If a guy recently called you girl then you’re probably wondering why he said it and what he meant by it.

This post will help you understand why he called you girl and help you understand why other guys might say it in the future.

So, what does it mean when a guy calls you girl? It could mean that he likes you especially if he only says it to you. It might also be that he is being condescending or doing it as a power-play, trying to be funny or that he is showing that he wants more than just a friendship with you.

Since there are a number of reasons why a guy will call you girl it is important to consider the body language signs that he shows around you and the context of how he called you girl.

By doing so you’ll be able to get a better understanding of why he would call you girl.

Reasons why a guy will call you girl

Each of the different reasons why a guy will call you girl will likely come with a number of clues in his body language.

Below, I will show you a number of reasons why he might have called you girl and the body language signs that you can expect to see with them.

He likes you

If he only calls you girl and he changes his body language and behavior in a positive way when he is with you then it would be likely that he is attracted to you.

If he does call you girl because he likes you then it would be likely that he would show signs of being attracted to you in his body language and behavior.

These signs can include:

  • Mirroring your body language
  • Standing in your personal space when talking to you
  • His pupils dilate when he sees you
  • Always pointing his feet at you when you’re around
  • Getting agitated when you’re talking to other men
  • Finding excuses to touch you
  • Asking your friends about you
  • Sitting or standing with a straighter posture when he sees you
  • Asking you the most questions when you’re with a group of people
  • Adjusting his shirt, tie, pants, hair, etc when he sees you
  • Holding prolonged eye contact with you
  • Staring at you then quickly looking away when you notice
  • Talking to you with a deeper voice than he does with other people
  • Becoming defensive when you’re both with other men your age

He wants to see how you’ll react

It could be the case that he is attracted to you but he isn’t sure if you’re attracted to him so he called you girl to see how you would react.

If that is why he called you girl then it would be likely that he would show signs of being attracted to you in his body language and behavior when he is with you.

He’s being disrespectful

The reason that he called you girl could be that he was being condescending.

If he was then it would be likely that he would have said it when you were making a suggestion, when disagreeing with you or if he said it in a sarcastic way.

If he did call you girl because he was being condescending then it would be likely that he would have shown other signs of it in his behavior and body language such as:

  • Pointing his chin up and looking down at you
  • Smirking when you’re talking
  • Having tight lips when you’re talking
  • Disagreeing with you
  • Not taking what you have to say seriously

He’s using it as a power-play

The reason that he called you girl could be that he was trying to show that he is of a higher status than you.

This would be more likely to have been the reason if he did it in front of other people, with a deeper voice and if he did it when telling you to do something.

If he did call you girl as a power-play then it would be likely that he would show other signs of it in his behavior and body language such as:

  • Holding prolonged eye contact with people
  • Telling people to do things
  • Taking up lots of space
  • Standing in peoples personal space
  • Squinting when looking at people
  • Tensing the jaw when looking at people
  • Having tight lips when people are talking
  • Talking over people
  • Interrupting people

He’s trying to be fun

The reason that he called you girl could be that he was trying to make you laugh in some way.

If that is why he did it then it would be likely that he would have shown positive body language signals such as smiling, showing his palms and having wide-open eyes and not squinting.

He wants to be more than just friends

If he has been your friend for a while and he called you girl then it might be the case that he wants to be more than just friends with you.

If he did call you girl because of wanting to be more than just friends with you then it would be likely that he would have shown signs of attraction in his body language that you might not have noticed.

It would be especially likely that he would get jealous or agitated when you talk to other men, that he would get defensive when other men are around and that he would make plans based on yours.

Consider how he reacts to seeing you

When trying to understand why he calls you girl it would be helpful to consider the way that he reacts to seeing you.

If he reacts by raising his eyebrows and smiling, making space for you, uncrossing his arms, pointing his feet at you, having more dilated pupils and by adjusting his hair or clothing then it would be more likely that he called you girl because he’s attracted to you.

Whereas, if he crosses his arms, squints, tightens the lips, points his feet away from you, tightens the jaw and points his chin up then it would be more likely that he did it as a power-play or because he was being condescending.

Consider your relationship with him

When trying to understand why he calls you girl it would be helpful to consider your relationship with him.

If he is your friend then he might call you girl because he wants more than just a friendship or because he is trying to be fun. It would be helpful to consider if he says it to his other female friends and if he shows signs of attraction.

If he is a guy that you don’t know very well then it would be more likely that he was being condescending, did it as a power-play, he wanted to see your reaction or he might have been trying to be funny. It would help to consider if he was showing positive or negative body language and the way that he said it.

Consider when and where he said it

The timing and location of when he called you girl would also be a useful thing to consider.

If he said it when you were both alone together then it would be more likely that he said it because he is attracted to you. It would be helpful to consider whether or not he was showing signs of attraction. Otherwise, he might have been trying to be funny or he might have said it in a condescending way.

If he said it in front of other people then it would be more likely that he said it as a power-play assuming that he showed other dominating body language signs. If he showed positive signs then he might have been trying to be funny or he might have been showing attraction.

Think about how he interacts with other people

Comparing the way that he interacts with other people with the way that he interacts with you will also likely help you understand why he calls you girl.

If he says it to other women as well and he shows the same body language around them then it could be the case that he says it naturally or that he has a tendency of dominating behavior. It would be necessary to consider what type of signals he normally shows around them.

If he only calls you girl and he changes his body language when he sees you then it would be more likely that he calls you girl because he likes you and you should expect to see other signs of attraction.

Think about multiple aspects of his body language

When trying to understand why he would call you girl it would be helpful to consider multiple aspects of his body language.

If he only shows one body language signal of attraction then it wouldn’t be very reliable since single body language signals can have many different possible meanings.

Whereas, if he shows multiple body language signals of attraction then it would be much more likely that he calls you girl because he is attracted to you. The same could be said for if he shows many signs of dominating behavior which would suggest he said it as a power-play.

Related

What does it mean when a guy calls you sugar? It could be that he is being flirtatious and that he likes you or he might be trying to be funny, he might say it as a power-play or he might say it in a condescending way.

If you want to learn more about body language, a book I would recommend would be The Definitive Book of Body Language (on Amazon). It shows you how to interpret body language and understand people's true intentions.

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