If you recently noticed a guy touch you on the thigh you’re probably wondering why he did it and what it might mean.
This post will give you a number of reasons why a guy might do it and will try to help you to make sense of it in the future.
So, what does it mean if a guy touches you on the thigh? It will often be a strong signal that he finds you attractive. If he does then he might be touching you on the thigh to see how you’ll react or to show you that he doesn’t want to just be friends. If he does find you attractive he’ll likely show numerous other signals in his body language. Alternatively, it could signal dominating behavior.
When trying to figure out why he might have touched you on the thigh it would be beneficial to consider what his body language looks like.
By doing so you will be able to get a better understanding of why he did it.
Possible reasons why a guy will touch you on the thigh
Each of the reasons why a guy might touch you on the thigh will likely come with a number of clues in his body language.
Below, I will mention a number of reasons why a guy might touch you on the thigh along with the body language signals to look for with them.
He finds you attractive
A probable reason that a guy will touch you on the thigh is that he finds you attractive.
If this is the case then it would be more likely that he would have done it when you were both alone together. It would also likely have seemed more slow and deliberate.
If he does find you attractive then he would likely show a number of other signals of attraction in his body language such as:
- Having dilated pupils when talking to you
- Talking to you more than others
- Glancing at you often when he’s in the same area as you
- Laughing and looking at you
- Mirroring your body language
- Touching you often in general
- Pointing his feet at you
- Holding eye contact with you for longer
- Talking more deeply when he’s with you
- Adjusting his clothing or hair when he sees you
- Looking at your lips
- Standing and sitting in a way that shows his crotch
He wants to see how you’ll respond
It could be the case that he finds you attractive but he is not sure as to whether or not you find him attractive.
If that is the case then he might have touched you on the thigh to see if you would be welcoming of his advance or not.
If that is why he did it he would likely have seemed quite nervous when he did it and he likely would have appeared to have had an observant appearance since he was judging your reaction.
Another sign that this is why he did it would be if he asked your friends about what you think of him in the past.
He wants to stop being just friends
Since touching the thigh is something that friends don’t do it could be the case that he wants to show you that he doesn’t just want to be your friend.
If this is the case, then he would likely show many of the other signals of attraction mentioned above and he would likely have been friends with you for quite some time. He would also likely show signs of getting nervous around you.
He’s being dominating
It could also be the case that it was a dominating gesture.
If he was being dominating then he would likely show other signs of dominating behavior in his body language such as:
- Staring at you
- Not smiling
- Talking with a deep voice
- Not taking what you have to say seriously
- Making the body appear bigger in the way that he stands
- Tight lips
- Clenching of the jaw
- Putting his arms and legs on things that aren’t his
- Taking up lots of space in the way that he stands and sits
It was accidental
As unlikely as it might seem it could have been the case that it was accidental.
If it was accidental he would have likely pulled his hand away straight away and it would have been more of a quick movement.
It would also be more likely to have been accidental if he did it with his legs since he might not have realized he was actually touching you.
Consider how he did it
When trying to figure out why he touched your thigh it would be helpful to consider the way in which he did it.
If he did it in a slow deliberate way while looking at you or his hand it would make it much less likely that it was accidental and make it more likely that it was a sexual advance or that he was being dominating.
If he did it with his legs or he did it with his hand but he moved it away quickly then it would make it more likely to have been accidental. However, you should also consider what his body language is like around you to get a better idea.
Think about the timing of when he did it
If he touched your thigh while you were alone together and he did it while also changing the tonality of his voice it would make it more likely to have been due to attraction.
If, on the other hand, he did it while he was sitting down it could have been the case that he just misplaced his hand.
Consider your relationship with him
It would also be helpful to consider what your relationship with him is like.
If you have been dating him for a while then it would be likely that he did as a sexual advance especially if you were alone together in a private location.
If it was a person that you haven’t met before then it could have been that it was a sexual advance or that he has a dominating personality or both.
What does it mean when a guy touches your upper thigh? It could mean that he finds you attractive in which case he would likely show it in other aspects of his body language when he is around you. He might also have done it due to being dominating in which case he would likely show it in his body language then as well. It might also have been an accident.
If you want to learn more about body language, a book I would recommend would be The Definitive Book of Body Language (on Amazon). It shows you how to interpret body language and understand people's true intentions.