when you were both alone together and it was in a more secluded location then it would make it more likely that it was due to attraction.
If it was in a public place then it still could have been due to attraction but he might also have been trying to assert his authority, he could have been mirroring your own body language or high might have been emphasizing a point. In this case, it would be important to consider the way in which he interacts with you and the body language signals that he shows when he does it.
If you want to learn more about body language, a book I would recommend would be The Definitive Book of Body Language (on Amazon). It shows you how to interpret body language and understand people's true intentions.