If a guy recently told his friends about you then you might be wondering why and what it might mean about the way that he feels about you.
This post will show you a number of reasons why he might have told his friends about you and why other guys might do the same in the future.
So, what does it mean when a guy tells his friends about you? It would likely be a sign that he is attracted to you especially if he says positive things about you and he shows signs of attraction around you. It could also be that he considers you a friend or you were just a part of what he was telling them about.
There are actually a number of different reasons why a guy might tell his friends about you and there are a number of things to consider when trying to figure out why he might have done it.
Why a guy will tell his friends about you
Each of the different reasons why he told his friends about you will likely come with a number of clues in the way that he did it and in the body language that he shows around you.
Below, I will mention a number of reasons why a guy will tell his friends about you, the signs to look for and the things to consider.
He is attracted to you
The reason that he told his friends about you could be that he is attracted to you.
This would be more likely if he told them specifically about you in a positive way and that he wasn’t telling them about something else that you happened to be a part of. It would also be more likely if his friends ask you what you think of him and if they talk about him more positively around you.
If he is attracted to you then he might show signs of being attracted to you, when he is around you, by doing things such as:
- Holding prolonged eye contact with you
- Giving you the most amount of attention
- Glancing at you a lot
- Standing closer to you than he does with other people
- Getting defensive when other guys are around you both
- Pointing his feet at you (people will often point their feet at the person that they are attracted to)
- Watching you when you are around other guys
- Adjusting his appearance when he sees you
- Having dilated pupils when looking at you (people will often have more dilated pupils when looking at someone that they are attracted to)
There are more signs of attraction that a guy might show and I have written about more of them in this blog post.
You happened to be a part of what he was telling them about
The reason that he told his friends about you could be that he was telling them about something that he did that also involved you.
If that was the reason then it might be the case that his friends would have asked you about what you did. It would also be more likely that he would show positive body language around you assuming that he likes you as a friend but he would be less likely to show signs of attraction around you.
If he was just telling them about you because you was a part of something that he did then it could still be the case that he is attracted to you. If he is then it would be likely that he would show signs of attraction around you that he doesn’t around other people.
He considers you a friend
It could be the case that he was telling them about you because he considers you a friend.
If that is the case then it would be likely that he would show the same body language around you as he does with his other friends and he wouldn’t show signs of attraction around you unless he is also attracted to you.
He doesn’t like you
It could also be the case that he was telling them about you because he was annoyed with you in some way or he doesn’t like you.
If that is the case then it would be more likely that he would have told them about you in a negative way and his friends might have shown more negative body language around you as well.
If he is annoyed with you or he doesn’t like you then he might show distancing body language when he is around you be doing things such as:
- Avoiding eye contact
- Facing away from you (especially with the feet)
- Having tight lips when around you
- Standing further away from you than he does with other people
- Squinting at you
Consider how he reacts to seeing you
When trying to understand why he told his friends about you and how he feels about you it would help to consider the way that he reacts to seeing you.
If he noticeably changes his body language when he notices you then it would be more likely that he has particularly good or bad feelings about you depending on the way that he changes it.
If he reacts to seeing you by doing things such as:
- Adjusting his appearance
- Adjusting his posture
- Facing towards you
- Moving closer to you
- Holding his gaze with you for longer than is normal
Then it would be more likely that he is attracted to you.
Whereas, if he reacts to seeing you by doing things such as:
- Squinting
- Avoiding eye contact
- Smiling only at the mouth and not beside the eyes
- Standing further away from you
- Facing away from you
Then it would be more likely that he has negative feelings about you.
Consider what his friends tell you about him
It would also help to consider what his friends tell you about him.
If his friends ask what you think of him, they talk about him in a positive way and they mention things such as that he is single, etc then it would make it more likely that he is attracted to you.
Whereas, if they talk to you in a more negative way then it would be more likely that he told them something bad about you. However, if his friends are girls then it could also be that they are jealous of you.
Consider how he interacts with other people
It would also help to compare the way that he interacts with you with how he interacts with other people.
If he shows the same body language around you as he does around other people then it would make it more likely that he considers you as a friend.
Whereas, if his body language is different around you in a positive way then it would make it more likely that he is attracted to you.
Look for a number of body language signs
When considering what his body language might be showing it would help to consider multiple body language signs at the same time.
The reason for this is that a single body language sign will usually have multiple possible meanings. This can make single body language signs unreliable on their own.
Whereas, if someone shows a number of body language signs that all suggest the same thing then it would make it more likely that they are showing them for that exact reason.
If you are still unsure of why he tells his friends about you then a good ebook that I would recommend that will teach you how to better read body language and spot signs of attraction would be this one.
If you want to learn more about body language, a book I would recommend would be The Definitive Book of Body Language (on Amazon). It shows you how to interpret body language and understand people's true intentions.