If you recently had a guy touch you on the knee you’re probably wondering why he did it and what it might have meant.
This post will help you figure out why he touched you on the knee and help you figure out the meaning as it happens in the future.
So, what does it mean when a guy touches your knee? It could mean that he likes you if he does it more than once, on multiple occasions and only with you. It could also be that he is joking, trying to reassure you, doing it as a power-play or it might be accidental.
Since there are a number of reasons why a guy might touch you on your knee it is important to consider the context of how he did it and the body language that he was showing.
By doing so you’ll be able to get a better understanding of the motivations that he had behind touching your knee.
Reasons why a guy will touch your knee
Each of the different reasons why a guy will touch your knee will likely come with a number of clues in his body language.
Below, I will show you a number of reasons why a guy will touch you on the knee and the body language signals to expect to see with them.
He’s attracted to you
If it is just you that he did it with and you notice that he tends to behave differently and show different body language around you then it would be likely that he finds you attractive.
If he did touch your knee because he finds you attractive then it would be likely that he would show a number of other signals of attraction in his behavior and body language.
These signals can include:
- Touching you more than other women
- Asking you more questions than he does to other’s in the group
- Holding eye contact with you for prolonged periods
- Mirroring your body language
- Having more dilated pupils when he is looking at you
- Pointing his feet at you even if he is to your side
- Showing signs of nervousness when you’re talking to other men
- Standing close to you when talking to you
- Touching you back when you touch him
- Speaking with a deeper voice than normal
- Standing or sitting near you when you’re in a group
- Asking your friends about you
- Looking at your lips
- Adjusting his clothing or hair when he notices you
- Glancing at you then quickly looking away if you notice
- Standing or sitting with his legs apart and in a way that highlights his crotch area
He did it as a power-play
One reason that a guy will touch people is that he is trying to show that he is of a higher status than the people around him.
The reason that he touched you on the knee could be because he was doing it as a power-play.
If he was then it would be more likely that he would have done it with other people watching, when talking loudly, he would have done it more firmly and possible when telling you to do something or when making a statement to you.
If he did touch your knee as a power-play it would be likely that he would show other signs of it in his body language.
These signs can include:
- Touching other’s in the group
- Talking loudly
- Talking over people
- Interrupting people
- Firm handshakes
- Holding prolonged eye contact
- Squinting when looking at people
- Having tight lips when listening to you
- Having a tight jaw when listening to you
- Taking up lots of space
- Putting his arms and legs on things that aren’t his
- Standing in a way that makes the body appear bigger
It could be the case that he was being dominant but he also does find you attractive. In that case, he would likely show a number of the signs mentioned above as well as numerous signs of attraction.
He’s mirroring you
When a guy is trying to fit in with a certain group of people he will often mirror their body language and behavior subconsciously. By doing this it helps him to be accepted by the group as one of their own.
If you have touched him on the knee in the past and you hang out with the same people then it could be the case that he was mirroring you.
If he was mirroring you then it would be likely that he would mirror you in other ways as well.
Examples could include:
- Smiling like you do
- Making similar facial gestures as you
- Standing with a similar stance as you
- Talking at a similar pitch as you
- Making similar gestures with his hands as you
He wants more than just a friendship
If he has been your friend for a while then it could be the case that he touched your knee because he wants more than just a friendship.
If that is why he did it then it would be likely that he would show signs of attraction in his body language. However, you might not have picked up on them.
It would be especially likely that he would touch you more than others, make plans based around your schedule and that he would get anxious or jealous when you’re with other men.
He wanted to see how you would react
The reason that he touched you on the knee could be because he wanted to see how you’d react since he’s attracted to you but he’s not sure if you are to him.
If that is why he did it then it would probably have felt quite contrived and he likely would have had an observant appearance when he did it.
He would also show many other signs of attraction in his body language when he is around you.
He wanted to make you feel better
If you were sad at the time and you were showing signs of being sad then it could be the case that he touched your knee to try and make you feel better.
If that is why he did it then it would be likely that he would only have done it then and that he wouldn’t touch you much at other times.
It was accidental
The reason that he touched your knee might have been that it was accidental.
If it was then he probably would have taken his hand away quickly and he might have apologized.
Consider how he touched it
The way that he touched your knee will have an impact on the reasons that he might have done it.
If he touched your knee with his knee then it would be more likely that he either did it due to attraction, mirroring or that it was by accident. It could be the case that he did it for other reasons which is why it’s important to consider the other body language signals that he showed.
Whereas, if he touched your knee with his hand it would make it more likely that he was doing it as a power-play, due to attraction or because he was trying to reassure you.
Consider the location that he did it in
When trying to figure out why he touched your knee it would help to consider the location that he did it in.
If he touched you on the knee when you were both alone together and you weren’t upset then it would be much more likely that he was showing attraction to you.
Whereas, if he did it in a public setting where people were watching it would be more likely that he did it as a power-play. He might have done it for other reasons and his body language would have shown it if he did.
Think about how he interacts with other’s
The way that he interacts with other women will likely help you in figuring out why he touched your knee.
If you notice that he doesn’t touch other women much and his body language changes when he notices you it would be more likely that he touched your knee for one of the reasons mentioned above.
If he doesn’t change his body language around you and he does touch other women a lot then it would be more likely that he has a dominant personality or that he is more flirtatious in his behavior in general.
Consider your relationship with him
If you have been dating him for a while it would make it more likely that he touched you on the knee due to being attracted to you, that he was mirroring you or that he was trying to reassure you.
If he has been your friend for a while he might have touched your knee due to being attracted to you, to reassure you or because he was mirroring you.
If it was a guy that you haven’t met before then it would be likely that he did it because he was showing dominant behavior or that he was trying to see how you would react or both.
Look for multiple signs that suggest the same meaning
When trying to make sense of why he touched you on the knee it would help to consider multiple body language signals at a time.
Usually, there are many different reasons that a person will show one particular body language signal as seen with touching you on the knee. This makes it unreliable to draw conclusions based on single body language signals.
However, if he was showing multiple body language signals that all can mean the same thing then it would be much more likely that it is why he was showing those signals.
What does it mean when a guy touches your knee with his knee? If a guy touches your knee with his then it would be less likely that it was a power-play (although it still could have been) and more likely that he was doing it due to attraction. It would still be helpful to consider the other body language signals that he was showing to figure out the exact reason.
What does it mean when a guy touches your knee with his hand? In this case, it would be more likely that he did it as a power-play or because he was overtly showing attraction to you. It would be necessary to consider if he was showing body language signals of domination or attraction to differentiate between the two.
If you want to learn more about body language, a book I would recommend would be The Definitive Book of Body Language (on Amazon). It shows you how to interpret body language and understand people's true intentions.