If a guy talks to you a lot, this post will show you likely reasons why and what would make them more likely.
So, what does it mean when a guy talks a lot? A guy talking a lot could mean that he likes you especially if he only does it with you and if he shows other signs of attraction around you. It might also be that he is nervous, that he considers you a friend or that he is nervous.
There are a number of possible reasons why a guy will talk a lot but there are also things you can consider to help figure out the main reason.
What does it mean when a guy talks a lot?
Below are likely reasons why a guy will talk a lot and what would make them more likely.
He’s attracted to you
If he only talks to you a lot and he changes his body language and behavior around you, it would be likely that he is attracted to you.
The reason why talking to you a lot suggests that he is attracted to you is that it suggests that he is excited to be around you which is likely to be because he likes you.
If he is attracted to you, it would be likely that he would show it in his body language and behavior in other ways by doing things such as:
- Mirroring your body language
- Uncrossing his arms and legs when he sees you
- Adjusting his clothing and hair when he sees you
- Finding excuses to touch you
- Having more dilated pupils than usual when he is around you
- Holding extended eye contact with you
- Standing close to you when talking to you
- Pointing his feet at you
- Sitting or standing more upright when he notices you
- Showing signs of nervousness when talking to you (more below)
- Getting anxious when you’re with other men and staying in the area when you are
- Becoming defensive when other men are around
- Keeping his focus on you when there are other people talking around you
He is nervous
The reason why he talks a lot could be that he gets slightly nervous around you.
Sometimes, when people are nervous, it will cause them to talk more and this could be why he talks to you a lot.
The reason why he gets nervous around you could be that he is attracted to you. If it is why he gets nervous around you, it would be likely that he would show signs of both nervousness and attraction in his behavior and body language.
If he does get nervous, some other signs that he might show could include:
- Rubbing his arms, face, legs or neck often
- Touching the front of his neck
- Scratching the back of his neck
- Having a dry mouth
- Struggling to maintain eye contact
- Talking with an upwards inflection where he goes high pitched at the ends of sentences
- Tapping his fingers and feet a lot
He wants to be more than just friends
If he is your friend then the reason that he talks to you a lot might be that he wants to be more than just friends with you but he hasn’t had the courage to tell you yet.
If he does want to be in a relationship with you, it would be likely that he would show signs of attraction in his body language and behavior when he is around you but you might not have noticed them.
It would be especially likely that he would get anxious when you are with other men your age, get defensive when they are around and that he would make plans based on yours.
He enjoys your company
The reason why he talks to you a lot could simply be that he enjoys your company.
If he does but he isn’t attracted to you, it would be likely that he would show positive body language signals around you like uncrossing the arms and legs and smiling. However, he would be less likely to adjust his hair or clothing when he sees you, find excuses to touch you or hold prolonged eye contact with you.
Consider the context
It would help to consider the context of how he talks a lot. If he starts talking a lot when he notices you, it would be likely that he does it because he is trying to impress you. Whereas, if he always talks a lot, it would be more likely that he is naturally talkative.
Consider how he reacts to seeing you
It would also help to consider the way that he reacts when he first sees you.
If he tends to uncross his arms and legs, sit up straight, raise his eyebrows and smile, hold prolonged eye contact with you, point his feet at you, position himself to be nearer to you and his pupils dilate, it would be likely that he is attracted to you.
Consider how he interacts with other people
It would also be helpful to consider how he interacts with other people and compare it to how he interacts with you.
If he talks to other people a lot and he shows the same body language around them as he does around you then it would be more likely that he has a more talkative personality.
Whereas, if he only does it with you and his body language becomes different around you, it would be more likely that he is attracted to you.
Consider multiple aspects of his body language
When trying to make sense of what a guy thinks of you it would be helpful to consider multiple aspects of his body language at a time.
The reason for that is that a single body language signal will often come with a number of different possible meanings. This can make it difficult to draw an accurate conclusion about his feelings towards you based on one signal.
Whereas, if he shows multiple body language signals that can mean the same thing then it would be more likely that it is the actual reason that he is showing them.
If you want to learn more about body language, a book I would recommend would be The Definitive Book of Body Language (on Amazon). It shows you how to interpret body language and understand people's true intentions.