If a guy talks to everyone but you then you’re probably wondering why he does it.

This post will help you to figure out why a guy might be talking to everyone but you and help you to make sense of it when it happens in the future.

So, what does it mean when a guy talks to everyone but you? It might be that he is attracted to you but too nervous to talk to you especially if he shows other signs of attraction around you. He might also think you don’t like him, be annoyed with you or he could be doing it on purpose.

Since there are a number of reasons why a guy might talk to everyone but you it would be helpful to consider the context of how he doesn’t talk to you and the body language signals that he shows.

By doing so you’ll be able to get a better understanding of why he talks to everyone but you.

Reasons why a guy will talk to everyone but you

Each of the different reasons why a guy will talk to everyone but you will likely come with a number of clues in his body language.

Below, I will mention a number of reasons why a guy will talk to everyone but you and the body language signals that you should look for.

He’s attracted to you

If a guy talks to everyone but you, he changes his body language when he notices you and he has no reason to be upset with you or feel threatened by you then it would be likely that he is attracted to you.

The reason that he will talk to everyone but you when he is attracted to you is that he might feel nervous around you because of it or he might not want you to know that he is attracted to you.

If he is attracted to you then it would be likely that he would show it in his body language in other ways by doing things such as:

  • Having dilated pupils when around you
  • Sitting or standing in a more upright way when he notices you
  • Adjusting his clothing or hair when he notices you
  • Staring at you then quickly looking away when you notice
  • Holding prolonged eye contact with you
  • Showing signs of nervousness around you (mentioned below)
  • Laughing when you do and looking to see if you’re laughing when he is
  • Positioning himself to be near you
  • Pointing his feet at you even if you’re not directly in front of him
  • Mirroring your body language
  • Blinking more frequently
  • Looking at your lips
  • Asking your friends about you
  • Getting anxious when you’re with other men

He thinks that you don’t like him

The reason that he talks to everyone but you might be that he thinks that you don’t like him.

If that is the case then it would be likely that something would have happened that would make him feel that way. Perhaps it’s because you came across as being annoyed with him when he was introduced to you.

If he does think that you don’t like him then it would be likely that he would show distancing behaviors when he notices you. This means that he might point his feet away from you, glance at the exit, face away from you, cross his arms and legs and position himself not to be near you.

You make him nervous

It could be the case that he talks to everyone but you because you make him feel nervous.

It could be that he gets nervous around you because he’s attracted to you in which case he would show signs of attraction in his body language.

Alternatively, it could be the case that he gets nervous around you because he feels like you will be judgemental in someway towards him or that you will react negatively to what he has to say.

If he does get nervous around you then it would be likely that he would show it in his body language in other ways as well.

Examples could include:

  • Self-hugging when he notices you
  • Rubbing his arms, face, legs or neck when he’s around you
  • Coughing
  • Having a dry throat
  • Talking with an upwards inflection where he goes higher-pitched towards the ends of sentences
  • Fidgeting
  • Tapping the feet up and down
  • Scratching the back of the neck
  • Touching the front of the neck
  • Avoiding eye contact

He’s mad at you

If he used to talk to you but now he doesn’t then it would be likely that he has stopped talking to you due to a recent event that happened between you both.

One possibility is that he isn’t talking to you because he is mad at you.

If that is the case then it would be likely that something would have recently happened between you both that might cause him to be mad at you. It could be that you had an argument with him, did something that he didn’t like or that he suspects that you did.

If that is the case then it would be likely that he would show that he’s annoyed with you in his body language.

This means that he would likely do things such as:

  • Crossing the arms and legs when he notices you
  • Facing the feet away from you
  • Squinting at you when looking at you
  • Tightening the eyebrows when looking at you
  • Having tight lips when you’re talking
  • Distancing himself from you
  • Giving you short answers
  • Tensing the jaw when looking at you
  • Avoiding eye contact with you

He’s being submissive

It might be the case that he talks to everyone but you because he feels threatened by you.

