If a guy recently said he just wants to be friends, this post will show you likely reasons why and what would make them more likely.

So, what does it mean when a guy says he just wants to be friends? Likely reasons why a guy will say that he just wants to be friends are that he is not attracted to you, he is seeing someone else or that he is too busy right now.

There are a number of possible reasons why a guy will say that he just wants to be friends but there are some things you can consider to help figure out the main cause.

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What does it mean when a guy says he just wants to be friends?

Below are likely reasons why a guy will say that he just wants to be friends and what would make them more likely.

He is not attracted to you

The cause could be that he is not attracted to you. This would be more likely if he shows signs of disinterest in his body language when he is around you. He might do it by doing things such as:

  • Avoiding eye contact
  • Standing far away from you
  • Not asking you many questions
  • Giving you short answers
  • Tense facial expressions
  • Giving excuses to not hang out
  • Pointing his feet away from you

He is seeing someone else

The reason could be that he is actually seeing other women and he does not want to enter a relationship with you because he does not want to stop seeing them. This would be more likely if he often cancels dates, if you often see him around other women and if he has actually said that you are not the only one that he is dating.

He is too busy right now

It might also be the case that he is not sure that he is ready for a relationship. This would be more likely if he is likely to be moving away soon, he has recently left a relationship, or if he has said that he is not ready for one.

Consider how he reacts to seeing you

To help figure out the main reason why he said it, it would help to consider the way that he reacts when he sees you.

If he reacts to seeing you by doing things such as moving closer to you, adjusting his appearance, raising his eye brows and smiling. It would be more likely that he is interested in you but he just is not yet ready for a relationship.

Whereas, if he does things such as move away, try to avoid eye contact or tighten his lips, it would be more likely that he is not actually interested.

Consider how he interacts with other people

Another thing to consider would be how he interacts with other people compared with how he interacts with you. If he tends to stand closer to you than he does with other people, he touches you the most and asks you the most questions, it would be more likely that he is interested in you. Whereas, if he talks to you the least and stands far away from you, it would be more likely that he is not very interested in you.

Consider multiple signs

When considering his body language, it would help to consider multiple signs at the same time. The reason for this is that one body language, by itself, is not usually reliable. Whereas, if you see multiple body language signs that all suggest the same thing, it would be more likely that he is feeling that way.

If you want to learn more about body language, a book I would recommend would be The Definitive Book of Body Language (on Amazon). It shows you how to interpret body language and understand people's true intentions.

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