If a guy often plays with his hair when he is near you, this post will show you likely reasons why and what would make them more likely.
So, what does it mean when a guy plays with his hair? Possible reasons why a guy will play with his hair are that he is attracted to you, he is nervous, he has an itch, or that he naturally touches his hair a lot.
There are a number of possible reasons why a guy will play with his hair but there are some things you can consider to help figure out the main reason.
What does it mean when a guy plays with his hair?
Below are likely causes and what would make them more likely.
He’s attracted to you
Often, men will touch their hair when they are nervous or when they see a woman that they are attracted to. It could be the case that he does it because he is attracted to you. This would be more likely if he tends to touch his hair as soon as he sees you and if he seems to interact with you differently to how he interacts with other people.
If he is attracted to you, it would be likely that he would show multiple signs of attraction in his body language and behavior.
These signs can include:
- Having dilated pupils when around you
- Pointing his feet at you even when he’s not directly in front of you
- Adjusting his clothing or hair as soon as he notices you
- Looking at you often and quickly looking away when you notice
- Asking your friends about you
- Holding eye contact with you for longer than normal
- Showing signs of nervousness when around you which can include rubbing the face, arms, neck or legs
- Mirroring your body language
- Getting anxious when you’re with other men
- Speaking with a deeper voice than normal
- Laughing and looking at you
- Standing close to you
- Positioning himself to be near you
One reason that a guy might touch his hair, when he is with you, could be that he is nervous.
If he is doing it due to being nervous, it could also be a sign that he is attracted to you. If he is, it would be likely that he would show a number of the body language signals of attraction mentioned above.
If he is doing it due to being nervous then it would be likely that he would show signs of being nervous in a number of other ways such as:
- Rubbing the eyes
- Blinking more frequently
- Speaking with a higher pitched voice than normal
- Struggling to hold eye contact
- Dry mouth
- Quivering below the eyes or mouth
- Standing or sitting in a way that makes the body appear small
- Tapping the feet or fingers
One reason that he might touch his hair is that he is mad.
It could be that he is mad at you or that he is mad at someone else and it would likely be apparent based on recent events.
If he is mad, he would likely show numerous other signs of being mad which can include:
- Clenching the fists
- Tightening the jaw
- Tight lips
- Showing the teeth
- Making the body appear bigger
- Redness of the face
- Visible veins
- Tensing of the muscles
- Tightening of the eyebrows
One reason that a guy might touch his hair when he is around you might be that he is frustrated.
If that is the case, it would be likely that something would have recently happened that would make him frustrated.
He had an itch
It could just be the case that he had an itch that he needed to satisfy.
If that was the case then he probably would have done it only once or twice over a short time frame and that it would have been more vigorous.
He would also likely have had a more neutral appearing body language where he didn’t show numerous signs of attraction, frustration or of being mad.
He touches his hair naturally
It might also be the case that he touches his hair naturally. This would be more likely if he does not only touch his hair when he is around you and he also touches his hair a lot around other people. It would also be likely that he would show similar body language around other people as he does around you.
Consider how often he does it
It would help to consider how often he does it.
If he only touched his hair once, it would be more likely that he had an itch.
Whereas if he did it multiple times or it lasted over an extended period then it would be more likely that he did it due to attraction, frustration or being mad. It would be necessary for you to consider how he did it and his body language to figure out which.
Think about his normal behavior
When trying to make sense of a guy’s body language signals it would be helpful to know what his normal body language and behavior looks like.
If he only touches his hair when he is around you and his behavior and body language changes when he notices you, it would be much more likely that he finds you attractive.
If he does it around other women and his body language doesn’t change around you then it would be more likely that he is inconsiderate but it may or may not mean that he did it for one of the reasons already mentioned. It would be necessary for you to consider the timing and the way that he does it to figure out why.
Consider clusters of body language
When trying to make sense of a guy’s body language it would be necessary to think about it in terms of clusters of body language and not single pieces of body language.
There are often multiple reasons why a guy might show particular body language signals which can make it difficult to make reliable conclusions. However, when a guy shows multiple pieces of body language that all point to the same thing it would be a much more reliable indicator of his mood.
If you want to learn more about body language, a book I would recommend would be The Definitive Book of Body Language (on Amazon). It shows you how to interpret body language and understand people's true intentions.