If that is the case then it would be likely that he would show submissive behaviors when he is around you such as:

  • Avoiding eye contact with you
  • Laughing with the mouth
  • Talking at a higher pitch
  • Showing vulnerable areas like the palms
  • Avoiding large movements
  • Distancing himself from you
  • Face touching
  • Making the body appear small

He’s doing it on purpose

The reason that he talks to everyone but you might actually be that he is trying to make you think about his so that you’ll be more attracted to him.

If that is why he does it then it would be likely that he would be showing subtle signs of being attracted to you as mentioned in the first section. You should especially expect to see him standing near you, facing his feet at you, adjusting himself when he first notices you and that he gets anxious when you’re with other men.

He doesn’t like you

The reason that he talks to everyone but you could actually be that he doesn’t like you.

It could be the case that he doesn’t like something that you said, you were mean to him in some way or it might be the case that someone said something bad about you to him.

If he does it because he doesn’t like you then it would be likely that he would show similar body language signals as he would if he was annoyed with you.

He likes you but he’s not interested

It might be the case that he talks to everyone but you because he does find you attractive but he isn’t interested in getting to know you.

It could be because he isn’t looking for a girlfriend or because he actually has one already.

If he is talking to everyone but you for this reason then it would be likely that he would show that he’s attracted to you in his body language but he would be less likely to respond to any positive signals that you show him.

Consider your relationship with him

When trying to figure out why he is talking to everyone but you it would be helpful to consider the type of relationship that you have with him.

If you have been dating him for a while or he is your boyfriend and he has suddenly stopped talking to you then it would be more likely that he is annoyed with you in some way. It would be necessary for you to think about the things that happened around the time that he stopped talking to you.

If you think that he might be seeing someone else then it would be likely that he would be avoiding some of your questions which I have talked about more in-depth here.

If he has been your friend for a while and he used to talk to you but now he’s not then it would also be more likely that he is annoyed with you in some way or he might think that you’re annoyed with him.

If he has been talking to everyone but you from the start then it would be more likely that he does it because he is attracted to you but it causes him to get nervous around you. However, it might also be the case that he thinks you don’t like him, gets nervous around you in general or even that he doesn’t like you.

It would be necessary for you to consider how his body language changes when he is around you to figure out the exact reason.

Consider when it started

When trying to figure out why he talks to everyone but you it would also be helpful to think about what happened when it started.

If it happened after you had an argument with each other then it would make it much more likely that he’s doing it because he’s annoyed with you.

Consider where it happens

If you notice that he does talk to you at certain times but sometimes he doesn’t then it would be likely that it would have something to do with certain people being present.

If you notice that he tends to talk to you when a particular person or group of people are not present but then he stops when they are then it would be likely that it has something to do with them.

It could be the case that he doesn’t want them to see him with you perhaps because they don’t like you or because he has a girlfriend.

Consider his normal behavior

When trying to understand what a guy’s body language might be suggesting it would be helpful to consider the normal behavior that he shows.

If he tends to talk to others but not you and his body language changes when you are around then it would be much more likely that he is doing it due to one of the reasons discussed in this post. It would be necessary to consider other factors mentioned and his body language to determine the exact reason.

Whereas, If you notice that he tends to be quiet in general and he doesn’t really change his body language or behavior when you are around then it would make it more likely that he just has a more quiet personality.

Look for multiple body language signs

When you’re trying to figure out why he talks to everyone but you it would be helpful to consider multiple body language signals at the same time.

The reason for that is that a guy can show a single body language signal, such as crossing the arms, for many different reasons. It’s only when he shows a number of body language signals that can all have the same meaning, at the same time, that you can draw an accurate conclusion on why he’s doing it.

Related

Why does he talk to my friends but not me? If he talks to all of your friends but he doesn’t talk to you then it could be that he is attracted to you but he is nervous in which case he would show signs of attraction and nervousness. Alternatively, he might think that you don’t like him, he might not feel like he knows you well enough yet or he might even be doing it on purpose.

If you want to learn more about body language, a book I would recommend would be The Definitive Book of Body Language (on Amazon). It shows you how to interpret body language and understand people's true intentions.

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