If a guy recently told you that he wants you, this post will show you likely reasons why and what you can do about them.
So, what does it mean when a guy says he wants you? Likely reasons why a guy will say that he wants you are that he is attracted to you, he wants to be more than just friends or that he is being dominant.
There are a number of possible reasons why a guy will say that he wants you. However, there are some things you can consider to help figure out the main cause.
What does it mean when a guy says he wants you?
Below are likely causes and what would make them more likely.
He is attracted to you
The reason why he said he wants you could be that he is attracted to you.
This would be more likely if he only said it to you, he said it when he was alone with you, he shows different body language around you than he does with other people and if he also says similar things only to you.
If he is attracted to you, it would be likely that he would show signs of being attracted to you, when he is around you, in his body language by doing things such as:
- Holding prolonged eye contact with you
- Keeping his focus on you when multiple people are talking
- Glancing at you a lot
- Pointing his feet at you (people often point their feet at people that they are attracted to)
- Adjusting his appearance when he sees you
- Asking you the most questions when in a group with you
- Touching you a lot
- Talking to you with a deeper voice than he does with other people
- Standing closer to you than he does with other people
- Watching you and getting anxious when you are around other men
- Getting defensive when other men are with you both
- Having dilated pupils when looking at you (people’s pupils will often become more dilated when looking at someone that they are attracted to)
He wants to be more than just friends
If he has been your friend for a while, the reason that he said he wants you could be that he wants to have more than just a friendship with you.
If he does want to be more than just friends he would likely show signs of being attracted to you and you might not have picked up on them.
If he did say it because he’s attracted to you, it would be especially likely that he would get anxious while you are with other men your age, that he would become defensive while they’re around you both and that he would base his schedule around yours.
He is being dominant
The cause might have been that he was being dominant. This would be more likely if he said it when you were both around other people.
- Taking up lots of space
- Touching other people
- Putting his hands or feet on things that aren’t his
- Talking over people
- Talking loudly with a deeper voice
- Telling people to do things
- Tight lips
Tensionin the jaw
Consider the way that he reacts to seeing you
When trying to figure out why he said that he wants you and how he feels about you it would help to consider how he reacts to seeing you.
If he, noticeably, changes his body language and behavior then it would make it more likely that he has particularly good feelings for you.
If he reacts to seeing you by doing things such as:
- Adjusting his appearance
- Adjusting his posture
- Facing towards you (especially with his feet)
- Moving closer to you
- Having more dilated pupils
Then it would be more likely that he said that he is attracted to you because he is attracted to you.
Consider when and where he said that he wants you
The timing of when he said that he wants you would be something to consider.
If he said it when you were around other people, it would make it more likely that he was saying it because he was being dominant. He might also have said it because he was trying to make someone else jealous which would be more likely if he said it when there were other girls with you both.
If he said it to you when you were alone with him then it would make it more likely that he was showing attraction to you.
Consider how he interacts with other people
People can show certain body language signs naturally. This is why it would help to compare how he interacts with you with how he interacts with other people.
If he shows the same body language around his other friends as he does with you, it would make it more likely that he said it because he considers you as a friend.
Whereas, if he shows different body language around you then it would make it more likely that he said he wants you because he is attracted to you and he wants to date you.
Look for a number of body language clues
When considering what he could be showing with his body language it would help to consider multiple signs at the same time.
The reason for this is that a single body language sign can have many different meanings. This can cause single body language signs to be less reliable on their own.
Whereas, if someone shows a number of body language signs that all suggest the same thing then it would make it more likely that they are showing them for that reason.
If you want to learn more about body language, a book I would recommend would be The Definitive Book of Body Language (on Amazon). It shows you how to interpret body language and understand people's true intentions.