If a guy was recently staring at your lips, this post will show you likely reasons why and what would make them more likely.

So, what does it mean when a guy stares at your lips? Possible reasons why a guy will stare at your lips are that he finds you attractive and is thinking of kissing you, he is trying to understand what you’re saying, he likes how your lips look, he is nervous or he might be mirroring your behavior.

There are a number of possible reasons why a guy will stare at your lips and he might do it due to a combination of reasons. However, there are some things you can consider to help figure out the main cause.

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What does it mean when a guy stares at your lips?

There are a number of different possible reasons why a guy will stare at your lips.

They’re thinking of kissing you

The reason why he was staring at your lips could be that he wanted to kiss you.

When this is the case there will likely be a number of other hints that it is what he is thinking. You may notice that he talks to you more than others, touches you frequently, holds his gaze with you for longer, his pupils might dilate more when he is with you and he might tend to rub his face, neck, arms or legs when he is with you.

It will also be more likely to be the reason if it is when you’re on a date with the person or if you know that he likes you. If you haven’t met him before then he may be giving you a number of the body language signals mentioned above and you’ll likely find that he tends to glance in your direction and he may point their feet towards you.

They’re trying to understand what you’re saying

It might also be the case that he is simply trying to understand you better.

This would be more likely to be the case if you are in a loud environment or if he is deaf.

He will likely look at your lips in a different way to a person that is thinking of kissing you. He will likely look at your lips while you are talking, he will likely look at them for longer, he might squint his eyes slightly and he may not be showing the signs of attraction mention above.

They like how they look

The reason that he might be looking at your lips could simply be because they like how your lips look.

This would be more likely to be the case if you happen to be wearing brighter lipstick.

They’re nervous

The reason why the guy might be looking at your lips might be because he is nervous and he feels uncomfortable looking you in the eyes.

If this is the case, he will likely show some signs of anxiety. He might be rubbing their legs, face, neck or arms often, he might be giving more nervous laughs, he might be talking in a higher pitch than usual, he might be tapping his feet and pointing them towards the exit (signals that they want to leave) and he might have slightly constricted pupils.

They’re mirroring your behavior

When we are with people that we like or find attractive it can cause us to begin to mirror their behavior in order to build rapport with them. The reason that he might be looking at your lips could be because he is actually mirroring your behavior.

If this is the case, it would be likely that you actually tend to look at his lips and it might be the case that he is mirroring other parts of your body language. For example, if you cross your legs then he might as well.

Consider the environment

It would help to consider the environment that he stared at your lips in.

If you’re in a social setting that’s loud, it will make it more likely that he is looking at your lips in order to understand what you’re saying. However, it could also be a sign that he wants to kiss you especially if he shows other signs of attraction in his body language.

If it’s in a business setting, it will make it more likely that it was due to the guy being nervous especially if the guy is new or in a lower position than you. However, it could also have been due to trying to better understand what you are saying.

Consider other body language signals that they’re showing

It would also help to consider the other body language signs that he shows.

If you notice that he is frequently touching his neck or rubbing their arms, face, legs or neck then that could signal that he is feeling anxious. This would suggest that the reason that he looked at your lips was due to him feeling too nervous to look you in the eyes. It could also suggest that he is attracted to you but his is feeling nervous.

An important part of the body to look at when trying to figure out how a guy might be feeling is actually his feet. People learn how to hide their emotions by controlling their face but they don’t tend to think about changing what they do with their feet. This can make the feet a reliable indicator of how someone is feeling.

When someone is attracted to a person or if they particularly like someone it will actually cause them to point their feet towards that person. This means that if the person looked at your lips and they aren’t sat right in front of you but they are pointing their feet towards you then it would suggest that they looked at your lips due to attraction (but that’s not 100% definite).

On the other hand, if you notice that they are tapping one of their feet and they looked at your lips. Then it would suggest that they are not feeling comfortable where they are and they are thinking of leaving. In this case, you should consider if their feet are facing away from you, if they are glancing away and if they are showing other signs of anxiety to support this.

Another body part that you should consider is the eyes. If a person is feeling good it can cause their pupils to constrict so if the person looked at your lips and you noticed that they had dilated pupils then it would suggest that they wanted to kiss you. On the other hand, if their pupils are noticeably constricted then it would suggest that they are not feeling comfortable.

Consider the person doing it

It would also help to consider the type of relationship you have with him.

If it was a friend then they would be less likely to have done it due to nervousness and would be more likely either be because they are trying to understand what you’re saying, because they are intrigued by your lips or because they are mirroring your body language. However, it could also have been due to him being attracted to you. If he is, it would be likely that he would interact with you in a different way to how he interacts with his other friends.

If it was someone that works for you, it would make it more likely that it was due to nervousness or trying to understand what you were saying.

If it was a guy that you hadn’t met before then it could have been that he was nervous, looking at your lipstick or he might have been thinking about kissing you. In this case, it would be particularly important to consider his other body language signals and the environment since you won’t know much about the person.

Think about when they looked at your lips

Another thing to consider is when he looked at your lips.

If he looked at your lips as soon as he saw you, it would make it more likely that they looked at them because they found your lips interesting.

While, if it was after speaking to him after a while and it was on a date, it would make it more likely that it was due to attraction.

If you want to learn more about body language, a book I would recommend would be The Definitive Book of Body Language (on Amazon). It shows you how to interpret body language and understand people's true intentions.

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